The ladies in the tile store know me by my first name and they wait on others before me because they think I am just browsing again. If this store was a bar, I'd be an alcoholic.

Today I placed an online order for my tile floor. Yep, I carefully decided the color I wanted and ordered it. Done. But a few hours later, I started to second guess myself. "The color in the kitchen is a cool gray but the open family room has a warm, stone fireplace." Wait, do I want gray or light tan? Tan/gray/tan/gray. Call the guy and change the oder to tan!!!

I keep asking my poor color-blind DH which subtle shade he likes better. When I come into the room with samples, he looks at me like he want to be the invisible man.

Dozens of trips to stone store, tile stores, paint stores....my head is spinning!!!

Please tell me I'm not alone.

There are so many options, so many choices. It is impossible to investigate and explore and find the pros and cons of all the possible singles and combinations. Trust your gut feelings and you will be all right.

You're not alone. I too changed my mind so many times and second guessed myself on every little detail BUT BUT BUT there is hope. My remodel came together beautifully and I truly believe yours will too if you care enough to change your mind enough!

I went to several tile places and finally find one, Crossville (?) porcelain tile, 4x8 inch, gloss finish, solid color (8 days a week). Immediately after the tile came in, I questioned the high gloss. I was so upset over it that I almost reordered the same tile in matte. (keep in mind, my original tile order was non-refundable!). I changed my mind over 10 times when considering the granite choice (I also considered quartz and Formica). I questioned my paint color for my cabinets over and over. I questioned my stainless faucet right after I placed the order. I later thought, I should have ordered the ORB one but now I'm so happy I didn�t. I questioned the appliances I bought.

I got 8 granite quotes before choosing a company. I went to 6 different appliance companies before buying. I changed my mind 3 times on the sink (50/50 or 60/40).

After it's all said and done, I'm happy with the outcome. Looking back, even if I would have picked a couple of different finishes or items, I still think it would look great.

I'm one of those people that is never 100% sure about anything so get money involved and I'm really going to question things. Maybe you�re the same :)

Good Luck!!!!

And until I had my own set of BM Fandecks, they knew me very well at the Benjamin Moore store. It was a big day for me the day I got my own fandecks.

And yes, marcolo is right, an adult beverage or five a night will help ease the pain. THis is why it is imperative to get the beverage fridge hooked up early to test it.

: )

The granite yard knew me, the lighting store, the tile store (a decision I finally left to the KD), the flooring store, the appliance store (who offered me a job when we were finally done), the faucet/sink/toilet store (Yea, we did a whole house reno), etc. But you know what, they were all the kindest, most helpful people with great suggestions and ideas - at least to my face - who knows what they said behind my back.

And changing my mind about things - lets start with the probably 50 floorplans for the kitchen, the back-and-forth about appliances, lights, colour of the hardwood (oh c*** is there pink in this one?) etc.

Good Luck. and if you need to vent you know where we are.

Wine helps. Our recycling guys must think we have a drinking problem (or lots of houseguests) lately.

It WILL get better and you'll be glad with the finished project.

I think I'll have another vita-veeta-vega-min now! (Burp).

My cabinetmaker was Mennonite. This was fortunate because their religion teaches them to accept difficulties and hardship with acceptance and fortitude. When I called about a week before he was due to start construction and asked him to change a couple cabs (again) and add a trash pullout and a paper towel cubby, he just said OK. But he may still have thought I was nuts.

My family thinks I must be out of my mind, because we finished almost a year ago and here I am, on the computer reading and writing about kitchens.

We are pre-renovation still, and our only solid decision at this point is our granite. And I look at the little piece that the fabricator broke off for us and I stare at it and start obsessing over the fact that I see a lot more yellow undertones in it that I first thought. (Was I drinking when we picked it???) And I worry. A lot. Like, a crazy about of a lot.

This kitchen is a huge investment for us. And quite honestly, we are, in one swift swoop, overimproving the house beyond the amount we could sell it for.

I am spending COUNTLESS hours right now researching and debating the relative benefits of tape LED UC lighting vs. bar LED UC lighting. And then obsessing about will those little diodes reflecting back drive me to drink (more!) and will the individual lights really reflect individually on the aforementioned granite, which is leathered and not shiny. And no one, bar those of you on GW, really truly understand this pain.

Just today, I was reviewing a kitchen layout in a house that we almost built a few years back, and was counting my lucky stars that we didn't wind up with that (disfunctional) kitchen that at the time I believed would have been fantastic.

I am forever ruined. And I hope that none of my friends ask me a simple question about their kitchen remodel, because it would surely turn into hours of discussion or until their eyes glazed over and ran away screaming.

So, yes, welcome to the club. Pour a glass of your favorite beverage or wine, or a few glasses, or a bottle...no judgement here on that...we'll all get through our remodels and builds. And on here, we all understand that special pain.

Seriously though.

My DH hears the sound of the tape measure being extended for, oh, probably the 80 millionth time and says "do you think it's any different today?"

It's nuts, I'm nuts and you are probably nuts, too.

Enjoy!

deedles- The tape measure never ends! When we were doing our floor plan every night I would stare at it and stare at it and sit there with the scale ruler and my dh would say, "What can you possibly be looking at again?"

Then choosing a yellow for my cabs... that has been going on since before Christmas and I Just picked one last week! The hours I poured over those colors- painting them everywhere. I ACTUALLY LAUGHED IN HYSTERICS OUT LOUD AS I LOOKED AT YET ANOTHER WRONG YELLOW. I also talked out lout to myself (not something I EVER do) to convince myself yet another yellow was just not right!
My 6yo dd said last week, "Mommy, if the outside of our house was yellow you would just stand out side and stare at it all day!"

I try to put on the front that I'm normal in front of gc, store owners, etc. but I think it's too far gone. They are onto me!

the good news - it will be done and you will love it. i could not be happier with my kitchen - it makes me smile every day.

Ah, ha, ha, ha, ha!!!

This is SO ME!
LOOOONG after I'd memorized every single measurement, I CONTINUED to measure! Just in case I measured wrong, or didn't take into account the crookedness of the walls, or the thickness of the mouldings, etc, etc...

Isn't insanity defined as "continuing to repeat the same thing over and over expecting different results" ?

We TRULY have lost it!

Isn't insanity defined as "continuing to repeat the same thing over and over expecting different results" ? "

oh dear. I do that. measure and re-measure. I think I'm ok tho because I always get a different number - even if it IS the same wall or floor!

Maybe that's also why we had a "who's on first" discussion about the number of drawer stacks in the plan. *sigh*

I've found I get along quite well without mine.

Nacy

I'm comforted by the others who measured so much that they memorized the numbers. Sometimes I would ask if contractors if they were sure they had measured correctly, especially when they were off from my own numbers. I used to measure, re-measure, re-remeasure, and re-re-measure. My best friend would call me up and ask if she'd interrupted my measuring.

At random times of the day I would suddenly have new ideas on layouts, and I'd HAVE to draw, re-draw, and re-re draw everything. I would sit in meetings at work and calculate the possible cabinet dimensions or work up budget figures. Luckilly I work with numbers and financials so no one realized I wasn't taking notes at the meeting, I had graph paper and tracing paper, samples, etc. I visited dozens of showrooms and had 2-3 contingency plans for every decision.

Guess what, it all paid off in the end and I love the result.

Classic 60s LOL