If I were in your boots, my first thought would be (assuming his drive was better until the affair came to light) that maybe he's actually having sex, just not with me.

If that isn't the case (& you'd likely have some sense of this-if he's never at home, or if he's always at home, etc), then maybe you could consult the counsellor again.

could be he's depressed, or he may be somehow punishing you.

I wish you the best.

Especially given your ages. It's nature's cruel joke that when we approach menopause, our hormone levels go haywire, often resulting in the woman being extremely needy sexually--but that's when our husband's drive is taking a nosedive. It's also around the time when men can start having physical issues that inhibit their ability to perform.

Before you jump to conclusions, get your husband to a dr. for a complete check up. Including, yes, the dreaded prostate exam. It's important to your relationship, and MORE important to his health.

Once he's gotten a clean bill of health, that will be the time to address other potential causes for your current situation. But one step at a time.

Yes. Or maybe unusually frequent. I'm approaching that age and that's about all my body can handle anymore. Never would have believed it when I was younger.

I don't think so, and we are a decade older than you.

Medical condition? Affair? Porn? High level of stress at work or somewhere else (kids/old parents)? Just not attracted to the wife (which would take us back to the "porn" option most likely)? Before I get slammed for this last one, remember we men are visual creatures, and I know men that love their wives to death and would never cheat on them, but just aren't attracted to them sexually anymore....like it or not, it is a reality.

As a normal, "well functioning" 48 year old guy, I would think that there is something going on here. We slow down a bit as we get older, but not to this almost non-existent level.