Husband wants a divorce
hotmama91
11 years ago
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Comments (9)Do you have children? If so, in what age bracket? As you ponder all of this, if you have children, you must consider the impact of this decision for yourself AND your children, both now, and in the years ahead before they are on their own. Spend some time on the step family forum. In fact, I would read it in its entirety some evening. Because if you decide to move on (and who could blame you) if you have children, and he remarries someone else, who may or may not have children themselves, you must look at the bigger picture as a new spouse would now be involved in parenting and raising your children. This person may or may not have values that are similar to your own. Their presence will have an impact on your kids lives (if you have kids). It may be easier having him present as you get kids through their teenage years, if you are a parent. Tough stuff, indeed. So I imagine that you need to take this all into consideration and you ponder what you should do now. I wish you the best....See MoreNeed some advice..a year in and i want divorce.
Comments (8)It sounds like really, you were not ready to jump right into marriage. That you hadn't finished growing up and exploring life independently as an adult. And at 24, that's hardly surprising. That might be a way to initiate the conversation. It's kind of a variation on the "it's not you - it's me" theme, but it's probably very true. And it may be exactly what your wife is going through also. Each of you grew in your own directions during college -- which is good and right and part of why you go to college. But you grew in different directions. You grew apart. And the choice you're looking at now is to stop growing so you don't grow even further apart -- or to go your separate ways. There's a good argument for ending things sooner rather than later -- to preserve the friendhsip, love and respect you have left....See MoreA new development
Comments (52)Why can't you take them with you? What will become of them if you leave them with your husband. They depend upon you, too, to do the right thing. You already posted about a new guy you are interested in and indicated forging a relationship with him. Hopefully your last post means that you have decided against that. Hopefully you're not saying that just to appease those of us here who spoke against it....See Moreyellows, creams, tans oh my!!!!
Comments (11)For some reason I can't find SW Tavern Tan, wondering if it's an older color? Anyway, the problem is metamerism. You say that Tavern Tan looks consistenly bright yellow "on other walls", yet there are two other individual walls where it changes dramatically and looks like completely different colors on each. Simple definition of metamerism is objects (or walls in this case) match in one light source but do not match or do not appear to the assessor (you) with reasonable consistency in another exposure of light. It would seem that the colorants in Tavern Tan and the other colors you have tried add up to a color that inconsistently or clumsily deals with the inherent lighting of your foyer. A room is three dimensional. One directional exposure of light enters the room through an odd collection of different sized squares and rectangles and sometimes other shapes a.k.a. windows and doors. And just maybe the room is exposed multi-directionally. Windows and doors face more than one geographic direction so it gets even more complicated -- the inherent natural light that enters the room is not evenly balanced across the visible spectrum. You can't change or manage that *down* to anything less than what it is. The light is the light and it's boss. It decides how a paint color is going to react, merge, mesh, and amalgamate with everything in and about that space -- the light more than anything else defines a space. One of the pitfalls of color by committee is then what is called "observer metamerism". You're seeing these big swings of color differences wall to wall and its affecting the way you feel about the room, how you function in it. Others whom you may ask may not have the same level of sensitivity, the same accute color vision that you have. In other words, they may not see it at all, or as dramatically, and don't understand what you're talking about. That doesn't make what you are experiencing any less real though. I understand what it is you are experiencing and I know how frustrating it is. To *correct* this 3D form of metamerism you can either adjust the light source so it's more even and balanced or you can change something about how you're coloring the space. Adjusting the light source really isn't feasible unless you live in a Lego house. Alternative methods of coloring are out there and they can often be the solution to rooms with challenging and complex natural light. Full spectrum paint colors would be the first thing I'd check out in that space. Regular paint colors are put together differently than FS. FS purposely is built from the inside out with multiple colorants, that's where "full spectrum" comes from. Hit complex light with complex color. Fight fire with fire. Here is a link that might be useful: Full Spectrum Paints...See Morehotmama91
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