An image would be helpful.

Kashmir white is a speckle-y stone, but it doesn't have a lot of colors in it. It is often paired with a marble bs tile, if for no other reason, most people pick this stone as an alternative to the marble they love the look of, but worry about maintaining (which is a little silly since this stone stains and etches too, but whatever...). Here's an image from photobucket that probably belongs to a GWer.

Your cabinets are made of a relatively dark wood, your floors are dark, I think it might be a bit much to go for a dark bs too, but whatever you decide, I hope you find something you love.

Thank you for responding EAM44. I understand but the kashmir white was already straying from my original plan (needed to lighten up). To not have the slate is another concession. I wish I could start the process again but am committed to at least the cabinets & counters. Thanks again for responding, I wish I would get more feedback.

Light to medium gray subway tiles?

Well then go with your heart. If you want slate, choose slate. It does come in many colors, by the way. When it comes to slate look ceramic vs. slate, the former is easier to clean and maintain.

Think mosaic instead of 4" x 4" tile. It will look more modern. Here are examples of slate mosaics you might want to consider. Again, all are slate, brown, grey, green, cream, and black.

Here is a link that might be useful: Slate Mosaics