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| I've read quite a lot of the forum postings having to do with own situation. A few years ago out of frustration and years of trying many different approaches, I told my husband that although I still loved him very much, because he seemed not to want nor even need sex nor even have desires for sex I was going to stay married to him but have as many affairs as I wanted, even love affairs, if possible, for I don't enjoy sex without love, that I wasn't going to inform him or tell him anything at all and not to ask. If he didn't like it, then "man up" and be normal or otherwise get a divorce. I wasn't going to live like that anymore. We had a long discussion. He wasn't upset. He said, "Just don't tell me, and I won't ask. Don't let me know, and I won't be upset." Since then I've had several sexual affairs and one love affair, on-going, with a man who already had a long-term partner (not married). I'm as happy as I can be and certainly not sexually frustrated. On the contrary. I still love my husband, but I cannot believe he would pass up the delights of sexual love for close encounters with his t.v., hunting rifle, fly-rod, and wood-working tools. |
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| Thanks for sharing, I guess. |
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| Yeah, suzieque's response pretty much sums it up for me too... |
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- Posted by amyfiddler (My Page) on Mon, Mar 4, 13 at 17:33
| So you have a roommate with tax benefits. |
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| I'm glad you two found a solution that works better for you than the alternative. I hope it keeps working out :). |
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| How can a man not want sex!!? |
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- Posted by LuAnn_in_PA (My Page) on Wed, Mar 6, 13 at 8:29
| Maybe he does... but not with her! That MIGHT be why he's okay with HER affairs... |
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| LuAnne, I was gonna go there but you beat me to it. I guess if the situation works for both of them and they are happy, so be it. |
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- Posted by amyfiddler (My Page) on Wed, Mar 6, 13 at 13:04
| Patti, lots of reasons. Gay men who marry women often will stop wanting to have sex. |
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| or your body just stops working in your 40s and you completely lose interest. I'm about ready to deal with it the same way babylonia's dh did. (but minus the rifle and fly rod) |
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