In BM, linen white is popular if you want something creamier, or cotton balls for a soft white but not too creamy.

The only real way to know is to test them. You can get sample pots, put it on plywood (say 8x10 pieces) and prop it up in your kitchen. There is just no way around trial and error.

Perhaps surprisingly, white is the hardest color to choose. All white has color in it, and it can end up being blue or yellow or pink or .....

Have you considered satin vs semi gloss?

I echo the suggestion to consider satin. BM Mascarpone seems white, but slightly creamy in my light. Very pleasing. Get some chips of the whites you're considering, look at them in your light at home, choose a couple you like, then buy some samples to test out in your light. White is HARD!

Here is a list of white/off whites I've made from others here who have painted theirs:

BM:
White Dove
China White
Mascarpone
Bone White
Linen White
Ivory White
Cloud
Chantilly Lace

SW Casa Blanca

Behr Powdered Snow

Ours are painted Timid White using Benjamin Moore Cabinet Coat.....it's nice soft white.....doesn't look creamy white until you put actual white up against it, then you can really tell the difference

I spent a lot of time trying to find the "perfect White" that was neither too gray, too white, too pink or too yellow. Many times I thought I had the perfect color until I lived with it for a couple days. After painting lots of sample pieces and observing them under the various light conditions during the day I decided on SW Casa Blanca. For me it was perfect "creamy white".

Ours are BM Acadia White, which I really love---we didn't pick it (some "color consultant" chose it for all the trim in our house when the PO was getting ready to sell) but we loved it in the rest of the house and chose to match it in the kitchen. I was nervous since the kitchen would be Aura paint and the rest of the house was oil-based, which had yellowed over time to a really creamy white---but it turned out perfectly.

Not great lighting, but here's Acadia White:

I chose powdered snow by Behr.
It was on a total whim as I prefer to use BM paints but
this color was exactly what I wanted with the lighting
in my kitchen.

Now it is not for everyone. It can come across as too
creamy. My kitchen has buckets of light from 2nd story
windows, many windows around the breakfast area and
the way the light plays around the space. This soft color
for my kitchen was perfect. I also have white painted
trim and I wanted them to look as close as possible but
still be different.

And keep in mind the age of your home. An antique home
will not be a stark white it would be a softer more
off white of sorts. And a newer home might be crisp white
with it's trim. I found myself pouring over white samples
from every paint company around me. I drove my family
nuts.

I urge you to spend $50 on some paint samples. Get a few
various ones you like or the most popular and see which
one works for you. I wanted a flat matte finish for my
cabs. I chose eggshell.

Here is a cool link about white paints. Good luck and
once everything is done you will love the look.
~boxer
(A white kitchen fan)

Here is a link that might be useful: Design Evolution

What color are your walls and flooring? If it were me, I would consider them in my decision of cabinet color. As mtnrdredux said,"All white has color in it," so consider the colors that are already in your kitchen to guide you to the correct "white" for your situation.

Thank You all so much for your comments, I am really leaning toward BM White Dove, not sure what type of finish yet possibly Satin. Rayle- My floors are light oak laminate and the walls right now are SW Meadow Trail with accent wall in SW Cargo Pants. I do plan on repainting the kitchen something light and airy, I was thinking BM Wickham Grey, as my counters have a grayish/blueish/black tone to them. I have put up some samples of "Creamy" Colors for the cabinets and it just doesnt look right with the counters! Geez, who thought picking out a "White" would be so hard! Thank You All!

I did BM Linen White Satin Impervo. Two years now and they are holding up great!

We fell in love with Ace "Chalk," but I'm a fan of BM paints so we had it color matched at Sherwin Williams.

I think part of the reason the white you tried looks so white is because you can see it adjacent to your current cabs. White Dove is a popular white, so I don't think you chose poorly. :o) If you hold up a white sheet of paper next to it, you'll be able to see that it isn't really a bright white. And I agree that going to a satin will help.

Mine are BM White Dove. Not really a white, white at all, more creamy. We used satin impervo.

You can tell that next to the white sink, they are creamier.