Getting a little help from your spouse
scarlett2001
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How much does your SO or spouse help out
Comments (24)My husband and I have a good working division/combination of labor where outdoor matters are concerned. I am in charge of the flower beds and he is in charge of the vegetable garden and berries. He helps me when I need help in the flower gardens and I help him when he needs help in the vegetable gardens. He does mow the lawn but I didn't have a fit when he bought a big, bright red riding mower to do it (like a very expensive toy and not justified by our limited lawn area). I used to mow the lawn with an electric push mower, which he hated, so he got the job along with the choice of mower. That's a pretty good example of how we work it out - we both have our opinions and know that it's better if we mark out our territories rather than battle over each point. This way I am proud of his garden and all the wonderful produce (we work together on canning, preserving, and freezing) and he is proud of my flower gardens and enjoys the views from the porch and the deck. He also prepares my containers for wintersowing (using a power saw and a propane torch - more toys!) but then I did teach him the method, which he uses to get his veggies started early. And he likes to encourage my seed starting because he is convinced it saves tons of money at the garden center. Win/win....See MoreYour Spouse: Are they involved in your hostaholism?
Comments (48)Steps onto soapbox. I guess I'll jump in. I'm the gardener. My boyfriend is a Muscle-Head. He loves muscle cars and playing/working on his toys. Plants and gardening he cares not. The only thing he does in the yard is mow the grass, and at times I have to get on him to do it. He doesn't ask much anymore how much I spend on plants, but he rolls his eyes or sighs when I bring home more of them. He's told me not to make more beds, because he hates to mow around them. He prefers our lawn of weeds with a few strands of grass here and there over my flower beds. But...when someone comes over, in particular someone who has never been to our house, he likes to have me (not him) show them around the beds I made. I have no gardening friends (in Michigan, yes, in Ohio, no), nobody I know is into gardening like me, with the exception of my boyfriend's best friend. He'll talk plants and landscaping with me, but then my boyfriend will quickly change the subject onto cars to break our conversation. Sigh. I love my plants even though he doesn't, and I'll work on them by myself if he won't help (which I don't trust him to trample or pull out plants he'll mistake for weeds), and I'll continue to buy more plants and make more beds, whether he likes it or not. And usually, he'll just let me do my own thing, anymore. Steps off soapbox. Karen...See Moredoes your partner/spouse compare your cooking to his/her mothers?
Comments (43)Barnmom, I think you're right but I believe that Bobby's part of the world, there in Florida, may be more progessive than here. LOL Bobby, I don't think that when his mother is gone it will make any difference. Her cooking will just be "better" in retrospect. I would be asking her for her recipes now, if you're on speaking terms, then you can say "but it's your Mom's recipe." Annie...See MoreDo you ever "manage" your spouse?
Comments (29)Hello Beverly Hills Isn't That the way it is? In any relationship or discussion a good, healthy dose of common sense can make things work. Common sense allows for discussion of a matter with both, or all three sides contributing beneficial input. Taking things to an extreme can mess up any relationship or discussion. In any relationship there is a healthy give and take. No husband or wife is always right or sees everything that can be done to make a marriage work. Two personalities brought together requires give and take for the relationship/marriage to develop to it's full potential. this may require some "management" where one is weak and the other is stronger. You apparently are stronger in a given area(s) than your husband and have to "carry him along" to make your marriage work at it's best. To carry it too far would be unhealthy manipulation, taking advantage of him to his hurt, Someone earlier mentioned feminism. In some ways feminism has been beneficial to society in general and marriage in particular. But taken to the extreme feminism creates a combativeness and contention. In a good sense women's role in the home and in society has been recognized and elevated.. Taken too far it has husbands and wives fighting instead of being supportive of each other; creates manipulation instead of a healthy tension or maybe management in an area where it is needed. Well, maybe I'm getting too wordy and besides I'm running out of time....See Morejewelisfabulous
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