| Trying to not be too female, I would be upset and angry too. It appears that he is disregarding your feelings. It's one thing to eat together, but the phone business is bull. She can get her own phone, she's not helpless, or blind, or handicap, she has a job, and supposedly a mind to figure out how to buy one. I worked in an all male environment for 15 years, while I was a paramedic, I was the only female ever hired full-time. You get close to your co-workers, because you go through so much together. However, socialization between single and married were not alone, we always socialized as a group. Those of us who were single, did things alone. Although, it was strictly platonic. It's difficult enough for spouses to deal with being with the oposite sex on a regular basis, it's unfair to make it that much more distressing by having too close a relationship with a co-worker. Meals together are one thing, but if he wants weekend outtings, let him fly you to where he is and spend time with the woman who is devoted to him. I'd make an unexpected visit on this one. Yes, I am suspicious, I had an unfaithful husband that I was devoted to. I put cameras in my living room, and caught him leaving for the night! (while I was away for training)plus other things, viagra missing, soiled shorts, suddenly stopped having sex with me, he still claims innocence, certainly he would. In any event, he should not have gotten her a phone, that's personal and the relationship should be of a professional nature. it sounds like there may be more to this story. If not, tell him he needs to put more distance between him and this woman, and stop catering to her requests. No attempts, just do it. Compromise, he can certainly have meals with his co-workers, but limited socializing. No favors! how would he feel if you started socializing with men while he was away? I'd be angry, he has male co-workers, tell him to take in a game, fish, bowl, whatever, but include others in the weekend plans. Good luck. |
