My friend I posted about 3 weeks ago

10 years ago

Three weeks ago I posted about my friend who had a blood clot on her brain and was in a coma.She was one of our basketball friends and we went to the same church.
After being in a coma for 19 days, Rosemary died last Wednesday. I feel so sorry for her DH. He is 87 and this is the second wife he has lost.
Today at the game, I told the people who sat near her what had happened to her. Later someone else asked me where the "minister's wife" was and I told him she died last week.

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rhizo_1 (North AL) zone 7
10 years ago
Linda, how sad! I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.!
yayagal
10 years ago
That poor man is going to miss her so much. Sorry.
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Orchidllauraga
10 years ago
Will keep you, her family and friends in my prayers...
wanda_va
10 years ago
I am so sorry. Her husband may do better than you expect. My father was almost 87 when my mother passed (they had been married for 63 years), but he has done very well. He misses her terribly, but he travels extensively and has a lady friend (he is almost 92; she is a year younger). My prayers are with her family and friends.
susanjf_gw
10 years ago
thank you for coming back..so often I wonder what has happen..so sorry about the outcome..prayers to family and friends...
chisue
10 years ago
Ah, I'm sorry for your loss. You were a good friend to her. Sometimes death is the best outcome, even though the person will be dearly missed.
katlan
10 years ago
So sad. Especially around the holidays. I'm sorry for your loss.
joyfulguy
10 years ago
I feel for the hurt in your heart from the losing of your friend.

It is hurtful to lose one who has become a dear friend. As well as one whom one has chosen as a special loved one, as one's second mate, and late in life.

I expect that while building a relationship with another partner so late in life, there would be somewhat less connection, or lower commitment, as one would be certain that the relationship was going to be, of necessity, not a long-lived one. Aware that when one loves deeply ... the hurt is deeper when the loved one goes?

Would that make one skittish about making too deep a commitment ... and, when we choose to do so, does it cut us off from the opportunity to participate in some of the greater joys in life? To settle for being half alive, so to speak?

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morz8 - Washington Coast
10 years ago
Linda, I'm so sorry for your loss.

We said goodby to a decades long friend this week too, Opal turned 90 in October and we went to her surprise party, she was bright, energetic, and still driving. Three weeks later a stroke, followed by a second.

I don't think it matters the age of our friends, when they are gone, we miss them. Even if its a time where her passing makes some sense, I know you will feel the loss.
sjerin
10 years ago
I am so sorry, Linda. I have not had a friend pass yet other than when I was young, and I know I'll have a hard time with it when it happens. I hope her husband has lots of good support.
sandiefl
10 years ago
I am sorry for the loss of your friend and for her husband. I will keep you all in my prayers.
Georgysmom
10 years ago
So sorry to hear about your friend, Rosemary, Linda. You were a really good friend to her.
kittiemom
10 years ago
I'm sorry to hear about your friend.
grandmamary_ga
10 years ago
I'm saddened to hear of the loss of your friend. You were a very good friend to her. I hope her husband is doing well with his loss too. My prayers and thoughts are with her family and loved ones.
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