Find some things to do that you really love that you wouldn't necessarily do while your DH was around. My husband leaves every summer for the whole summer (6 months) and is out for up to a month at a time with no email or telephone contact. We see eachother about once every three months for a few days each time. It's not easy. There will be good days and terrible days. There will be days that you are so proud of all you've achieved on your own and days you feel you will feel overwhelmed by your aloneness. Lean on your friends and family. Get involved with a new project you simply wouldn't have the time to do if your husband were there with you. Take good care of yourself (this one's important). Though I hate it when my husband is gone, I have started to really love having my girlfriends over for dinner parties whenever I want, destroying the living room with arts and crafts projects (including the glitter my husband can't stand), and doing silly dance workout videos with no fear of teasing! Whatever you do, I think it's important to remain connected to your spouse. Be proud of your ability to maintain your life on your own. Try not to feel sorry for yourself. Do your best to stay positive during your interactions. Fighting, anger and resentment are pure poison. Let your spouse know that you miss him, but you are okay. Men worry about their wives and want to make sure we are safe and comfortable. Reassure him you are. Like I said, it's not easy. Though I'll admit to calling my mom on occasion and having a full-on cry fest, I'll also admit to having great moments of strength and accomplishment. Who knew fixing a toilet or installing a new light fixture could be so empowering! Hang in there and know he's doing this for you, he'll need support too. Share what help get you through the day and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!

Well, I am happy to hear support for grad school. I finished my MA and will hopefully wrap up my PhD in a year or two. I am in the middle of it and can't just drop it. Trust me in that I considered postponing it because it is not what makes me most happy. My husband would not even let me do such a thing. He is my biggest supporter and cheerleader when it concerns getting my higher education and he sees how difficult it is to achieve it. I support him moving away to further his work experience and career because those are his opportunities and dreams and goals and they are just as important as mine. And at times it is difficult to support each others career goals when it conflicts with our personal one's (living together). I think the two of us would never want either of us to sacrifice our dreams and get a dead end job to help the other. We will always try and find a place where we can both work and do what we love. I like the quote "life is what happens when we're making other plans". That is the whole point I guess. We made plans to get married, we had planned on continuing work in the same city, we had planned for finishing my degree by 2008. So we did get married, and I am finishing my degree, and he is working but not in my home city. 2/3 isn't too bad I guess. Its great to know many of you had time apart from your spouses (including to finish education) and you made it!! It is very encouraging. Thanks

if you mean the search for her relatives on the who are you show, they generally always only search one family line it is all they really have time for and if her family was all in that area that may be all she wished to do. And it showed her and her husband a few times in the show so yes she was married this was filmed not long ago. She has been losing weight since her diabetes diagnosis. I thought it was great that she went back to the old homestead, I would not be surprised if she buys that land, it was a very pretty area. Where she met up with her boys at the end was just beautiful with the waves lapping up and the moss dripping from the big oak trees. My kinda place.

Hi, I'd like to see if we can resuscitate this thread. I'd love to share thoughts with others in LDRs. Lynn45, I'm in a similar situation to yours. I'm older too, 50, and my boyfriend is 49. We've been in a LDR for 6 months and have known each other as friends for 10 years, though we lived in different cities most of this time. We live 200 miles away. We were fond friends and then realized we had deeper feelings back around Christmastime even though he likes to say he's tried to make me his girlfriend for 10 years! Anyway, we see each other 1-2 times a month, most months. When we see each other it's usually for 5 or 6 days, so that's good. This past month we only saw each other for 3 days and one of those days we had a pretty serious argument, so that wasn't a great way to spend this month. We talk on the phone a couple times a week but it's for long stretches, often 3 or 4 hours. In the meantime we email occasionally. I'm starting to feel that this isn't enough for me, though. I can't move now due to family obligations, and he loves where he lives, so I don't see us being in the same city any time soon. Sometimes I wonder if this can really work. I didn't want to get into a LDR as I'd been in them before, but he's such a great person and we have so much in common. He says he loves me and believes in commitment but says he's leery of marriage, but hasn't ruled it out. He's said he's committed to me and to our relationship and wants this to be "for keeps." I don't think we're quite ready to live together or make any marriage type decisions right now. I am fine with that as long as we can continue having a good relationship. My worry is that the distance will prevent us from being as close as we could be or could leave me feeling emotionally distant. Any arguments or disagreements we've had so far have just brought us closer together with greater understanding, so I do think we're on the right track. I'm just sometimes wanting, almost needing, to be with him when we're not together, and that's hard. Anybody else?