"Trying to guess is nearly impossible. " Agreed -- So ask her! We have a child with special needs, so going out is harder for us than for most. But we do have regular 'date nights' at home where we feed the kids early, put them to bed, then have a special dinner and watch a movie - just the two of us. Those times are really special, not so much for the sex, but for the closeness and connection we are able to maintain just by setting aside that special time. After the movie (Sorry guys - it needs to be a light-hearted romantic comedy; Shoot-em-ups don't inspire desire.) we always end up talking for hours. Talking about our family, our relationship, nothing in particular. This would be the time to have a productive discussion with your wife about how beautiful she is and how you always want her - but that you know that it isn't always a good time. And how to communicate your interest to her in a way that doesn't annoy her - because then your feelings get hurt (which she doesn't want). She may not be able to answer right away (unless she's been thinking about it!) -- So ask her to give it some thought, because your intimate romantic relationship (hint: those are good words to use with a woman) is so important to you and your marriage. It'll probably take a while to get it right -- it did with us -- but the results are worth it!

I am having the same problem , i know my husband for 7 years but married a year and half my son was 7 when we met, he decided to call him daddy but he was okay and he started treating my son badly, i left in 2019 for him to get help, he did and we got married in 2020 he was good to my son in the entire 2020 till our marriage in dec 2020 my son got on very well with him then we moved into a house he bought and then the nonsense started he shows no love and reprimands my son all the time and we have to walk on egg shells with him, he treats my son badly and says i dont shout at my son or reprimands him which i always do and give him the rope to discipline him, but nothing my son does or say is right in his eyes, i left in may 2022 and he still is picking on my son ,but even he did go for counselling but nothing has changed i cannot expose my son to this, because i choose my son all the time, and i will always, my son is 12 now, and he does not want to ever see my husband again and he said he will never ever call him dad he has damaged my child and therefore i will never go back, he is toxic and a narcissist, he has uprooted my son and my life so many times and i have had enough and i am done, i love my child too much to allow him to treat him this way, i love my husband as well, but at the end what is the sense in having a house but not a home.My son is my life and i will not allow anyone to treat him that way, i dont deny my son does things and is naughty as well, but to be treated like you always wrong is not on, my son talked about suicide as well, so that we can be happy and that pushed me over the edge,i wont lose my child to a man, i also have cancer and he is the one that is aggravating my cancer because i stress so much what is he doing to my son, we are emotionally abused by this man, he walked away from 2 marriages because of the children and by the way it way his own so there is no way he will tolerate mine. any advise for me

Honey, please look very strongly at this man. I too was in the same boat several years ago. Re married, step children both sides. I had a son, he a son. It was rocky from the get go but I stayed stong. I knew he loved me, but both children were artists at stirring things up. Mine was no angel as I found out later. That was where I believe he started drifting away. I went to others for advice and got the same thing. He's no good, he's having an affair. Bottom line, get rid of him. Well, I never had that chance. He died several months later. He never complained about illnesses. He did get dizzy and sometimes would pass out. In those days doctors dismissed it as he was drinking and smoking too much. Problem was he hardly drank but every now and then he would tie one on and never smoked. at the funeral his very close (single)friends paid their respects. One that I was also very close to I pulled aside and had to ask if he knew of my husband having an affair. In no uncertain terms he stated no way. He did like to look and flirt as you put it but while they were out all he talked about was me and the kids. But he also felt that he was not part of the family that I brought into the marriage. He said that I spent alot of my time treating my son like an adult while brushing my husband off to the side, My parents were domineering and like to controll things. My son ran to them if he looked sideways at him. Of course, I had to hear about it. He also stated that he thought my husband had been sick and in alot of pain for some time because he did see him go through changes. He would tell them about his pain but did not want to worry me. His joking around came less and less. His mind was always racing thouugh all kinds of things going on. They joked that it was my nagging causing this and wrote it off as such. While cleaning out his things i came upon some things. He was always trying to make things better for me and the kids. He was working more hours, taking odd jobs around town, he was pawning and selling some of his things that i knew at least he held dear at one time. This was all found through receipts and notes. He had planned a getaway with the family. It was all there in black and white. All this through what I found even later what must have been excruciating pain. I;m not going to bore you with more. I found notes and cards to me that he never gave me. They would go on and on about how much he loved me, his hapiness with me, his fears of the future. He had always had a hard time saying his thoughts. These letters were poetry. I do want you to get one thing out of my mistake. You know this man more than any of us do. At least I would hope. Take a good look into his soul. I knew what was in my husbands soul because that was why I married him faults and all. He loved God, his family, and his friends. Yes he drank every now and then and would overdo it the same as yours. He was a flirt and I knew it. He flirted with everyone young and old, pretty and not so pretty. That was part of his charm. Again, that was a reason why i married him. Everyone loved him. That church was packed. Now all I have are the lovely memories of him and the one nightmare that wakes me up often. I listened to others that did not know him the way I did. You get a second chance to look through your eyes and heart and not through others.

Thanks to everyone for helping out. :) plllog... the only thing being paneled is a single dishdrawer (small kitchen!). I do have a 36" 2-drawer base which would preferably have a single wide pull instead of two pulls on each drawer. blfenton... I'm liking the Revitalize a lot. Thanks for the Lee Vally endorsement; it seems like a well-liked company at GW. dianalo and breezy... Hi! Gosh I am really starting to kick myself about not getting a chrome faucet. I drove my husband nuts right up until he installed this one! I am happy enough with the faucet considering it is a budget-friendly one. But it doesn't come in chrome. breezy... I've read several of your posts elsewhere, and you're one of the reasons I've been second-guessing chrome! (I mean that in a complementary way!) But I am a little confused about your choice of Westerly since it only comes in satin nickel and graphite. traceee... thanks so much for the tip! I will definitely look into that site. I like the matching round Westerly knob, too. The one that matches the #4 pull wouldn't look right in my kitchen, so this is a good suggestion. celine... I didn't know about polished nickel until recently. You're right; it IS so pretty and warm. And I didn't realize you are so close to being done! It's going to be beautiful, can't wait! artemis78... how nice to see you! :) Have you posted finished pics yet or did I miss them?! I love the glimpses I've seen. Thanks for the Rejuvenation idea; that's a really nice pull, too. You make me wish I had gone shiny! lazydaisynot... at first, it seemed like this was going to be an easy vote of #4, but you are right about the Westerly and Revitalize each being really nice. p.s. to shanghaimom... your kitchen is gorgeous! Thanks all!