I agree endorphan about mixing drugs thats why i want to look up everything i can on the herb. and was'nt going to post anything about it untill i did but Kim needs something to hold on to and i thought this might be hope. It was for me,most i've had for years. I quit taking prozac abt a month ago. I'd never heard of this herb either. When i saw the article in Science News. I was surprised as i don't remember them ever having an article on herbs before. They're not anything but a science magazine. Here is a link to the article. I tried 4 times to link this but was refused each time,maybe someone else will have better luck. the link addy is http;//sciencenews.org/articles/20070922/bob8.asp sorry i could'nt link it. Name of article is Warming to a Cold War Herb. vickie

hi Trish! i know just how you feel, but things are different when it isn't your parent, you feel that you can't just "let it go" and basically tell them like it is. in one of my other posts i mentioned that i was going to see a "mental health specialist" (ie - shrink). well i spent all that time answering all their questions and had an appointment the following week, to find out that i am "normal" that i am a wonderful caregiver and was told i don't know how you keep it together and do everything you do. - duhh for me it's something i have to do out of love and nothing else. i was also told that when Al started getting really ill, that i had to face facts that is when your marriage really ended (yes, she said that to me!) call me old fashion but i thought marriage was forever. but one thing that she did tell me and promise her was that i would not bring in any elderly parents or relatives into the house and care for them ill or not (yes she said that!). what about when families all lived together under one roof? she said it was a receipe for disaster. i really don't know about that because it all depends on the person and the family. i do know where your're coming from with your son. it's so hard, and because oftheir age (my kids are 23 and 18). it's fine for the first while and then the novelty wears off. when Al's mother was alive, you couldn't pay my kids enough for them to even spend time with her. when our son lived at home, i made sure i went to every sporting event that he was in and spent time with him and his sister separately. carley our dd, only remembers her dad being ill, so she doesn't know any different. i do know how it is with homework, even at the best of times things are sometimes hard, plus with your fil, it even makes things worse. i have given up keeping that clean,clean home and figure it's better spending time with my kids and Al. i am happy to say that our kids turned out better than fine! matthew was promoted again last week (second time in 6 weeks) and carley is now in university for free, because she studied hard to get those marks to get scholarships,burseries and grants that you don't pay back. on the other hand the girl across the street is a month younger than carley (they are not friends even though they went to school together) and she did not graduate from high school and has a criminal record. so it shows everyone is different. do you have anything called EAP (employee assistance programmes) through your or your dh's work, you can include any family member just to talk things out and get things off your chest (they are free one visit per month) this didn't work for me and our kids didn't feel like opening up to a stranger, but it may work for you. you probably feel like me tired, not feeling like doing much but apparently things are supposed to get better, but when!(lol). i am on paxil and actually have a doctor's appointment in an hour, the mental health person said that the dosage should be raised (but shrinks are not allowed to write perscriptions) the only thing i've noticed is that i've gained about 20 pounds! i have gotten the best advice here though, from our dear,dear friends, which is take time for you! the laundry and dishes will wait! and i'd like to give you a big hug too!!!! debbie ps - really nice weather here, and you should see how pretty the leaves have changed here!

Well, I'm almost afraid to say this but I haven't seen a moth in 2 weeks. Of course I still have my HVAC registers covered with insect screen but I haven't seen any behind the screen either, as I was seeing before. This happy state of affairs could be due to one or more of the following factors: 1. When the pest control guy applied a little bit of spray in about four places (without drilling the walls... heck, he hasn't even called me back about that...what am I paying these people for anyway??), by incredible good luck the spray happened to hit exactly where the larva were (yeah right). 2. My sealing up of every opening I could find from those two walls into the house, was a better job than I thought. 3. The moths are "between flights"; meaning that one generation is finished, and I won't see any more until the next generation of larva pupate into adult fliers. That could take anywhere from 3 weeks to almost a year. About the pheromone traps, when the pest control guys first came out they did try those, although they explained that normally they only work on the smaller moth species such as meal moths, clothes moths, and such. The big brown suckers usually aren't attracted to them. I think they were correct because I had adults flying in the same rooms as the pheromone traps and none went anywhere near them. Mona, how are you doing? Who is winning, Team Mothra or Team Charlotte? (okay I read 'Charlotte's Web' a long time ago but I still don't like spiders much)

I've heard the ads on the radio and they are very convincing. Lucinda Basset is a survivor of anxiety and overcame it on her own. Now she provides her method for others. The tapes are not cheap and apparently her approach is common sense and self-talk, but sometimes we need to be reminded of the common sense approach to things. For myself, just saying "calm down, your fears aren't real, you're just being anxious" has had a BIG calming affect when I feel very anxious. Taking several deep breaths also helps. I've had anxiety all my life (without panic attacks) so I am not saying it's easy, but it is possible to overcome, or at least reduce, without meds. Jen Here is a link that might be useful: Lucinda Basset