Long Term Depression

14 years ago

Hi, I have a 68 year old friend who has suffered from depression for many, many years. She had been on a mild depression drug for a quite a while prescribed by her family doctor. The depression then worsened and her doctor referred her to a psychiatrist in May of 2009 and she has been on so many different medications with no relief. It's not that she was jumping from drug to drug - but gave each time to give her some relief. She often says she spends so much time waiting for the drug to kick in - it doesn't and then on to something else. She recently changed doctors and for the past ten days has been on Prestiq 50mg. Still nothing - not even a slight change. We were going out yesterday and she cancelled - she just could not go. It seems as if she goes out only when necessary - bank, etc. However, she is able to hide her depression when she sees or speaks to her children.

She is so discouraged and tired of feeling this way.

Any comments or advice? Thanks.

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blueheron
14 years ago
Does she exercise at all? Exercise does have a beneficial effect on the mind. From what you said, she doesn't even want to go out of the house, but could you get her to just take a walk with you? I know it's not a cure-all, but every little bit helps.

Also, when hopefully the meds kick in, she might volunteer in her community. This is also helpful for depressed folks. It takes the person out of him or herself and gives a lift to the spirits.

I do hope her doctor hits on the right medication that can really help her.
oceanbaby
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14 years ago
Thanks for your reply. Gave her some info on a near-by exercise class - which starts in April. It's cold and snowy here which is not a help - so no walks. She's tried volunteering in the past - - goes a few times and stops. Came to breakfast with a group of friends recently but some friends asked if she was okay as she was so quiet so people are starting to notice. What I was wondering about has anyone been on anti-depressants for 9 months with no change whatsoever? I don't know how she stands it as she is barely functioning and is always sleeping - day and night. She's feeling that perhaps she is supposed to feel this way - and in talking with her each day I feel she is slowly losing hope amd is sinking fast. The new doctor is telling her the same thing it takes time to find the right combination and not to lose hope. Are there people who are never able to get back to their old self - or at least close to it? What happens to these people? Thanks.
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I have suffered long-term depression for years, I am on a combo of Cymbalta and Trazadone and I still just want to sleep all day and despise being in social situations. I am comfortable with staying home by myself, it is what makes me happy, I have been trying for years to try to feel sociable but I think this is just how some people are wired.

I hope your friend finds something that helps her.
catherinet
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Maybe she isn't on a high enough dose of the med. And like michelle mentioned, sometimes it takes a combination of drugs. Its also very important to have a doctor who knows how to deal with these drugs and which ones help which sort of problem.
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Also......might she benefit from bright light therapy in winter?
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Good luck to your friend.
P.S. To answer your question......usually by 2-3 months, you'll feel the results of the med.
michelle_phxaz
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Oh, yes, I forgot to mention that I have hypothyroidism as well. And Catherinet is right, it does take 2-3 months sometimes to feel even the slightest change, rarely does it take less than a month to feel any effects.

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