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Should I feel guilty?

Posted by mom2jared (My Page) on
Wed, Jul 6, 11 at 15:12

I haven't visited my mom's grave since last September and I almost had the chance this week when I went up to New York for her unveiling of her footstone, but my Dad took ill and everything got cancelled. It was decided by the family that if one of us couldn't go, there was no point in going. I had no say in the matter and I had no way of even getting to the cemetary which was two hours away. Fortunately, some local relatives did the unveiling service for us and even took pictures of the footstone, but I still feel guilty that I wasn't there. My Dad kept telling me to go without him, but I knew in my heart it wasn't the right thing to do because my mother would have wanted me to take care of him.

Everyone keeps telling me that it's just a plot of land and mom wouldn't know if I was there or not, but I still feel guilty.

Please tell me I did the right thing!

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RE: Should I feel guilty?

"my mother would have wanted me to take care of him."

see there?
You already knew you did the right thing!

Take care of your dear father & take care of yourself;
he's the one she chose to be your daddy, & you're the next link in her chain of life.

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