So, lindac, you think what I said is "very odd", and you are determined to make sure everyone knows how you feel by posting your objection more than once. Not that you care, but Christmas means a lot to me, including recipes, so I quickly tuned in without ever checking a date. While your intelligence is surely appreciated, these forums are also full of your bark and bite replies which in mho could/should be tempered. As for Jasdip, who does not play by rules and apparently walks on water, I'm harshly chastised by her for not avoiding use of my blue pencil in games she'll be pleased to learn I shall no longer join. Although neither of you know me or anything about my life, it is not open to grouchy rudeness and unnecessary criticism, so I shall temporarily bring myself down to your levels by saying, with good humor, you can both KMA in Bloomingdale's window. No need to reply. Thanks to you I will no longer be here. Ta-ta.

Can't these off topic, silly conversations be put in the Hot Topics Forum or the Kitchen Table Forum? There is a place on this board for this stuff and it is not in the Buying and Selling Homes Forum. I hate unintentionally clicking on silly threads like this. The title said "Maybe a little off topic" so I clicked it thinking it might be about landscaping or bank CDs or something slighkly related to homes, read the first post and skimmed the thread while I was trying to scroll to the bottom. When someone posts something so completely off topic just IGNORE their quest for attention and let the post drop off the page. Please.

Cynic great post! Especially the part about the set up photos with the silly backdrops or props. (I feel the same way about baby pics BTW). Give me people who look like themselves any day. I don't send Christmas cards any longer so we only get a few. The photo cards are printed on such cheap stock that they tear while being removed from the envelope. I do save and enjoy the nice old fashioned cards I get. The rest hit the shredder. Worst Xmas card award goes to a relative of DH. He prints out a mass sermon. Just like those long winded mass Xmas letters that some people send out only it's s a sermon. At the end there is a line or 2 about what he is doing and how the sermon he wrote applies to him. LOL If he were a man of the cloth I "might" understand but basically he's what I would call a fanatic. If I want to hear a sermon I'll go to church thank you. We LOL, shake our heads and SHRED!

You cannot run in a panic right now, you will scare Rhianna. If you scare her she will not talk, IF there are signs of physical abuse, by no means wait, But if there are no signs physically, then you must take things slowly and on her terms so you do not scare her and tramatise her more. calm talks are the best. She may not tell you today, she may not tell you tomorrow, BUT if she knows she can tell you and you won't freak out on her, she will tell you, trust me, she will. Listen to her, what she says and doesn't say...That sounds odd, I know but if she says something that just doesn't sound "right", it could be the clue to a talk. Again above all else, BE cALM. Deep breaths, Make her calm. Matter of fact terms, "Mom he showed me his pee pee"..Oh he did, boy that must have been icky, I wouldn't want to see that...calm not OH MY GOD, YOU SAW HIS PEN!S. One way can keep her talking, the other will make her clam up. All will/can be fine eventually. Remember too, she may not like him because he just isn't nice to her. And her moodyness may have nothing to do with him. Oh yes and remmeber with you talk to enforce upon her that if anyone says they'll hurt xxx if they tell, that they don't have to worry, you owuld never let that happen. AND if they promise anything if they don't tell, that is not the kind of secret to keep. Good secrets and bad secrets..good conversation for another time. Vickey-Mn