Husband wants a divorce
hotmama91
11 years ago
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Comments (19)Hu? People, people. The only thing we know about this guy is that he is born again, and that he has made "changes" - and that he is unhappy in his relationship. Not big on born agains myself, but it's not like they sacrifice goats or anything. Sheesh. They're just annoying, that's all. How in the world do we assume that the poster fault free, and worthy only of an animal for a partner? More info would be needed to push this OP towards a divorce, in my opinion. Good grief. For all we know, the guy is treated poorly and has turned to a church for peace. We just don't know! Divorce isn't a pat answer for anyone and everyone who is dissatisfied. Marriages aren't meant to be disposable - you have problems, you do what you can to adjust and make your marriage the best! Life IS too short to go running door to door for happiness. Let's get more info before prescribing society's quick fix divorce. Perhaps more info would support divorce, but nothing I see here suggests that at this point....See Moreyellows, creams, tans oh my!!!!
Comments (11)For some reason I can't find SW Tavern Tan, wondering if it's an older color? Anyway, the problem is metamerism. You say that Tavern Tan looks consistenly bright yellow "on other walls", yet there are two other individual walls where it changes dramatically and looks like completely different colors on each. Simple definition of metamerism is objects (or walls in this case) match in one light source but do not match or do not appear to the assessor (you) with reasonable consistency in another exposure of light. It would seem that the colorants in Tavern Tan and the other colors you have tried add up to a color that inconsistently or clumsily deals with the inherent lighting of your foyer. A room is three dimensional. One directional exposure of light enters the room through an odd collection of different sized squares and rectangles and sometimes other shapes a.k.a. windows and doors. And just maybe the room is exposed multi-directionally. Windows and doors face more than one geographic direction so it gets even more complicated -- the inherent natural light that enters the room is not evenly balanced across the visible spectrum. You can't change or manage that *down* to anything less than what it is. The light is the light and it's boss. It decides how a paint color is going to react, merge, mesh, and amalgamate with everything in and about that space -- the light more than anything else defines a space. One of the pitfalls of color by committee is then what is called "observer metamerism". You're seeing these big swings of color differences wall to wall and its affecting the way you feel about the room, how you function in it. Others whom you may ask may not have the same level of sensitivity, the same accute color vision that you have. In other words, they may not see it at all, or as dramatically, and don't understand what you're talking about. That doesn't make what you are experiencing any less real though. I understand what it is you are experiencing and I know how frustrating it is. To *correct* this 3D form of metamerism you can either adjust the light source so it's more even and balanced or you can change something about how you're coloring the space. Adjusting the light source really isn't feasible unless you live in a Lego house. Alternative methods of coloring are out there and they can often be the solution to rooms with challenging and complex natural light. Full spectrum paint colors would be the first thing I'd check out in that space. Regular paint colors are put together differently than FS. FS purposely is built from the inside out with multiple colorants, that's where "full spectrum" comes from. Hit complex light with complex color. Fight fire with fire. Here is a link that might be useful: Full Spectrum Paints...See MoreQuestion about buying from divorcing/divorced couple
Comments (21)Thanks for sharing your numbers Jane NY. I really didn't understand why the other realtor seemed offended because I thought our offer was a good starting place! That realtor actually apologized to my realtor for the way she reacted, so that's good at least. Congrats on your purchase! Brickeye you are right that zillow can be inaccurate - they had their zestimate of our current house at $290k about a year ago and now it's at $159k with no explanation. However, they do have our tax assessment and taxes paid listed correctly. Zillow is also a good place to find out how long houses have been on the market and how many times they have been re-listed. Their zestimates mean nothing to me though. At this point I'm almost glad they didn't accept our offer because I'm so excited about the possibility of getting this unfinished house with the great view of the city and river. However, if we can't make a deal on this new house I will go back and put our final offer in writing on the first house. Thanks again to all of you for your input. Kind of makes me wary of buying from a divorcing couple!...See MoreSick, sad, weird, divorce......Don't want to offend anyone!
Comments (21)SAD.........Yes Divorce is sad in most instances, especially after so many years. A divorce is better than living in fear or being abused any longer. SICK.........Nudity isn't necessarily sick. He's an adult. Its his camera his cabin and he hasn't broken any laws by having nude pictures of himself. WEIRD 1......I'm not sure what an attorney would mean by "ammunition for support". A good attorney knows Alimony/ is determined by how much one spouse supported the other during the marriage and if there is a hindrance to the spouse who is seeking support from working and supporting self at the same level of lifestyle. Child support is determined by who has primary custody and how old the children are. Any children over 18 are not eligible unless there is some previous agreement such as continuing education and housing costs for students. Both Alimony and child support amounts are totally up to the judge how much and how it is paid. Trying to use as ammo or blackmail with, deleted pictures???? Sounds like the attorney is not an ethical person. WEIRD 2.........Yeah a little. I'm surprised she asked to borrow his camera. While going though with what appears to be an ugly divorce, then borrow a camera like he is a good friend. Obviously it only takes a few minutes to download pics from a digi cam to a computer so why the immediate need to borrow another camera? Oh well one woman's life up for scrutiny based on a few sentences on the web is better than anything on TV tonight. LIL...See Morehotmama91
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