Here is the problem, you cannot prove anything. It is her word against your word. What has to be done, and it will probably take intervention with a counselor..friend, priest/pastaor, professional counselor...is for you and your wife to work this out and for her to gain that trust back in you. If she gains the trust back, then she can begin to back you up with her sisters. And I say if because it is up to her to begin trusting you. SOmetimes when trust is broken (honestly or because of a lie), it cannot be repaired unless the other party wants it repaired. It will take lots of work on both sides becaue there are probably underlying issues. Good luck, and be willing to work hard. You may have done nothing wrong, but she sees it as you did. The sad truth is too that you may never win this one and may have to give up and admit defeat.

Vickey-MN

My honest opinion? Unless the sister is bringing up charges against you, I would let the whole thing drop. Just tell her "Believe what you want, I'm innocent and I'm not talking about it anymore." And don't. It sounds like your wife believes you, and that is the important thing.

If there are legal charges, then you need a good lawyer, not a message board.

I gotta say your story was a little hard to for me to read; I'm a little confused at who is who so I'm not sure I got it right.

Originally, you were only blamed for kissing your wife's sister. Then it advanced to another more serious molestation charge (what exactly do you mean by molestation) that supposedly happened when your wife was home and saw you in her sis's room when sleepwalking.

And, then, there is another sister whose husband was accused of molesting this sister also, but these accusations have been dropped, and everyone involved is now acting like there was never even an accusation? I'd be a little mad at them for not sticking up for you if they see/know what is going on.

Either you are really messed up, or her family is. Granted, I don't know you, but your wife should, and she should know her sisters. Past history should help serve as your best defense. If you haven't ever made any passes at other women, if she knows you sleepwalk, and if she knows anything about her sister, I would bet your wife would believe you.

I wonder if you would offer to pay for lie detector tests for everyone what the response would be...

Tell the family you're going to apply to the Dr. Phil show in order to clear up this mess. Let them know polygraph tests will probably be involved and you're not afraid to take one. That may shut everybody up and they'll stop the accusations (maybe).

You and your wife's sister are the only ones that know the truth of it. The way it will come down is people will choose sides over it -- which is exactly what they should do. You'll learn very quickly who your friends are. Get the rest out of your life. There's no middle ground with an issue like this.

This is one of the most disturbing posts I've ever read here - in fact, it's been haunting me since it first appeared. I don't know which is worse -- the idea that you molested your wife's sister, or the idea that you didn't and she claims you did. Either way, it's a horrible, awful mess. For what it's worth, I find it very hard to believe that a young woman who behaves anywhere near appropriately would have been molested by 2 of her 3 brothers-in-law...

Of course, there's no way to prove either side of the story, since there wouldn't have been any witnesses. So it all boils down to a question of character, history and reputation. If your character is above reproach, your story should be believed (though perhaps quietly, since it's likely D is emotional, dramatic and vocal) and this should all blow over in a few months. If your character hasn't always been above reproach, let this situation serve as a warning that you need to monitor your behavior a little more carefully, and that in the future, you should not to let D get within 10 feet of you.

Without knowing any of the parties involved, I would have a tendency to believe that there was some truth to each side, with exaggerations and distortions likely on both sides.

I'm still wondering what your/her definition of "molesting her" involves. Did you supposedly make a pass at her, was your robe open, or did you try to rape her?

And, making her watch dirty movies-- How could you make her watch movies unless you kidnapped her or something? I'm still just not really understanding what went on.

I know you said you didn't kiss her...but have you ever tried to, or flirted with her? Are you generally a flirt by nature that she could have misunderstood something? And, how often do you sleepwalk?

Thanx all of you who are commenting on this and especially sweeby . Now my question is should i along with my wife go at her parents place and meet her and her parents and try to clear up the mess....I havent met her since this issue raised...Please comment .Your feedback will help me keep going

If you were planning to go before this whole mess errupted, or if your absence would be unusual and easily tied to this situation, then definitely go.

Go and be kind, polite, dignified, discrete and careful. Good luck to you --

Well, considering you haven't answered my questions, I don't really know what to think.

If sweeby was right with her comment "I would have a tendency to believe that there was some truth to each side, with exaggerations and distortions likely on both sides" ...and your are admitting you did do somethings, then maybe I would go and try to resolve everything.

But, if you are 100% innocent, and the SIL is totally making up everything, then I don't think you or your wife should be going anywhere this year where your SIL may be. If you need to talk to her parents about it..then do so separately and not on a Holiday. (I have to say, I couldn't tell from your post if the SIL was going to be present today, but it sounded like she may be --I take it the "she" in your post was your SIL and not your Wife -- hopefully you have seen your wife since thei all blew up).

Thanx carla and all for comments.
Firstly both of us used to talk a lot with each other whenever she visited my place.She used to sit in my bedroom most of time and we talked a lot about just pretty things and nothing serious.Once we also went for shopping together on my bike .

what i am thinking precisely is to go at her parents house,call her there and talk with her about this mess along with my wife and see why she is behaving like this..like why she not resisted why i kissed her..why she kepy mum all the time and erupting volcano at time of marriage only ... and so on .and still if she says what she is saying now i will question her in front of her parents... and let them decide who is right and who is wrong....

Wait - now I'm very confused (as opposed to just confused!). In your original post you said you'd not ever kissed D.

But in your most recent post you said you are thinking that you'll talk to her about things, including "why she not resisted why (I assume you meant "when") I kissed her".

So you DID kiss her and she didn't resist? Did you do other things? I'm just having trouble figuring out whether you're saying that you did things and don't know why she's bringing them up now or whether you didn't and don't know why she's saying you did.

I know you're just looking for advice about whether you should discuss it. My advice is that if you do, you should make sure you're very, very clear about what did or didn't happen. It's not clear here (at least to me), so I hope you can be clearer in person.

Good luck!