They know it's you so a covert operation is out of the question....such as filming... If your other neighbors are on board how about an intervention Not the attack kind ~ More like "we understand the difficulties of training a dog~ This is what worked for me ~ Let's take walks together and help you work on the problems with the dog~" Don't attack with what the husband is doing wrong.. Instead sympathize with having to deal with a difficult dog. If you can take the wife aside and explain the dogs are like men~ If you want him to cut the lawn you praise him when he does~ You do not nag him when he doesn't... It's like when people rub the dogs nose in the pee accident in the house~ Better to have the party in the yard when he does it right.. If the dog was trained the husband could have called the dog to him and told him to "drop-it".. No chasing ...no hitting. To teach a dog to come on command carry treats in your pocket at all times~ (Yes I'm a treat person ! Don't go there people) Call the dog over now and then and give them a treat.. The treats dwindle off but the dog will always come. I've not always been this patient ~ I've had my share of miss-steps in dog training. But......In the past 10 years I've had at least 5 puppies that have NEVER pee'd in the house... I also trained them to go in the part of the yard I want them to go in. Of course my neighbors want to know why there's a party going on in my back yard with every new puppy :)

OK maybe this just touched a nerve for me, but I really hate to hear about people suffering from digestive upset of any kind, because it has haunted my family. My dad has ulcerative colitis, and I have IBS and also this interstitial cystitis thing, which is chronic inflammation. Same with migraines also, which I get, they are chronic inflammation too, along with their friend, menstrual cramps, which is uterine inflammation. So I've been round the bend for many years trying to figure out how to stop my body from becoming "inflamed." Same with ulcers of the stomach, you've basically got the stomach tissues becoming inflamed with gastritis. So call it gastritis, colitis, cystitis, it basically means "inflammation" of the "fill in body part." And I've tried every imaginable herb and diet advice. A lot of it is just hooey, IMHO, even coming from doctors. Also, if you get chronically "inflamed" then you are going to be prescribed and take "anti-inflammatory" drugs, which then have their own fun side effects. Along with pain killers and anti-biotics, all of which wreak havoc with your body, IMHO. Of course what are you going to do, not taking them is also bad because of the pain and infections that won't go away. Here's a few things I have learned. If you don't have a food allergy or sensitivity, then going without it isn't going to help one bit. I've gone off gluten and dairy and acid and nightshade and purines etc. and not much of it has helped. But it did help me identify my triggers, which going without them is very helpful. For example, I really have a difficult time with the whole "low acid" diet recommendations because your stomach is full of acid and I don't think you can throw your whole body's pH off by just eating a tomato. Maybe a bushel of them! The real issue is avoiding foods that are going to make your own stomach acids increase, not foods that are acidic. Having said that, I still avoid some high acid foods. For me, absolute DEATH food is anything with artificial sweetener in it. If your daughter was ingesting that kind of stuff, I highly recommend she stop. Also bad for me is alcohol and tea. If I was trying to rebuild my gut bacteria, I wouldn't drink those things. Alcohol is the waste products of bacteria so too much of it is toxic to bacteria. Also, tea contains tannins which are toxic compounds made by plants. A little is OK, a lot and you'll pickle yourself. (Note: that was a JOKE, not a scientific pronouncement!). Some herbs stimulate stomach acids, some calm them. I have good luck with fennel, which is given to babies to help with colic. Chamomile too. Tumeric and saffron also are anti-inflammatory. But a little bit goes a long way with those. Parsley, cilantro and other green herbs like basil and dill are also wonderful for digestive health. I already went on about probiotics, they are a very good idea but it really takes some doing to get live cultures. A lot of folks are into doing their own, food culturing, I may try it some day. A lot of products that you can buy that might have contained probiotics may not have any live cultures left by the time you eat them. Dairy, especially modern pasteurized dairy is pretty hard on the stomach. Don't get me wrong, unpasteurized milk carries lots of health risks, but it also if managed properly, has some health benefits. But if I was going off to college I wouldn't fuss with finding special dairy products. I would just avoid high lactose ones like milk and fresh cheeses. I do really well avoiding dairy. But if you're going the soy route, make sure it is organic. The best thing, and the hardest thing, is just to avoid junk foods that are high sugar and use refined carbs. That includes most bread and baked goods! Those are my weaknesses. Also, soluble fiber is very good for the stomach. If I have an IBS flare up, a bowl of oatmeal is often the best medicine. I can't tout the benefits of oats enough, although some folks are sensitive to them. If that's you guys, never mind. Other soluble fibers are barley, white and sweet potatoes, squash, bananas, berries, beans, (they have insoluble too, so watch out!), apples, carrots, almonds, flax, (I don't do flax, I sub sunflower or pumpkin seeds instead, because you have to grind flax or it is a total wash and it has insoluble fiber too)j. I don't try and AVOID bad foods, I have just developed a repertoire of recipes I like with the good foods. I eat lots of oat things like oat bread, oat muffins, granola, (in moderation since it is loaded with fat and sugar), oat pancakes, etc. I also throw butternut squash in with a lot of things, and routinely make roasted root veggies which are great. Luckily I love greens too, so eat lots of braised greens like cabbage, collards, kale, etc. Again, in moderation because they have some negative chemicals in them if you go overboard on them. Insoluble fiber in my case is NOT good, so watch out for things that are high in that, one of which is wheat bran. Also lots of fruits and veggies have the insoluble fiber but can be cooked to help soften it. Corn is somewhat problematic but I eat it without problems. Here are links to three recipes that I have made and liked that are loaded with soluble fibers. Asian Style Corn Chowder Note: Make this with coconut milk instead of the recommended cream. And add some carrots and a green veggie like green beans, pea pods or broccoli. Pumpkin Shitake Risotto. Note: Use UNCURED bacon. I make this with pureed butternut squash, just as good. Can throw some spinach in it too. Thai Pumpkin and Chicken Curry Note: use mild red curry paste and don't go overboard with the hot sauce! Same with this, throw some cabbage or spinach in with it. Also, if your daughter is taking NSAIDs for a chronic pain problem, she needs to get that as much under control as she can, because pain killers and terrible for the gut. One thing about pain killers, better to take a moderate amount proactively at the onset of pain than to wait until the pain is unbearable and then you have to take much, much more. There are a lot of books out there on managing chronic pain, your daughter might want to check them out. I had been healthy as a horse in my youth so it took me a while to realize what I had wasn't just a temporary headache or a bad period month, but rather an ongoing problem that had to be managed. So I started out way abusing pain killers. I was popping Vanquish like sweet tarts. Again, pain killers don't do much good once the pain is bad, but you can use NSAIDs to manage menstrual pain if taken ahead of time, before the pain gets bad. And honestly, she might want to think about going on the pill if that is her problem, because that was something that nipped my bad periods in the bud. I wouldn't want to be on them forever but for a while to see her through this upheaval time might be OK. But you can also manage them through exercise, like yoga and running. When I was very physically fit I didn't have near the problems I did later on in life. Of course maybe that's not her problem, maybe it's a skeletal or muscular problem. But at any rate, an exercise regime is pretty close to a miracle cure for a lot of ailments. It's just sticking with it that is difficult.

Thanks everyone for the suggestions... dbfirewife, I'm pregnant so I'm limited on what I can take. I dont think I have a sinus infection. I had one a few months back and the pain is definitely different. I think alot of it is tension that migrates into my head. I should probably get regular massages. I too love a scalp massage!! I get my hair done Thursday and she always massages my scalp for a few minutes while the conditioner sets. Love it!! Regarding Vicodin...I have some, and it would probably work. Problem is (if my doc approves), it knocks me out and that's not fesible during the day with an active 2 year old, unfortunately!!! I wish I could just go lay down in the quiet whenever I want! But I do take naps when he does; that helps. I might be having caffeine withdrawls. I used to drink soda and when I'm pregnant, I have no desire for soda at all so I've stopped and have been drinking water (and alot of it!!!) Maybe I'll try caffeinated coffee this morning and see if that helps. Again, thanks! If it doesn't let up, I'll talk to my doctor.

Very interesting thoughts and thank you so much for your kindness everyone! I kind of expected that my post would get glossed over...I underestimated everyone's willingness to share, and help. You're sincerely wonderful folks :). I guess it's the kind of thing that only seems like an inconvenience...but the reality is that lack of sleep (and nightmares) are both debilitating... April, I'm like you in that meds don't seem to affect me in the expected way...A lot of them, from pain killers to anti-anxiety meds don't seem to work on me. Weed is not legal here, so I won't say if it helps or not...but I imagine that it relaxes me enough to fall asleep. And that, in itself, is like a little vacation from the norm... I have magnesium that I haven't taken in ages (I'm supposed to take it while I'm on this other med) so I'm now taking that at night. I do take Plaquenil (an anti-malarial that was prescribed for my RA) and just read that a rare side effect is nightmares.... I do know that I have trouble relaxing...you know that feeling of sinking into the mattress? I rarely get that. I noticed this morning that I sleep with my shoulders hunched up...and he nightmare thing is causing this cycle of anxiety/nightmares/anxiety... And now I'm boring everyone with my issues... And I'm sorry for that...I tend to ramble when I'm tired. Oh plus no naps for me. I just don't have that ability. :(