Just be there for her and willing to discuss whatever she wants. When you visit, bring a meal and you could offer to do some laundry or vac.

Mari, I don't know what your beliefs are, but I gotta tell you, prayer is a pretty powerful thing. :-)

There are a lot of people praying for her Bill.

Try the American Cancer SocietyÂs website. ItÂs a very informative site, although some of the statistics can be a bit grim. I know that their book lists the common treatments for each type of cancer and its typical side effects. Most chemos go after the cancer pretty effectively, but often other substances are also destroyed. My mother almost died from potassium depletion. In addition to tempting her to eat, you can temp her to eat what she needs.

One of the things many ill people find especially hard is the impact their illness is having on their loved ones. Anything you can do to help the family keep some semblance of normalcy would probably be appreciated. Water the plants, clean, cook, etc. Take the kids to their activities, pick them up, and help them with their homework. Find out what their favorite meals are and get them on the table.

Here is a link that might be useful: American Cancer Society