My husband isn't interested in me but masturbates & watches porn!
lonelyheart
14 years ago
Featured Answer
Comments (61)
asolo
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agolonelyheart
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agoRelated Discussions
Mfather in law asked me to do somthing to my husband
Comments (6)My husband has tried for a divorce twice now, When he returned from the navy I was already diagnosed as a bi polar, the first Time I was put into a mental ward after He came back the state forced him into a guardianship, The only way he can get a divorce is if my mother or sister are willing to take the guardianship, which they are not. I was told when my husband came back he did not care for other people and their feelings, I was told that bumping shift to shift was a rare and very hard occuruance and there had better be a better reason than hating being on a shift to do it. I was told that the company and union had the right to decide where a man had to work no matter how many years he had, This is all the things my father in law told me, His friends felt it was so unfair my husband left and served his country should be able to come back and not start from scratch, When my husband first showed me what his rights were in the contract, I thought it was a book he had printed up, just to show me he was within his rights, I was always bought up the employer had a right to decide everything. So I had trouble understanding how a company with a union worked, His father said he would do anything to get off of 2nd shift. I was pumped full of this for six months. Then when my husband returned one of the first things that I saw within two days of his return was him putting a bump in to go to first shift, and this pretty blond mother crying on his fathers shoulder about how my mean husband was going to cause her to miss out on her daughters life. For many years latter everytime my husband tried to better his position a similar situation would be bought up, I was at a point thinking my husband came back not giving a care about other peoples needs, so I did my best with sex denial to help others, then I watched him not back down to his local union and four men one night and absolutely tear them apart without remorse, There was no attempt at negotiation, there was very loud no I am taking the job, then my husband called them gays, In 2001 that was a big insult, They jumped him, I had never seen my husband use the combat arts training he had, He destroyed four men in under a minute, One was the man that wanted the job This man was the son of a county commissioner. He was fierce, remorseless, the counter attack looked almost designed to inflict maximum damage. After 13 years several of these men still have trouble. But Now I am finding out that my husband was being used by his father as a person to enable everyone else, his father made this statement yesterday, He told my husband. Why was sex so important to you that kept pressuring your wife, After all priests live a full and rich life in service to others, Why could you not be like that, My husband said a short but true statement, That is the life they chose it is not the life I wanted. I served under water for 970 days in three and a half years, I accepted being treated like a prisoner in escape and evasion school, until you sleep two months on a cement floor you don't know haw hard it can be. I was supposed to do less than half that. I have jumped out of perfectly good aircraft, Hung out of the side of a helicopter being drug through trees all in service. So tell me who served the most, That snot nosed jerk you wanted to get the new job, He never served others needs he never served his country, just because his father was your friend. All he ever did was knock up three girlfriends and not even pay child support, The girl that came over and cried on your shoulder about the mean evil military returning man keeping her from her daughter. You should have asked how often she was spending the evening at a sports bar with her boy friend leaving her daughter with her mother, My husband managed to make us feel pretty small. I have known for some time that what was being done to my husband was wrong, but now he wants to bring he pain for the past, .I want a truce. I want to at least talk now. My husband wont agree to anything any one else wants He has been abused and in pain to long, He has not been out of pain on a personal level since the MRSA set into his spine, his immune system is gone, but for a man who was not supposed to get out of a wheel chair, he shows what obstinate really is by walking, His personality wont let him back off now. On the reverse coin we can't back off either, He has not been involve in the family that much for 32 years, Yes it was our fault, but there are not any social skills left, He scares people when he walks past, they fear he might fall, I understand there has to be a middle ground but both sides don't want to go there, most of my father in laws friends are frankly snobs, They wont understand my husbands no booze, no pot, no non prescription drugs, and no firearms rules, His father says its a party they have a right to these things, My husband says if he doesn't need them no one else should in his home. They look down their nose that my husband considers himself a democrat and stand against special privilege for wealth and position, My father I laws fiends are heavy tea party and the conversation turns to politics, he makes then feel like fools most of the time....See Morefeeling abused/used by my husband. is it??
Comments (15)Guess, I'm the odd man out here but I'm seeing this more along the lines of how a guy uses his girlfriend's picture to j.o. Is that all that degrading to his girlfriend even if she doesn't know about it? Bottom line, he's mastubating. He can get up and use computer porn instead like a lot of "normal" guys do, or he can satisfy himself in the shower while thinking of his hot secretary. He can even have an affair if he's not getting enough. There's a lot of ways and things he can use for stimulation or to satisfy his needs. He's using his wife. Obvious, he's not getting enough to satisfy him the normal way. Maybe he doesn't ask, maybe she doesn't give, who knows. Without knowing what their sex life is like, and if she's turning him down or sick or something, it's hard to point fingers too strongly, IMHO....See MoreMy husband lies about watching porn & hasnt been intereated in me
Comments (25)Okay, speaking from personal experience, usually when a guy starts looking at porn it's because they aren't getting certain things they might sexually be interested in or there is a more deep seated issue in the relationship. People also usually only hide things for one of three reasons. 1) They are trying to protect someone they care about but we can pretty safely rule this out since he knows that you know. 2) They are afraid of negative consequences and since you have already likened porn to cheating {which is a bit mental if you ask me} he is likely afraid that admitting he has a fairly natural urge will cause him to lose you. 3) There is some shame in their actions and honestly, I hate to say it because people are going to yell that I'm blaming tyhe victem when I'm not, it's most likely you that's causing him to feel that shame. Your view on porn makes it taboo which is always both tantalizing and shameful. I have to ask this and no you don't have to answer, just think about my questions. 1) Have you ever considered using porn to spice up your love life with him? Consider putting on a porno while you and he are laying in bed together and just see if you can't get him to stand at attention for you. Use the thing you don't necessarily like to get the "thing" you really want. 2) Ever tried looking at what he searches and maybe, if your comfortable with it, incorporate one or two of those things into your love life? If it's something he enjoys then why not enjoy it with him? You both get what you want at that point which shows compromise and compromise is one of the basic building blocks to any relationship. 3) Consider this, if you two do the same thing every time you two get together then isn't it possible he's just a little bored? Not bored of you but bored of the same position you two make love in or even just bored of thesurroundings. Get a babysitter for the night and have a romantic evening to yourselves but don't go home. Rent a hotel room and have fun there. It would help to break him out of the rut that he may feel his life has gotten into. Do not take this as a strike against you, sometimes guys just get tired of the same thing over and over again. Mind you, I stress that you remember these are only suggestions to help you make your marraige stronger and help you grow as a couple. Feel free to ignore my advice as you please but remember that I've been in a position I think might be similar to the one he is in and I'm simply sharing with you what I myself have dealt with personally....See MoreThis isn't really related to my house but....
Comments (18)I think we live in such a toxic world that being cautious about materials in toys, and ingredients in food are so important. I try to buy U.S. made toys and the best food I could possibly find. I even have considered making my cat food and freezing the portions, but unfortunately most of the supplements are made in China nowadays....even people supplements. I'm still looking into it. I had the opportunity to talk with the vet about Thomas a couple of days ago, as I took Bella in to be checked. She is 8 years old and wasn't doing too great after Thomas died. Thank goodness she received a perfect bill of health. She is going through a grieving process as well. She is doing much better now and being snuggly. Basically, the vet said that jaw cancer seems to be more common in dogs, but rare in a cat. There isn't much information as to causes. However, Thomas had some teeth in the past that become infected, and she said that chronic inflammation is a known cancer causer. That poor kitty endured 4 dental surgeries all together to get those bad teeth out, but he was a happy kitty and I'm thankful for the extra time it bought us. At the time, decisions were made with a cat specialist vet to save what looked to be healthy teeth and only take anything out that was infected. In hindsight, maybe taking them ALL out in the beginning may have made a difference. Some cats have teeth issues from day one and when they get them all out do much better. Then again, maybe not. We won't know for sure, and at the time we made the best decisions possible. Unfortunately, jaw bone cancer was something that couldn't be fixed. I am very thankful I have all my other kitties. They are all precious to me, and have been a source of comfort. I have had a hard time sitting at the computer because Thomas would always lie down next to me on the arm of the couch. It has been very, very empty there and it hit me hard a few days ago. The next day one of the kitties parked himself there. Bella came the day after that and satyed with me. There is usually a kitty now when I am on the computer. I am positive that Thomas had something to do with that! Each day gets a little easier...the pain a little less, and the memories bring a smile. There will always be a little ache in my heart though. I miss him. I will always miss him. Sandy...See Moreasolo
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agomaime
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agothermometer
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agotennisshort
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agosweeby
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agoamyfiddler
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agoasolo
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agolonelyheart
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agomaime
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agotracystoke
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agoasolo
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agomaime
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agotracystoke
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agosilversword
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agomaime
14 years agolast modified: 9 years agofoxie224red_yahoo_com
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agoasolo
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agotracystoke
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agopaige_liller_gmail_com
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agodockside_gw
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agomkroopy
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agodomino123
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agopeytonroad
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agoasolo
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agopeytonroad
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agoasolo
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agomkroopy
12 years agolast modified: 9 years agoSimple2706
11 years agolast modified: 9 years agoJolene71
11 years agolast modified: 9 years agoJolene71
11 years agolast modified: 9 years agocolleenoz
11 years agolast modified: 9 years agoMichel555
11 years agolast modified: 9 years agoMichel555
11 years agolast modified: 9 years agobrokenheart1
10 years agolast modified: 9 years agocolleenoz
10 years agolast modified: 9 years agolulay0308
8 years agolast modified: 8 years agocolleenoz
8 years agolulay0308
8 years agocolleenoz
8 years agolulay0308
8 years agoWhitelacey
8 years agoAatira Sreekumar
7 years agolast modified: 7 years agocolleenoz
7 years agoSuzieque
7 years agoMary Pierce
7 years agoMary Pierce
7 years agoFibi artica
6 years agolast modified: 6 years agoIris
4 years ago
Related Stories
DINING ROOMSNew This Week: Proof the Formal Dining Room Isn’t Dead
Could graphic wallpaper, herringbone-patterned floors, wine cellars and fire features save formal dining rooms from extinction?
Full StoryDECORATING GUIDES13 Home Design and Decor Trends to Watch for in 2013
It's predictions ahead as we find out what's on the radar of designers and makers for the coming year
Full StoryKITCHEN OF THE WEEKKitchen of the Week: Coastal Kitchen Honors a Beloved Husband
This Southern California kitchen makeover includes a touching story of a couple who faced a much bigger challenge during their remodel
Full StoryTHE HARDWORKING HOME8 Laundry Room Ideas to Watch For This Year
The Hardworking Home: A look at the most popular laundry photos in 2014 hints that dog beds, drying racks and stackable units will be key
Full StoryMOST POPULARTrend Watch: 13 Kitchen Looks Expected to Be Big in 2015
3 designers share their thoughts on what looks, finishes and design elements will be on trend in the year ahead
Full StoryGARDENING FOR BUTTERFLIESA Quick-Start Guide to Bird-Watching for Fun and Learning
Set out some seed and grab your field guide. Bird-watching is an easy, entertaining and educational activity for the whole family
Full StoryKITCHEN DESIGNKitchen Confidential: 9 Trends to Watch for in 2016
Two top interior designers share their predictions for the coming year
Full StoryPETSHouzz TV: Watch These Rescued Cats Make a House Their Playland
Spirals, catwalks, tunnels and platforms create a superhighway inside this home in Southern California
Full StoryBUDGET DECORATINGPop Culture Watch: Get a Good Rap With Thrift Store Scores
Eight rooms that rock secondhand finds, in an ideabook inspired by rappers taking YouTube by storm
Full Story
amyfiddler