I have tried to talk him into getting a "toy" but he's all "you don't need one of those, you'd get one that is bigger than me." .... to me he is not satisified with size but I've never complained.

any way. I know this is rather personal but I really need some suggestions on how to spice it up.. I'm tired of the same ol' same ol'.

Thanks.

Why does he go to bed at 5 or 6pm and get up at 11pm?

Do these hours conflict with yours?

Every sex life goes through ups and downs.The key is,to find the reason it is doing so.Are you both getting enough sleep?
Are you working too much? Are you stressed about things? Need a break from kids? A change of scenery?
When this happens to me and my husband,we have very open communication,so we talk about it. We try to figure out together what is going on.

Then it's a baby-sitter for our child,a night on the town,and maybe a nice hotel room.
Other times it's something as simple as turning off the tv!
You'd be surprised how many missed chances come from the tv.

With your husband sounds like you need to make it clear it IS NOT HIS SIZE that is the problem,but that you need more time and a variety of ways.
It is actually quite common for women to not be able to "get there". Maybe if your husband is kind enough if you cant "get there" with intercourse he could help you in some other way???