I'm not a color expert but, I have used Ellen Kennon and her full spectrum paint for many rooms. She will offer consultations complementary as long as you use her paint. I like everything she has suggested and she even made a custom color for me when the amount of pigment wasn't just right for my space.

Whites are the hardest!

Here is a link that might be useful: Ellen Kennon full spectrum paint

frosty carrera would have been my pick for the counter as it is grey enough and slightly warmer to enhance the overall space.then i would have taken the ceiling color in the inspiration pic-and weaken the strength of the color at least by 30 or maybe 50 percent [just get it very pale] and done the walls in that.The trim-do you mean moldings/etc/-semi gloss warmish white or off white.

If you want a fairly stark white that has a hint of warmth, Oxford White is my trim color, I quite like it

Because you're not so fond of the pinky tone of your cabs, you might want to blend with them (minimizing them) and contrast with the blues (maximizing them) instead of the other way around.

Looking at my palette, something like Classic Color White Winged Dove 1457 might be a nice place to start. It is a fairly cool white, which I think you want, but I think it has the faintest taupe/pink undertone. In fact BM already have a color palette with dull blues already matched to 1457.

If you find you have to get away from whites, another great light neutral could be something like BM Edgecomb Grey. This is a very light tan and looks great in my bedroom against a dull grey-navy. It has the faintest hint of pink/purple undertone so might coordinate really well with your cabinets and will contrast and bring out the bluish tone of your floors.

Edgecomb:

You could also go the other way and do a very light blue-green grey, something like BM moonshine 2140-60. This would look very pretty with your cabs but you'd have to see if it emphasized the pinky or just looked pretty with it.

Two more thoughts: white blush oc 86 and alabaster oc 129.

Thanks Robo

Are these all BM colors? Sherwin Willimas doesnt seem to have a ton of whites in their color offerings