I'm feeling really sad

9 years ago

A friend of mine and her hubby went to the shore this week to spend some time with his daughter who is here visiting from some place in Europe (her home) and the GK's. When I arrived at golf today I was hit with the bad news that he was on the floor playing with the kids and he just keeled over. He's in intensive care right now, life support has been removed and it's just a waiting game. It's just such a complete shock!

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User
9 years ago
The same thing happened to my son last year. It was very quick. I am so sorry to hear this.
glenda_al
9 years ago
So sorry :o(
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ont_gal
9 years ago
awww-so very sorry georgy.

Sorry to hear about your loss as well,Deb.
Jasdip
9 years ago
Debby, I had no idea about your son. I'm so very sorry.
I'm sorry to hear this, too GM.
Alice_sj
9 years ago
Georgysmom and Debby, I am so sorry to hear about your losses. You're in my thoughts.
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9 years ago
Debby, so sorry to hear about your son. My son called a few days ago and when we got home, the message on the answering machine said Hi Mom, Hi Dad, just called to say I love you. I wanted to reach out and let you know how important you are to me. Turns out, he had a call the night before from a high school buddy who had called to tell him his brother had died (massive strokeÃ¢ÂÂ¦.36 years old). It just makes you realize how tenuous life really is. We just never know.
ruthieg__tx
9 years ago
So true that life is short and you never know when that last day is. My previous husband died two days before his 50ieth birthday...We went to his Mothers to spend the Christmas holidays...the first time he had been home for Christmas in many many years...when we arrived at his Mothers. he brought the luggage in., sat down in a chair and died of a massive coronary..never got out of that chair...Thank God his Mother Mother and sister were both there at the Airport to pick us up...

you never know when your last day will be..
sandiefl
9 years ago
So sorry to hear of this.All of you will be in my prayers.
blfenton
9 years ago
georgysmom - I am so sorry for what you are going through. My thoughts are with you all.

We had a particularly rough spring. These sudden deaths, unfortunately aren't just the domain of the middle-aged. DS2, who is 24, had a female friend die of a brain aneurysm this spring. She was newly engaged and my son had gone through a university program with her fiance.

Another young friend who was 26, died of a massive heart attack. He decided at the last minute to go home for the weekend to see his parents. He died at the dinner table.

And, the 30 year old son of a good friend of mine took his own life.

As I said, it's been a rough spring and full of questions of Why?

My sympathies to all who experience these unexpected passings of friends and family.
pianolady2008
9 years ago
Sorry to hear of these deaths. : ( Praying for all of these families.
lucillle
9 years ago
(((georgysmom)))

I'm so sorry for what you must be going through right now.
clubm
9 years ago
So sorry. sending prayers.
Georgysmom
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9 years ago
blfÃ¢ÂÂ¦Ã¢ÂÂ¦I had a bout like that many years ago. It wasn't all close friends but just one sadness after another. It just was overwhelming. Now I'm at that point in life where it's starting to become close friends.

In a final note, my friend's hubby died this morning. I'm going over shortly to give her a quick hug and bring my portion of tonight's dinner for the family. I know she can't really talk, it's just all too shocking.
blfenton
9 years ago
Oh no. I'm so sorry. (((georgysmom)))

My thoughts are with your friend and her family.
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9 years ago
I am sorry for everyone's losses.
kittiemom
9 years ago
Georgysmom, so sorry about your friend. My condolences to you and the family.

Debby, I'm very sorry about the loss of your son as well.
liz
9 years ago
so very sad...I hope for the sake of his family he goes quickly and peacefully...what a tragedy...

I'm feeling really sad

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