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Writing a condolence card

Posted by popi (My Page) on
Fri, Apr 18, 08 at 4:46

I have bought the card, and mulled over the words to put into it. It is for a lady who lost her husband,he was 79.

I know them quite well, and the husband was such a lovely,kind, funny, thoughtful person. We worked together as volunteers, once a month for many years, so I got to know him quite well.

In the card I want to say something positive..not the "so sad for your loss" words. I want to convey words of hope, something like "I will come around and help you in the garden" sort of thing.

I just can't formulated the words...can you give me some ideas ?

Thanks everyone.


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RE: Writing a condolence card

Popi, you said everything you need to say in your post!

Dear ......,
I have come to know both of you quite well, and wanted to say that I thought your husband (or his name) was such a lovely, kind, funny, thoughtful person. We worked together as volunteers, once a month, for many years, so I got to know him quite well. I treasure the time we spent together!

I would love to spend some time with you, too - please allow me to come and help you in the garden.

Then give her your name and phone number, so she can call you when she's ready to spend time with you.

RE: Writing a condolence card

Many thanks, Kayjones, you have helped me clarify my words!

I will put pen to card today.

Thanks again.


RE: Writing a condolence card

Popi, I am sorry you lost your dear friend, but hopefully, his wife will be your new best friend!

RE: Writing a condolence card

Thanks Kay

I have sent the card, a recycled paper card, as he was an environmentalist. He used to ride his bike to the shops, along busy roads, because he didnt want to burn fossils fuels. He also got solar panels on his roof, for their hot water needs. Such a wonderful person...I feel quite sad that I won't see him any more, but I guess its worse for his wife and children. He was one of those rare people who showed an interest in others and didn't talk about themselves the whole time. A charming man.

They had the funeral in their back yard because he didn't like funeral directors.

He brings a smile to my face, and always will.

Thanks again Kay, for your interest.


RE: Writing a condolence card

Popi, what a lovely friendship - I know he will live on in your memory forever. That friendship and love is to be desired by EVERYONE!

RE: Writing a condolence card

Popi, I'm also sorry for your loss.......the only other thing I would suggest is not to wait for her to call you since people in grief often don't reach out and often don't want to bother others (because in their minds, they think they are) might want to give her a month and contact her, she would probably really appreciate that!

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