My Mom Passed Away
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Comments (1)Can you tell a bit about the lighting/watering situation? Repotting them will not prevent them from beome scraggly but if they are reaching for light they may not be getting enough. Are you able to post a picture? Photobucket offers free pic sharing and will give you a code that you can put in your gardenweb message allowing us to see a pic. you can also link ur pics. This will help with plant id'ing....See MoreAfraid to look at my Mom's death certificate
Comments (1)socal2010 Just fold it up and put it in a folder to give to the bank. Thank you for the sweet things you said to me about my family. Brother bought a condo and sister went to live at her daughters house. I helped my sister pack up all the stuff left behind and we had some huge yard sales. But I dragged home tons of stuff in boxes. I only had a path thru my back bedroom. It has taken me a year to go through those boxes and I still have a hard time with the paperwork. I have to wonder why I felt the need to keep the things I did... what 50 yr old woman needs 12 hammers? There is something about seeing death on paper that makes it too real for me. I can not pretend if its in black and white on an official document... Looking back at those first days after Momma died, I don't know how we did it, we just did what we had to do.... I had to call everyone I love and find out where they were, know they were safe. I did this every day and sometimes several times a day for months. I made them all say aloud that they promised me they would not die within a year. I still have all that paperwork, it isnt going anywhere. I put it in a big manillia envelope in a box labeled 'stuff to sort thru later' Know that you are loved by many people and be open to those unexpected friends who will love you through this time. sending you love and peace... Vicki...See MoreMy Mom Just Passed Away
Comments (8)Marion, thanks for the kind words. Funny thing is my parents next door neighbor at their old house in Detroit is named Marion. And she was one of only a few people that called my mom on the phone to talk. My mom was blind for her last 15 years on Earth and the phone was a lifeline. I called her twice a day religiously and took her shopping (she loved to shop..even being blind..I would describe things to her and she would 'feel' them). I should call her friend Marion. Every summer I would take some of my homegrown tomatoes to her and I didn't do it this year (shame on me). Anyway, I have had several 'signs' from my mom. The first one was a couple of weeks after she passed. I was half asleep and wandered out to the kitchen in the middle of the night to get a drink. I heard a loud voice say 'DUANE'. And since I was a little groggy I said 'what?' I thought it might have been my wife. But I went back to the other end of the house and my wife was fast asleep. My mom got one word to send me from the other side. Just my name, but it was very surreal. Twice after that after awakening and lying in bed a strong smell permeated the room...it was like fresh cut flowers...very strong smelling..but natural..not perfumy. That scent stayed in the air for about a minute and a half...and as the flower scent faded I got just a whiff of fresh cinnamon. Those three events have convinced me there is another 'side' and somehow my mom was able to get the word out. Thanksgiving 2006 the family was gathered for dinner in my mom and dads basement rec room. There was a knock on the window...3 knocks actually...knock knock knock. I ran upstairs and went outside...nobody there....then the phone rang...my sister has a friend who is a renowned psychic (I don't know her name) and she called to say she had a strong message come over from my mama. She said my mom said 'nice glasses' and I like the roses. We aren't sure what the rose comment was about, but my mom always insisted on drinking her diet coke out of a glass...and we were all drinking out of tin cans (I know..on Thanksgiving?) and we are sure she was either being sarcastic about our choice of dinnerware...or not..because both my dad and I were wearing new eyeglasses..his new and I had on an old pair that was taped up (pending my new pair from the optometrist). I also had a dream where my mom was lying dead ....and I cried and begged her to return to life...and she did...and then she said to me 'Duane...it's not good'. I hope she meant it wasn't good I brought her back...and not it wasn't good on the other side. That still bothers me. All for now. We are supposed to get 7-12 inches of snow over the next day and I better make sure the snowblower is in working order. I hope everyone has a good weekend and makes it through the holiday season. Cry when you need to, but try to find joy in the season. Remember earth is just a stepping stone on our spiritual journey. This is not the end, but just the beginning. Duane...See MoreMissing My Mom
Comments (17)Since I am not you, I can not know what you feel. I can only at best offer my sympathy. I am a practical person and that colors the sdvice that I give. I lost my mother 10 years ago, but for me and my sister, it was not as traumatic as it could have been. My mother was 95 yr old and she had expressed that she was ready to go. Her life's work was done and it was time to move on. She had a circulatory problem and had blacked out and fallen a couple of times at home. She refused to let me take her to the doctor to explain her malady. (I lived 350 miles away and was visiting her.) She confided in me telling me that she had prayed for the Lord to take her away some night in her sleep. With that knowledge, her passing was easier for my sister and me. But the feeling of a loss of a loved one was there anyway. Years ago, we helped my mother through the loss of her husband. We, too, felt the loss. My experience says it is natural to have a grieving period that may last a year or more. What you feel is likely "Normal" for you and your circumstances. Those dreams is your mind working its way through a maze of thoughts. Do not be alarmed or distressed about those, but observe and learn. Please do not take on a load of guilt. The content of dreams can be quite ramdom, but someday, you may have a dream that resolves all issues and when you do, you will awake with relief. And then again with time, the issues that trouble you may merely fade to insignificant specks. This is a vulnerable time for you, so delay making decisions on your mother's estate for items that can wait. The best thing you can do for yourself is to give you psyche time to heal....See Moremanley
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