Other way around he should be doing the giving something meanfull

How about a reference to a good accountant? Generally speaking the IRS doesn't put people thru tax audits for hell unless there is a good reason.

I'll leave the other part alone ..... something about those nurses though, my ex is one........

In response to the accountant remark, its not the IRS, its the state and not an income tax audit. I have paid a CPA $11k to do a forensic audit on me and according to them the state owes me $4k. This state is going after anything they can get so they won't have a shortfall. They hired 49 new auditors for this. It was a sales tax audit. I was told 20 years ago not to tax on vehicles by the DMV because I an not a dealer. They were wrong. I have to pay the sales tax on all the cars I have sold through my business. I have 11 people I know going through the same thing. The reason it has taken 3 years is they kept asking for extensions because they are short handed.

So thanks but no thanks for your smart a$s comments, you have no clue what you are talking about.

Sorry, you have my apologies....it's been my experience through years of working with the IRS as a client and talking to them that most people under audit are grossly evading taxes or altogether not paying them. But of course there are examples where it's not that way, sorry I made that assumption.

But about the nurses....trust me I know what I am talking about there...lol

You are looking for a meaningful Christmas gift - correct?

I suggest giving him a Child's Slate Board (antique or reproduction) Essentially, you are giving him a "do over" for your marriage and giving him another chance. This can symbolize that chance. He has a blank slate to do things right.

Corny as it may sound there is a wonderful quote from Anne of GreenGables that says something like this "tomorrow is always fresh, with no mistakes in it" That slate is fresh and clean - no mistakes.

Just a thought

Id get him a boomerang.This can symbolize that what goes around comes around .sorry I know you wanted genuine ideas for a lovely christmas present for your husband, but on here I dont think you will get it .losing his mother and in a mess with money is a pathtic excuse.I have no ideas what you could buy him to prove you have fogiven him and love him,because thats what you want isnt it?like the first person said it should be the other way round .

Have you thought of renewing your vows?

I do hope for your sake that this is an important Christmas for both of you and not just a one sided reconciliation on your part.

I appreciate the apology and yes...the nurses are a real treat.

I love the slate idea. In fact, I may use it.

What goes around comes around is not the message I'm trying to send. I truly forgive him and am not making excuses. He is in his own hell on that. I don't need to punish him.

As for the vows, we have decided that we will do that on our 30th wedding anniversary, just him, I and our grown children.

Thank you for your suggestions.

ladiauctioneer, you sound like a very special person. Your husband is very fortunate, and I suspect he knows that.

Merry Christmas to you both.

Thank you Suzie, you are very kind. Merry Christmas to you all.

I like "doing things" as a gift.

Like a short holiday to see a different city, countryside etc.

I recently went to Cairns (I live on Australia), the most fantastic thing was poking my head under the water, on the Great Barrier Reef and seeing all that coral, and tropical fish. Wow - and the best gift of all was that I had my hubbie there doing it with me.

Having happy memories is the best king of gift to me.