End of that story.

Second marriage happened five years later. Within a few weeks of that marriage, I feared that I'd made a mistake. I mean, I was *terrified*. He and I seemed to have one problem after another and all the adjustments and compromising were wearing me down to a nub.

And in retrospect, I think that after one failed marriage, you get a little gun-shy.

And then about a year into it, my daughter made me a grandmother. And when we went out to visit the new baby (in Illinois), I saw my husband with the new baby. Watching him with this child touched me to tears. And that's when all that fear just melted away like fog in the morning sunlight. It was then that I knew that I had not made a mistake. I picked a keeper. :)

I mean, look at this:

Yeah you are right you do have a keeper.Good luck on your marriage and congratulations on the beautiful new baby.Thanks for posting a beautiful story.

You got yourself a keeper there Rosemary ;-)

on the other hand I have pics of my exhusband with DD, and it is really touching, and he looks very much in love wiht his baby. but that's how he is, he is very involved with his children and is sincerelly affectionate and loving father (was not a good husband though -very inconsiderate).

My dad is loving dad and grandpa, and generally is a good man but he is a very very diffcult person and is a very difficult husband. my mom deserves a medal. I wouldn't be able to live wiht my dad for a day let alone whole life. I know some more men who are great fathers or grandfathers but aren't very good husbands.

Rosemary, thank you for sharing your story. It was uplifting to me, and I "get" that it's not about a photograph. It was about a moment of clarity after struggling with trust issues resulting from being hurt before.

Just so happens that your clarity was archived by a photograph, and you chose to share it with us. Thank you for that -

Amy

There are so many ill-behaved men in the world that I thought I'd share the happy news that there are a few good guys out there. :)

Rose

And congratulations, too, on being open to having that moment of clarity when you saw him with the baby. Many are so afraid and "gun shy" that even when the truth is staring us in the face we still focus on the flaws and grab at any reason to head for the hills. Marriage is a commitment and a challenge and even in the best ones there are days you want to tear out your hair but focussing on the good and letting the irritating go is the only recipe for happiness I know.

It's a lovely picture. Thanks for sharing. (By the way, he's cute, too! Lucky you!)