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Posted by jojosluv (My Page) on Sat, May 16, 09 at 19:29
| So here's my story, I've been in love with the same person for almost 30 years but we always seem to miss each other in our paths. We're both in our 2nd marriage right now and we have seen each other through out the years and the love we have is always there, we have recently been able to exchange email address and have been communcating that way for about 2 months now. We saw each other a few weeks ago and it was like we just couldn't be close enough to each other (no you know what was involved though). The connection we have is so strong for some reason, but like I said we are married to different people even though we aren't as happy in our marriages as we should be we still don't want to hurt our spouses. What do we do? It's so confusing and it hurts so much. |
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RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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| I think the grass always seems greener on the other side, but rarely is. |
RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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| What do you mean, what do we do? Are you wanting a way to maintain your relationship with your affair, or are you wanting to know what is the reality based best thing to do? You'll get all sorts of answers here, best to clarify what you want. |
RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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| So you were in love with this guy when you married husband number two? I don't understand how people can do that. I understand he may not have been attainable at that point, but how could you commit to someone else if you really loved him and how could he commit to and marry someone else if he really loved you. What's real is real, what is fantasy is fantasy. Fact is, he loved his first and second wives enough to marry them... not so about you. And, he obviously didn't care enough to wait arround for you. He goes to bed with his wife every night, not you. If you're married, quit communicating with men you are attracted to.. it's only going to cause heartache. |
RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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| Carla said it all in her last sentence. |
RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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FIRE! Run FIRE!
I hope there are no children involved in this folly. |
RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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| Ah, the "what if guy"... Fine for a Sunday afternoon daydream, but overindulging in this kind of fantasy is the kind of destructive mental habit that can destroy a decent marriage and the real lives of several people you care about. No reality can ever compete with your daydream, so comparing the two can only mean your marriage will lose. Recognize your fantasy for what it is, and keep it where it belongs. |
RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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| All grown up...two marriages worth of experience...and the brains of an adolescent. Such a pity. |
RE: I'm married, he's married.....but we've love ea. other....
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| "Greener" grass usually turns out to be terribly brown. I totally agree with the poster who said s/he hopes there are no children in these marriages. If so, PLEASE, PLEASE do whatever you have to do to break it off - even if that means moving far, far away. |
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