After reading many posts I almost feel worse...things that are affecting me are viewed as "excuses".. They aren't excuses in my case. I feel awful, embarrassed and ashamedfulling that I am not able to fulfull my husband's needs. Most days I AM running on fumes and am utterly exhausted. My husband and I are both in law enforcement so we both have conflicting schedules, which also leads to lack of adaquate sleep. I actually do have frequent headaches which seem to increase in frequency when I get sressed out.

The other thing that 'could' be partially at fault is the fact that you may not be feeling that sexy. Maybe you are still carrying some extra baby weight, and maybe haven't had time to really fix yourself up or even buy clothes that fit and look good on you. Spoil and pamper yourself a little (in between naps). You may feel a little more frisky if you feel better about yourself. Set up a date night with your husband.

I really think and hope for your sake that it really is just a phase. Hopefully when the baby isn't so demanding you'll be able to get some more sleep. Is there anyone (your mother) etc. that may be able to help and take some stress off? Even if you have to pay for some help, it may really be worth it in the long run. Is your husband helping; could you be resenting him if he's not?

And, I guess I don't really understand this.. but even if you are not in the mood at all, can't you just give in from time to time for your husband? I mean I really, really don't like hockey games, but I've been known to go to them when my husband couldn't find a friend. Sometimes we do things just for the other person even if we don't want to. Is it painful or just god awful, or are you just way too tired....