In case anyone missed the PBS special The Botany of Desire which premiered Wednesday, October 28, 2009, you can still watch the entire program online. It's incredible. Book turned documentary. BOTANY OF DESIRE is a documentary which tells the utterly original story of everyday plants and the way they have domesticated humankind. An interpretation of the relationship between plants and people. This two-hour documentary explores plant evolution and takes viewers from the potato fields of Peru and Idaho, the apple forests of Kazakhstan, and the tulip markets of Amsterdam. View online in it's entirety: here This is another related program by the same presenter on LINK TV (a cable access channel) which is timely: Deep Agriculture Traditional methods of agriculture in most developed nations have long ignored environmental concerns. Factors such as soil erosion, water shortage and the impact of chemicals on bio-systems have been overlooked in favour of massive crop yields and cheaper food. But what impact does this have on our health and our environment? View online in it's entirety: here __________________________ Sit down with a cup of tea or coffee and witness the evolution of an Organic Kitchen Garden.

Hu? People, people. The only thing we know about this guy is that he is born again, and that he has made "changes" - and that he is unhappy in his relationship. Not big on born agains myself, but it's not like they sacrifice goats or anything. Sheesh. They're just annoying, that's all. How in the world do we assume that the poster fault free, and worthy only of an animal for a partner? More info would be needed to push this OP towards a divorce, in my opinion. Good grief. For all we know, the guy is treated poorly and has turned to a church for peace. We just don't know! Divorce isn't a pat answer for anyone and everyone who is dissatisfied. Marriages aren't meant to be disposable - you have problems, you do what you can to adjust and make your marriage the best! Life IS too short to go running door to door for happiness. Let's get more info before prescribing society's quick fix divorce. Perhaps more info would support divorce, but nothing I see here suggests that at this point.

There are times I am not miserable but those times are fewer and fewer. Tari was his first love, he tried to find her before we started dating and did not. I had always like him and although I dated someone else; I ended it to date him Tari was married a few months before we were. They reconnected at an event the oldest daughter was at and they had lunches and so on but never told either spouse. It all ended up with them getting together one night and him not getting home until 1am; she has meetings one night a week for where she is employeed and her husband works two jobs and probably did not notice she was not home unless he was home alone. I am not to talk to him about it for after he lied the first time the therapist said I would never know the truth. It is just so hard not to think about things when the nights I have to be somewhere with the daughter he has a "work meeting" and then the date changes and so does the time. I just wish I could believe him but that is not going to happen; how do you forget the lies and the pain? If I could forget all the things he has said to me that were mean and so on; I could be happy but how to you rebuild trust when each time he lies again. I know he cannot afford the divorce right now but it is too miserable staying here and hurting. How can he hug me and say he loves me when he does not. I mean why tell someone if this was the case I would have divorced you; I wish we were not together. There are times he says he loves me but again how do you trust? Is there anyone out there who was or is in this same condition and made it through stronger than ever? Is there any hope.

I’m sorry to say, I can’t see any future for this relationship Yeah, I have to agree. Your expectations are unreasonable. I've heard that women marry thinking they can change a man into what they want him to be ... and men marry women thinking they'll never change ... and both groups are wrong. The issue with which you're dealing will never change; he will always be that boy's father. I actually do applaud you, however, for looking a little deeper into your feelings and realizing that what you really want is a partner for yourself with no children Very much so. Right now you have choices. Once you're married -- okay, you still have choices, but they come with much bigger consequences. You’re jealous of a four year old who only sees this “great dad” once every month or two, and you’re asking if this marriage will work? Seriously? Yeah, "great dads" are more involved than that. I'd also question how the ex-wife received full custody -- unless something bad has happened, couples tend to share custody. However, you're wise to recognize and question these feelings. I'm 23 and he's 32 Don't discount the fact that you're still very young, and 9 years age difference is a part of this equation. You still have your 20s ahead of you -- all those exciting firsts in terms of career and home, whereas he's in his "settling down to a routine" years. Having been through both these phases of life, both were wonderful, but I am very glad my husband and I were in the same phase at the same time. We recently got engaged and moved in together ... I'm scared that I'm making the wrong choice here and walking into a lifetime commitment that is stressful. Red flags: You know that living together before marriage increases the chances of divorce later? And people who've already divorced are more likely to divorce again? Added to those unhappy facts, you're concerned about whether you're going in the right direction. These are big red flags. The introspection to which you're subjecting yourself is a good first step -- is this what you really want? I'd say come clean with him -- tell him how you're feeling, tell him you're questioning your choices. I'd move out. Not break up, but move out. It'll be easier to examine your feelings with a little space between you. Once you're SURE, then make a decision -- either go ahead and get married, or say goodbye. I feel like crying and a little hurt every time he talks to his son on the phone. This is a very strong reaction to a small thing. How are you going to react when you're merging your finances and you see a portion of his paycheck going to this child? When you're going back to work when your child is eight weeks old, and you're thinking you could stay home if not for that payment? How about when that child has a first day of school? When he has to decide whether to attend his son's baseball game or your new child's dance recital? When the son's mom's rules don't match your house rules and discipline is hard? When your child gets a car for his 16th birthday and the older son says, "No fair -- why didn't I get one?" When you plan a vacation and the older child doesn't want to go with you and won't say why? These are the things I hear my stepmother-friends talk about, and they're a whole lot more complicated than a phone call. It's also tough to be the child in that situation. Ask yourself truthfully if you empathize with the child -- as his stepmother, you'll have to be able to do that. He said that he never really loved his ex wife and that he was unhappy in their relationship. And you believed that? Do you really think he was so foolish as to marry someone he didn't love (or at least didn't think he loved)? He's telling you what you want to hear -- or you're hearing what you want to hear. You need the truth, whether it's comfortable or not. got herself pregnant Biologically impossible. You're looking to make the other woman the scapegoat, but it takes two to get pregnant. Either -- again -- he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear, or you're hearing what you want to hear.