First of all, is your budget realistic? Especially since you are wanting to work with/match existing components? You do realize that that is more expensive than going all new with a more budget oriented line, right?

Where are you located and have you check out custom cabinet shops? You also will need the services of a licensed GC since you are in a multi family dwelling, so have you talked to any of those? That is actually where I'd start first, and then use their contacts for cabinet guys.

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Looking forward to your journey!