This sounds so much like my situation 5 years ago and if you were 25 years older I might think you were my ex husband's new wife. Don't blame the kid and don't blame his mom. Blame your 'husband'. My ex did this and in the end, his new wife won... She got him cause I was done with him. He would tell her that he was just trying to make me happy or keep me happy or that I was threatening him or that I was keeping him from seeing his child etc etc etc. Never true. He was getting his cake and eating it too. It all sounds so familiar and honey, it doesn't change nor does it stop. HE is lying to you. HE slept with someone else. HE ignored your calls. HE ignored your texts. No one else did that or made those decisions. Unfortunately, what it sounds like is he is still too young to be settled down(my ex was 35 so age really does not always have to be a factor) The hostility between you and your husband's ex will probably never end because you are fighting for the same man and neither one of you has realized yet that HE is NOT the last man on earth and that HE is not the answer to all of your dreams. There is happiness out there. This is not happiness. You just need to realize that you can be happy and that you need to make the decision to be happy. Being with a man that is still entangled with his ex(mother of his child) will never end well. He has moved on before completely that relationship. You see... I moved on. I found happiness. I found a man that was available mentally, emotionally and physically. Not still 'entangled' with his ex and their child. (he doesn't have an ex or a child) But MY ex is still with that same woman that is in your position and 5 years later they are no happier today than they were the first day they met. It's obvious that all of the lies and cheating and ignoring phone calls and texts, still haunts her or else she wouldnt have a problem allowing my ex to co parent with me about our daughter. He isn't even allowed to speak to me on the phone. She has to keep such a close eye on Him constantly and I can't imagine what kind of life that would be like. That you can't even trust your own man to visit family or to o to work or to go to the store because he might 'fall' and endin up sleeping with someone.... Think long and hard. You can get out of this and I am not a 'go get a divorce now' advocate but because I've been in a situation similiar and I see the misery that has followed these two for 5 long years, i can't think of any other solution for someone in your shoes. I'm SO sorry. This sucks. But on the other hand, I still can't understand why you married him and why you have to keep it quiet?? And take it from the ex wife ... If he isn't telling you what is going on with the parenting plan and just discussing with you what is going on, there probably is more to the story.

I had Graves' disease in the late 80's. (That's overactive thyroid - I lost weight while eating like a pig, which was nice, but my resting heart rate was 112 and I thought I was going nuts, which wasn't so nice.:) The doctors eventually used radioactive iodine to kill my thyroid, so now I'm in a similar situation to you, with an underactive thyroid. Your symptoms sound like your thyroid is definitely underactive, and you'll need a synthetic thyroid hormone, like Synthroid. Sounds like you needed to keep taking it for the Hashimoto's, with the symptoms you're having. It does take awhile to get the meds and dosage right, and it's never perfect, but it's pretty good. One thing to know about synthetic thyroid hormones is that they're not interchangeable. This is one case where you don't want to go with the generic, unless you started with the generic. (At least that was true 4-5 years ago when I last checked - not sure about now.) I do understand your concern with thyroid cancer, given that it's in your family and that Hashimoto's is associated with a higher risk for the cancer. I guess all you can do is to keep up with your treatment and keep in mind that if the worst happens and you do get thyroid cancer, it's one of the most treatable cancers. Very, very few people die of it, even after 30 years. Not that you want to get it, of course. Good luck. I know how awful it is to feel so tired all the time. Even with treatment, you'll have some of that, but you get used to it.

(((((Kitykat))))). Given that it's your daughter who told, I'll take back what I said about the gossip by #2. Having a trusted confidant is also important, and not the same as gossiping. I totally get what you meant about wanting to assess it on a rational level, but in doing so, it also created the false impression that #1, #2, and #3 are equals, like cousins or girlfriends so something. This is far more complicated than that. #1 and #2 are (should be) equals, but #1 + #2 are a unit disequal from #3. The relationship between #1 and #3 is also highly unequal to the relationship between #2 and #3. In this circumstance, if apologizing to the SIL will make your daughter's life easier, it's worth doing. I totally understand why you're disinclined to do so but it sounds like you daughter has more than she can cope with with him, and it's a small enough concession if it'll help her out. You could apologize for being rude. That's no skin off your nose, nor even a concession. If it will do nothing to ease your daughter's misery, no need to bother. Least said soonest mended.

Hi. Sure hope the kids are back at school soon! What an experience! Paint color: The first photos you showed, the sofas did look a little purple. Second series, they did not. So, I would wait until all the elements are in the room and then make a decision. Rug: the size, from my calculations should be at least 6 x 9 feet and preferably 8 x 10. (For the love seat area especially, 8 x 10 is preferred if you want some table on one or both ends . The rug you show appears to have a touch of green in it, so I would stay away from it. Just one more tone to deal with. Esale rugs offers free returns. You haven't posted a photo of a room you like, so not sure exactly what style you want. I can guess, but not positive. You can have both rugs the same. Others here will tell you that you should not. But, I think they can be the same OR coordinate. Either is fine. Coffee Table: I can't say what kind of coffee table you should buy, as I don't know your design goals. My impression is that you are trying to go more contemporary and that you like a little glam. Here is what I would do if I were you. -Get the furniture set in the new arrangement and see how you like the flow. I think you will. It gives people choices and easy in and out.