Dear nsf798, You don't know me, soforgive me for putting in my two cents. I don't have the problem you are having, I've got two girls who are 9 and 7 and they are very good friends and though they have their struggles they play together very well. I will say that they have very different personalities and that though the elder gets/deserves many perks for her maturity the younger one is more forward and agressive and often gets what she wants by being so pushy. I really agreed with paigct's comment that enlisting your son to help your younger daughter is one way to handle this, but I also kind of agree with whoever posted that what appears to be a problem from your point of view might not be from the little sisters point of view. That being said, I want to recommend two fantastic books by Nancy Samalin (don't know her and am not connected to her). At least I think they are both by her but on reflection I think one isn't. The first one is How to talk so children will listen and how to listen so children will talk. I found taht really invalable (more so as my children got older) in helping me think through the dynamics of an interaction before I got started, and also in helping me think about modeling solutions rather than talking about problems. Another great book, and I'm sure this is by samalin, is "loving each one best" a book about siblings. And the last great book is called "raising the optimistic child" or "raising an optimistic child." This is a great book for working with children on problem solving rather than blaming. It makes a good read along with "how to talk..." I guess what I'm trying to say is that 1) your son sounds like he is having a burgeoning problem with kids his age; 2) he may or may not have a problem with his little sister but you certainly have one with the way he is treating her; 3) some of these problems could be addressed by working with him on common courtesy. I have had the intersting experience of driving someone else's kids to summer camp for a week. What amazed me is that things that seemed to come naturally to my daughters simply had never even occured to the two little girls I'm now driving. Sharing a snack? forget it. Both of them stuffed their mouths for the entire drive without ever offering my girls a taste--even as my daughters instantly and courteously offered their snacks for sharing. Saying hello and goodbye to us in the morning and afternoon? forget it, it simply never occured to them. Thanking me for driving? apparently that was also inconceivable. The difference in age between me and these girls is considerable (some 40 years) but I'm as courteous to them as I would be to another adult. Which is by way of saying that I think the excuse that your son is 4 years older than his sister so he naturally gets to boss her around is, well, not right. You want him to have good manners whatever the age or station of the person he's with. Perhaps helping him see that close relations (whether family or friend) don't excuse bad behavior is the way to go. just my two cents abfab

Don't know true/false, but what I found- chima refused to wear her mic, then threw it in the pool. Then refused to pay to replace the mic, so she was evicted for breaking rules. The girls had be laughing about distroying the guys property. CBS says it will explain on Sunday night's show.

I am not trying to disparage the ACA. Prior to the HIPPA regulations years ago you are correct SSN were used. We have not used them for at least 5-6 years. This was prior to the ACA. I run a dental office and have run medical offices in the past. Your insurance companies may require your SSN when you sign up for insurance; but your doctor, dentist, etc do not require it for processing your forms. You should have an updated ID card from your insurance company that has your individual and group numbers on it. The software used by dental offices now utilizes the these numbers and we NEVER have to key in a SSN. Processing claims is done electronically and I NEVER have to key in a social to process. I do not know what the ACA requires as far as ID. It is my understanding that if you are still getting your insurance through an insurance co. you use their number which is not SSN. If the government state or local pays for your insurance via ACA or medicare they in fact utilize your SSN, as it is your governmental ID number. Three years ago I was a victim of identity theft and going through that process was told that only banking and the social security administration needed your SSN. Our identities were stolen via our BANK. By a bank employee, a loan officer. Who of course had all of our info. In the three years since I refuse to put my social on a form for a random person or online. Ever.

Ruthie, if you think the pictures of Sheila are bad they are nothing compared to the gay porn videos and pictures of James that are out there. I hope Chelsia's family don't have the live feeds because of what she and James get up to. Sure they are adults but what they are doing is out there for all the world to see. Big Brother has to cut the live feeds at time and the speculation on the message boards is so that their sexual escapades don't end up all over the internet. I don't know if she realizes that the guy she fools around with under the covers has done gay porn. Chelsia told the producers she would do sexual favours in the house to stay. James and Chelsia are already talking about what they will "do" to stay in the house. Natalie, I like Natalie, I hated the way Matty treated her. She has a terrible self esteem problem and thought if she gave Matty sexual favours he would like her more. What Natalie did in the house with her breasts shocked me more than what she did to Matty. How could she do what she did knowing that the cameras filmed everything and it is out there for everyone to see. I think the producers of BB wanted to have more sexual activity in the house and I think they have gotten more than they bargained for with James and Chelsia and what Natalie has done. The televised show is edited so much that much of the stuff that goes on in the house can't be shown for fear of losing more advertisers than it already has. The producers gave the houseguests a letter telling them to tone down the swearing and the sexual inuendos and not to talk about Julie Chen. I don't care who wins as long as it isn't James, Chelsia or Josh. I think I am favouring Sharon, Ryan or Adam at this point. If Natalie won I think she would think she could buy Matty's affections and he would let her do it. I don't want her to win for that reason. Maryanne, I would like to see a better mix of people too. I would like to see Big Brother go back to the way it was the first season. I find that most of the people who post at TVCH and who watch the live feeds are people 30 years and older. Anne