Husband says he's not happy but does not know why.
johpe
18 years ago
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Comments (16)I don't think judges in small claims court expect the parties to show up with expert witnesses, testimonies, and professionally worded statements. If you go that route, just bring photographs and documented records of attempts to solve the problem with the contractor, and any other evidence or records you have that show the work was not done correctly. Since you have been after him to make the repair since you moved in, hopefully you have kept a record of your contacts with him. I wouldn't worry about whether or not the contractor will "make you look pretty silly." Let the judge decide if you are being silly or not. Your contractor's license board might also be able to assist you ... it may be worth a phone call to find out....See MoreWhen a husband says 'I'm not happy anymore'
Comments (32)I am not sure that I agree Rosewood, even though what you suggest is the direction most people are taking. I stand by my entries on this thread that I made on Wed. March 16, 05 and Thursday, March 17, 05. Scroll up. Please read if you passed over it, because I still feel the same today, ten months later. After hanging out in the step parent forum for awhile, my views on this are stronger than ever. Letter after letter talks about re-marriage after the divorce, and when many of these men re-marry, several of these new young wives on the forum resent and hate the children from the previous marriage...especially after they have new babies with the husband...and they want to have their own new little family, without the previous children, in fact, they want those children to just disappear! To some extent, I am now beginning to think that when we become parents, it is no longer about following our whims, or our feelings (which are fickle at best, and deceive us) but about what is in the best interest of the children we have brought into this world, and loving these innocent, beautiful children enough to fulfill our responsibility to them, by giving them the best possible childhood we can, whether we feel like it or not. IMO, when he made vows to love and honor his wife, and brought these two babies into the world who have their whole childhood ahead of them yet, he lost the right to chase after the new honey at the office. IMO, he has lost the right to whine and say he does not know if he is happy right now, and run around with the girl friend while he decides. It is such an incredible injustice to his wife and two babies, who trusted him to lead this family like a man, and put aside his childish whims. He is robbing his wife, by threatening her future, and the future of her children. It will affect them on every level, for years to come. He has robbed his wife of the ability to enjoy her new baby, and her two year old, because she must now worry where he is, who he is with, why hasn't he called, and the security of knowing their future is safe. Then, I imagine he will marry one of these honey's - and then, the step parent issues begin for these children. His new honey will hate money leaving her household, to his ex-wife, and his kids, and will resent her and the kids for this. It cheats his wife and children out of the future they SHOULD have had. A future with two parents who love them and strive to give them the best childhood they can. A family of their own, with two people who are willing to step up to the plate and do the right thing...whether they feel like it or not...with a smile for these beloved children. Giving them the gift of a family who loves them and are on their side rooting for them every step of the way. Parenting is hard under the best of circumstances. But we are called to do our very best, for these children, and not give up! There are days in parenting and life that we all will look at our spouse and wonder "what in the world was I thinking, when I chose him/her". Or we will look at them and may not feel anything at all. But on other days, we are so thankful that this person is by our side, and feel so blessed to have them share our life. Our feelings evolve over time, and can become so rich if we treat each other with excellence!...See MoreHe Says HE Knows His Kids Best...
Comments (11)Rosie: When I was growing up, my mother made me clean my room, help with the cooking, clean the kitchen after dinner and other miscellaneous chores (my mother didn't work). I did not however, mow the grass, scrub the floors, do the grocery shopping, wash the families (6 of us) laundry, help the others with their homework, pay the bills, plant the garden (although I did help weed and pick the vegetables), maintanin the cars and other household appliances. My mother worked very hard at home raising 4 kids while my father worked 12 hours, 7 days a week at Fords to provide for the family. I also went to school and got very good grades, participated in the band and played softball in the summer. At the time, I thought she was the meanest mother in the world, but when I got married at 20, I found out that I had no problem keeping a house, working full time, going to school at night and eventually having children. I was capable of doing all this because my mother prepared me for adulthood. I am very gratefully for that now. Take my stepdaughter for example. I entered her life when she was 15 (she is now 18). She lived with her mother for a few months in the beginning, but decided she preferred to live with her dad and I (and my boys)full time. She did not assist me in any way with anything to do with the house, but was very demanding about being driven here and there and asking for money as if it grew on trees. I asked for her help ie: taking her own dishes off the table and putting them in the dishwasher, etc, and she said she shouldn't have to do that because her mother made her do those things when she was 4 years old. This seemed to be a common excuse which her father and grandmother (who lived with them for 4 years) says did not happen. I didn't want to be a b**chy stepmother , so I didn't press the issue. She was getting good grades in school and was a cheerleader so I figured her time was better spent on those activities. Big mistake!!! She is now 18 and can't even make it out of bed for a 10:00 class at college. She has been late for work many times because she "just slept in" (I can't believe they haven't fired her). Her claim now is that she is 18 and is legally an adult and we cannot ask her to do anything. She began college in September and has now dropped out because she cannot balance, work (20 hrs wk), school 4 classes and socializing with her friends. She demands to be treated like an adult,but was never made to accept any responsibility, so she doesn't know how to act like an adult. I firmly believe that if she had been made to be a part of the family and take responsibility for helping in the running of the household, she would be better prepared for "adulthood". So now we have a disrespectful, inconsiderate, lazy 18 year old in our house that causes a terrible disruption to the rest of the family. How am I supposed to teach my boys how to be proper, respectful, considerate young men when they have an example just the opposite in the household? We have now thrown away $2500.00 in college tuition (which we can't afford) and she has forfeited a $2500.00 MEAP scholarship. What a waste!!! But let's not forget, she has lots of time to socialize with her friends now!!!!! That is really going to get her far in life. Kids need to know that life is not easy and having them help around the house is not going to cause them any harm....See MoreOur contractor says he knows how to do gas - does he?!!
Comments (11)Update: We had a master gas plumber come out during off hours to take a look, just for peace of mind. He said the gas work is ok; apparently gas for a cooktop doesn't have a high psi (I think he said like 1-2 psi?) and if there was a leak, he said you would smell it. He inspected the piping and said it was old gas pipe (which looks galvanized), and we were fine. He thought it was fine to mix new black pipe with old gas pipe, as long as sealed correctly. He said our contractor used pipe dope, which is good. We also had him look at the rough-in plumbing and he said while not the most elegant way of doing the pipe work, all the piping does work. He pointed out some sloppy solder work, and a few spots where our contractor burned PVC pipes that were close by. The plumber said since those PVC pipes were air and not water pipes, that it was ok, although obviously not ideal. We could always fix those later if we wanted since they are in the exposed area in the basement. He pointed out a few areas that we should ensure our contractor does over the next few days (like strap down a few pipes) and how he should run the refrigerator ice line. It looks like our contractor plans on doing the water line for the fridge through the floor and having the shut off valve in the basement, instead of behind the refrigerator. The plumber said behind the refrigerator in a drywall shut off valve box (like in a laundry room) is typical, but it is also acceptable to place it in the basement. If he does it in the basement, we should make sure he uses flexible steel braided tubing, not copper pipe, so that if there are problems in the future, they can use the old tubing to fish new tubing. And to place it near the back of the refrigerator (it's huge - we have a Subzero) so that if the fridge ever gets moved, it doesn't run over the line. A big thank you to everyone who has offered advice and pointed out what might be wrong, so that we can prevent future problems! And for those in the same position, if the experts here see red flags, it is definite worthwhile to hire someone to come out and check out those red flags!!...See Morejohpe
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