Leaves look like severe rose slug damage... Rose Slugs can be found mostly on the underside of rose leaves. (But not always) If you can't find any on your leaves then good insects ate them or they only had one generation and are gone already for the year... You can pick them off and squish them or try to hose them off... Safers insecticidal soap works if needed... Follow directions... Here's closeup pics of severe rose slug damage: Rose slug located by my thumb...

From what i have read, yes there are plenty of issues with the ex-wife, and now the SD, but the one thing that sticks out is actually the husband. I don't want to offend... but he sounds a bit spineless. It's not really want you want to think about the person you love, but his ex behaves the way she does and he allows it. He caves in, he gives her what she wants, and the daughter has learned this behavior as well. She knows that it doesn't matter how she acts, she can guilt trip him into getting whatever she wants. She also knows that he does not require her to show respect to you. In truth, he is not showing respect to you to require you to endure poor treatment. (i could be wrong, maybe he gets upset at her when she acts poorly to you) this is just what i can see based on the comments you have made. This is also the most difficult position to be in, because you can't make him stand his ground and change some of the boundaries and respect issues happening. It's something only he can do, and because he hasnt, and doesn't, you keep getting hurt by it all. The guys are usually afraid that if they don't give their ex whatever she wants, that she will make a big fuss and cause problems and drama and keep him from seeing his children. But, this child is an adult now. He really doesn't have to put up with any of this unless HE WANTS TO. Your husband is choosing to let the situation hurt you, to avoid having to take a deep breath and be the bad guy and tell both his ex-wife and daughter that this situation is not ok. If he had done this much sooner, you might not be dealing with a SD who has a lot of issues now. He helped teach her how to behave like her mother. He allowed the mother to treat him and you the way she does. Ex's will ALWAYS cause problems at some point or another. It's human nature and part of the grieving process when a relationship breaks. But not setting correct boundaries, and your husband not showing YOU the respect he should have is what has created this nightmare that does not seem to have gotten better despite 14 years of marriage. After all this time, he is still answering all of her phone calls. Why should she stop calling? She knows he will answer. Why should she stop guilt tripping him about his daughter? She knows he will do whatever she asks him to. There is no reason whatsoever for this ex, and now this daughter to behave any differently than they are. Why should they? They are getting what they want. And, it is your husband who is allowing it. The problem is not really the ex, and not really the SD. For women, it seems to be much easier to set those boundaries, to enforce them, and to insist that our ex shows respect to us and to our new partners. Most often i hear from ex-wives who say that they do not have these problems with their ex-husband. maybe because they had no problem moving on? Unfortunately, I don't have any advice on how to get your husband to stand up for you and your new family together, and you two as a couple. If i knew those answers I wouldn't be in a similar situation. They have to want it themselves. Maybe you are TOO understanding, TOO considerate, and TOO willing to put up with it? You will not change the ex, or the SD, but your husband is married to you and loves you and he has built a life with you. You do have a right to ask him to do something about his own behavior.

Since you're sure, if it were only the one plant, I would wash them off with a hose. "Usually", spider mites aren't a problem outside, but they certainly can be sometimes. A few drops of dish soap in a spray bottle will work wonders, and you can get it between those tight little leaves. If you've got an infestation going on, I'm with Lisa and Laura about the Bayer 3 in 1. As far as the other plant with leaf probs, I would clip off those older ugly ones, check the moisture of your soil (are you overwatering or underwatering?) and just give it a chance to grow more and see if the problem doesn't correct its self.

I had some that looked like that too, using the same soil, miracle grow...what I did to remedy it was , plant them in the soil,dig a trench around the plant in the soil, sprinkled some 10 10 10, watered copiously, then sprayed the leaves with epsom salts. Right or wrong, it straightened out the plants in about two weeks time. Good luck. They are the sick little looking peppers one on either side of that piece of wood. They are now healthier looking.