You'll get better replies if you post a photo.

I am not sure about the oak, red and black color combo. Are you loving the red?

A while back, there was a great thread on designing around oak cabinets. Have you looked at that thread for some ideas? I'll link to it.

Here is a link that might be useful: DAT9 - Keeping Oak

Dilly

My cabinets are not the golden oak that was pictured in the link. They are a darker oak .

Here is a pic of kitchen right now

Another pic. Would appreciate any help as what to do.

I came across this blog a while ago and think they did an amazing job.

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Here is a link that might be useful: update to oak kitchen

My gut is that adding dark colors to the oak and white appliance mix wouldn't work without a change to the appliance color and/or oak.

You might find the following thread interesting. (Sorry, I don't know how to do the fancy hyperlink style...)

http://ths.gardenweb.com/forums/load/kitchbath/msg0519580318802.html

You have such a bright cheerful space. If it were my space I would not use a black sink & uba tuba--I think it would be way too dark. What is your approx. counter budget ? $50/sq ft-$75/sq ft $100/sq ft?
I would look around at lighter materials(maybe even formica or wood?). You can contact a Craft-Art dealer for an estimate. You don't have too much square footage so while Craft-Art is not inexpensive it may not be too bad.
How about getting the uppers painted white(or gel stained) or a light color ? It could look like a nice cottagey room. Do a search for "Garden Web Two toned kitchens" in your search engine there are a few really helpful threads. Also check out Linelle's beautiful kitchen. I'll try to find it or look on "finished kitchens". After you select your favorite materials(counter,sink) post your choices here then we can all pick a paint and backsplash! :)
On the red wall I would remove everything including the curtain(maybe a colorful patterned fabric shade--after you decide on kitchen elements)and add some reclaimed wood shelves or a plate rack with few simple items you use daily(small pitcher, crock of silverware etc.). These should color coordinate with the final wall color or use ivory/white.
**disclaimer, I'm partial to two toned since that's what I have.

Here is a link that might be useful: two tone

Here's the link beasty posted

Here is a link that might be useful: link

I can't find Linelle's kitchen(all white) but she did a great job--she really transformed the space.

Here is a link that might be useful: example of painted oak

Another idea...I love this cheerful kitchen.

Here is a link that might be useful: hlove's kitchen

Thanks, eatrealfood (love your name, btw)!

I really like the updated oak kitchen nsoccermom posted above. The crown moulding and backsplash really change the look.