Can you please post pics of the other elements? Are they already installed?

Porcelain slate lookalikes will have zero shaling, won't scratch, and will never need sealing. Look for ones that have a V5 variability. I'ma big fan of Mannington's Serengeti Slate in the Midnight Mist color after I saw it at LWO's grand opening of her showroom. It was very realistic. Here's a pic from her Houzz page.

[Transitional Bathroom[(https://www.houzz.com/photos/transitional-bathroom-ideas-phbr1-bp~t_712~s_2112) by Other Metro Kitchen & Bath Designers ProSource Memphis

Greenhaven
Nothing is installed yet
I have attached a picture of the knick knack shelving and
A soapstone sample.
DR floor is oak but we don't want wood in kitchen - partly because
we don't want the responsibility of it and because
It feels like too much against the cabinets.

This post was edited by ctbert on Sat, Aug 30, 14 at 20:48

Dal Tile has a couple different series of slate look porcelain tiles. I have seen their Ayers Rock - Rustic Remnant tile installed on a kitchen floor and I think it looks great. I think it would go very well with your other elements without being as dark as some slates. The picture below is from Dal's website.
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My son has chosen Ayers Rock Majestic Mound for his up coming bathroom remodel. It has mostly of grays and beige/light gold in it. It might look good in your kitchen too.
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Hollysprings and badgergal
Thanks for the ideas!
My husband thinks we should go with porcelain but
I've really been drawn to the slate look .
Anyway, I will check them out .