I suppose you could tell her it hurts: too hot and too hard. She'll think you're a delicate flower, but no harm in that. :-)

I hear ya! So often, one hairdresser or another has caused
pain or concern of one type or another when I have been in their chair. I had one guy who had such a heavy hand when using his comb on my wet hair that I thought my scalp would bleed.

If the condition of your hair is good and your hair is healthy, I would trust that being pulled when wet a few times a year will cause it no harm. If it bothers you more than you can tolerate, ask her not to pull so hard, see what she says. It might start a conversation that would be of benefit to both of you.

sooey

Honestly, if it bothers you, I would ask why she is doing it the way she does. I think she may have a good reason. If you really don't want it done, just aks her not to dry your hair. Or, if she's pulling too hard, let her know. Although I think the hard tension helps with less frizz.

For example, if I'm getting my teeth cleaned, am I going to let the hygenist hurt me? No, I tell them if what they are doing hurts.

Just do it. ; )

Really: It's HURTING YOU! And just because you go to the hairdresser only a few times a year that makes it OK and a trivial problem?

A Brazilian wax is supposed to hurt. (not that I will ever get one! doing the eyebrows was enough!).
A blowout is not.

It's not the hairdresser's own hair she's pulling. She doesn't have any idea of how her pulling strength is affecting you.

I speak up when my stylist keeps the blowdryer on a section too long -- yes, it does hurt my scalp.

Just tell her, and in a polite way, as I know you would. She will not feel offended, esp. if you go with Carla's advice to ask her why she's drying your hair with such a hard pull. Don't you think she wants you to be a happy client? Don't you want to walk out feeling as good as you look?

She is concerned about the damage to her hair. I agree with those that say that, since it's only on the occasions when she gets her hair done, it probably isn't causing damage. If it were every day or multiple times a week, yes, perhaps.

She has cut my hair for YEARS. She towel drys, and she & I have come to an agreement about the blow dryer - she uses her fingers only for about 2 minutes & then I am out of there. No spray, no curling, etc etc.

However, I would still say something (nicely) if my hairdresser was pulling and stretching my hair, if it was permed, especially. It may be just once every few months but if the stretching and pulling breaks the hair or causes other damage, it's still damaged and you can't 'unbreak' or 'unstretch' it. Especially if it's only getting trimmed every three months, the damage isn't getting cut off very regularly.

I'm really sensitive to things like that I guess which is why I now cut my own hair - ha.

I go every 5 weeks and get my hair tinted,blown out and styled with either a flat iron or curling iron or sometimes both. Not something I do at home but it looks so good after she does it I go as long as I can without washing my hair. They normally use a lot of product to protect your hair. Conditiones,smoothers oils etc.

The only thing I can't stand is hairspray so I have asked it not be used. No problem.

If you don't want it then just say so. She can just fluff dry it or even put you under a dryer if you prefer. But don't expect it to have that shiny smooth, just been to the salon finished look.