You will go through many stages on your way to survival.
First, please find a support group or a grief councelor.
You'll need to talk about it and cry about it, be angry
about it so many emotions you will have to work through.
You will have to keep busy. Make yourself get up and get out
and do the things you do in the everyday business of living.

It will be the hardest thing you'll ever have to do but you
can do it. Just do it one day at a time and soon you can
get through the day without wanting to die because the pain
is too much to bear.
After awhile you can begin to laugh again and then as the
years go by, the pain lessens and you can find joy in living again.
You will always miss your precious son
but I can tell you now that eventually it will get better
and you can live again.

I pray that God will hold you close and comfort you in your
darkest hours.

There are some really good folks here on this forum and you
can always come here. So many here have lost children and
they will understand what you are feeling.

Jan

After my dad died, I bought a rose in his memory called Unconditional Love. Looking at the rose search site, I see there is a rose called Loving son. Perhaps you'd like to do something like that?

We have to believe there is a reason behind these things, even though we can't imagine what it is.

You're right—Christmas will never be the same. But you will reach a point one day where you can gather together with your family and truly celebrate, each of you missing Dominick but remembering him with such great love.

Susan

"A CANDLE IN THE WIND"

Loveliness we've lost;
these empty days without your smile.
This torch we'll always carry
for our nation's golden child.
And even though we try,
the truth brings us to tears;
all our words cannot express
the joy you brought us through the years.

I am truly so sorry to read this. It is such a huge loss to be without your boy. I hope that you feel the love and comfort from those still around you, filling you with their goodness and thoughts they bring to you all.

We will not know why this side of the veil. It is not something that can easily be answered, nor understood. It is not something that we would choose to do, in leaving our loved ones. Especially it was too soon for him, just a babe still at 20.
Your held your dreams for your boy, he wanted to be 21 and you were a proud Mom. He still lives on in all your hearts and will never leave you.

I wanted to share this with you also.
First...
A verse from Helen Keller
"What we once enjoyed and deeply loved
We can never lose,
For all that we love deeply
Becomes a part of us."

I always find this gives me some comfort,
that we always will have a part of them with us.
Our memories of them and being there expressing
themselves in conversation with us.
--A tribute to those whom we have loved.
As I watched a Gulf Frittilary butterfly hatch and hold on to its shedded cocoon that it had just come out of, spread its wings, unbending them and gently for a time waving them to dry and get some strength going, after a time off it went to join the others eating on my purple 'Incense' passionflower vines. I had the
thought of how we all will go through such a transformation one day, and be set free in our new life, where we can fly just as the butterfly has done. This one was special, it hung just above my entrance to my patio door, so I saw it each day, after I witnessed the Caterpillar climbing the wall and settling there on the patio sliding door.
It stuck itself up in the hanging position and then quickly formed the chrysalis. I usually don't get to see the whole thing in action, but the thoughts quickly came to me of a rebirth and how I was touched by that.
I sometimes have the thoughts that it is just us here, who are yet left behind, that have the pain, but for those who are now transformed they feel so invigorated, they are so happy with their life from then on. If they could, I would think they would tell us not to worry, it will be alright.....
You will see in time.
Copyright 2007, Lucy Sampson
All the best,
Lucy