Husband jealous of career
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Comments (21)Nice pictures gorgi! I'm assuming that is your brother in the picture? He has a nice fig-eatin' grin on his face....I would too! What kind of figs are those? They're huge! And thanks for the picture-adding instructions! I should've known better, I already do that with my myspace page. For whatever reason, I thought there was a special feature on this forum where I could upload shots. No biggie! :) I've teeny-tiny little figlets popping out, so in about another week or so, I'll snap some shots and show everyone. ~ Erin...See MoreJealous? Who, me? Am I?
Comments (9)What would you do if he was in another profession dominated by members of your sex....like nursing, for example? As with flight attendants, the close association is impossible to avoid. The flight attendant job has the additional twist of having him at a distance, also, but the idea's the same. Unless you demand that he change jobs, you'd better get straight about this. Close association socially and professionally will be part of his life -- and yours. Your job is to be a such a wonderful wife and mother, that any temptation -- which I think is what you're worried about -- can be easily resisted. Being b..tchy about it won't help. This business of turning off your phone was pretty stupid. Do you have a good man or not? If you do, don't play these stupid games with him. Feigned jealousy can be cute from time to time. Real jealousy -- such as you've just described in yourself -- is poison. No reason you can't discuss this frankly and openly but it appears to me from your description that this personal characteristic of yours is causing you -- and him -- more grief than it should. Unless you're already dealing with a history of infidelity or suspicious acts, I suspect you may be about to cause them by your own behavior....See MoreJealous of my stepson
Comments (7)Ok.. since everyone else has completely beat you down i have to put my two cents in. i understand how you feel and i understand that you can't control how you feel in your heart. My boyfriend has two girls and they really like me.. i know i'm lucky considering what other women go through and the horror stories on here. i will admit i favor one of the girls over the other. One is easy going (kid A)and the other is in constant need of attention and is not as kind hearted as the one i favor (kid B). You know the kind.. she loves the mirror and she's quick to stick her tongue out at times.. basically the girl i hated in high school. i tend to notice that her Dad seems to like her better, although he would never admit it! Anyway, with me, i'm the problem child. i'm the selfish one because even though i am giving of my time and taking on a SITUATION and i'm good to them equally, i still consider myself selfish at times because every now and then i feel very jealous of kid b.. and only kid b. If it was just easy going kid A, i would have no problem with her. But when i see my boyfriend cuddling and adoring Kid B i want to cringe and vomit at times. i know a lot of this stems from my own dad not being the psychologically correct dad that actually plays with his kids, talks about their feelings and their kid life with them. My dad would do anything for me, but not once did we play catch or monopoly or anything that was all about me. Ok, one time we had a daughter/father day but that was it. My mom must have said something to him. So now that i'm a grown woman and i finally found a great guy i feel pretty pissed off occasionally that his kids take so much of his adoration and attention and i'm not the one and only apple of his eye.. even though i KNOW IT'S THE RIGHT THING FOR HIM TO DO. i wish he had a son instead of two girls, so that i could not be so aware of attention games that girls often throw out there. We are going on 5 years now and i had hoped that i could shake this disease of mine. It's gotten better, but you know, we live in a new world of mixed families and it's a new struggle. You probably just want your man all to yourself.. as do i. But i just tell myself that i am probably in their lives for a reason (i treat them better than their mom)and maybe i'm here to clear out some old karma. It's not the worst thing that could happen and the more you focus on it, the worst it will get. If i continue to have issues i will go to a psychologist. i also want to start meditating again and just focus on being good and doing the right thing, because maybe this situation is here to make me a better person. i just wanted to reach out to you because, hey, i get it. i know what you're feeling. When i try to talk to my best friend about it, i get responses like the ones above.. "you're being a jerk". But you don't grow up and become numb.. you are always growing. When you feel jealous, take a breather and do something nice for yourself. Also i find that it's a good remedy to spend time alone with the girls after i've pulled myself together. And third if i lose my cool with them, i think it's ok to let them know that i never said i was perfect, i say something like, "you know, i'm sorry i snapped at you, i'm just having a bad day today." Create your own situation.. and think of him as a child you were both meant to nurture. Good luck.You are not a bad person.. probably just got hurt somewhere in your life that has nothing to do with your step son. Try patting yourself on the back on occasion because a lot of people would not be strong enough to be a step parent. Look for the root of your problem and deal with that head on. Also, if you aren't getting the attention you need from your man, that is a whole other issue that you will need to take up with him. In the real world, ppl are not all consumed with our problems and sometimes people raise kids in a way that makes them think they are the center of the earth. Those people are the ones you can't stand working with. They are the ones that say incredibly obnoxious things. And even though we should spend a great deal of time with children, it does not mean you should not have adult time to yourself or with your husband as well. In addition, it wouldn't hurt to talk things out with him and possibly get a pat on the back from him too. Some parents think nothing of spending 24/7 w their kids and over look the fact that maybe that's not your ideal way to spend the day. Best of luck to you. And here's a couple pats on the back from me!...See Moreever been jealous?
Comments (38)I don't understand why my house wouldn't be just as much, if not more, a symbol of my "new life" as it would be had I bought it with a partner. Buying a house on your own is definitely more of an accomplishment and more of a symbol of independence than moving in with some guy. It doesn't seem that, in general, having the exW come into her exH's new home is particularly offensive to the exH - the one who finds it offensive seems to be the new wife. Warning - upcoming blanket statement: New wives in general seem to be very territorial and often not totally convinced, deep down, that the husband's relationship with his first (or previous) wife is completely, 100% over. Sure it is nice to share firsts, but there are a lot of firsts that the majority of first wives didn't share with their husbands either. Most guys don't marry the first woman they ever slept with. Very few people marry the first person they ever kissed, or even the first person they ever thought they were in love with. The difference is that there usually is not a child around to constantly remind them that someone else had been there first, and no matter how much the SM may realize consciously that it is in no way the child's fault, there is still some resentment and jealousy....See Morepopi_gw
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