Daughter's messy house...
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Comments (16)Thanks, guys! My husband said the same thing about the room. Let me explain. The offices use 3 dentists. THEY ONLY DO KIDS. 99% of the children have their teeth done in one large room big as a triple car garage, no walls. BUT if there is a child who allegedly cries a lot and grabs things they have a small room w/a door and one chair called, The Quiet Room. I have a theory after reading your msgs; just a theory. I think most of these kids have insurance. My grandson is Private Pay (me), the dentist knows this so he Could be taking advantage. How can I know? Taking a child to a regular dentist (I've never found one dentist who would even Look at my grandson at 2 and 3 years of age)is not the same. At this pediatric office they have young women who first show them cartoons and let them play with toys. While they are in the Private Room (I witnessed this)the assistant sits next to them and reads them kids books (I noticed she was showing him The Cat in the Hat by Dr Seuss when he tried to sit up, anesthetised). He is given a memory drug, Noctec plus nitrous. This attempts to erase memories of the experience. To answer the other inquiry: yes, my daughter OFTEN gave him Coke in his bottle when he was 2. I do not know if he had it in bed but I think he did. So the sugar ate thru the enamel. The next answer: I have learned that toddlers' enamel is Not like ours; it's much thinner and cannot take the assault of sugars on a regular basis. Next, a baby root canal is Not like ours. He was not in excruciating pain before each baby root canal; the roots in baby teeth are Not like ours; they are very , very tiny. At one point when he lived out of state his face became swollen. Daughter took him to the ER and they gave him penicillin. The tooth pain, what he had of pain, went away. Months later she moves back here and I notice his finger is in his mouth frequently but he denies pain. I find out that my daughter "couldn't give" him any more penicillin because he "refused to take it and ran away." Therefore, at the last visit when he was to have the RC, the dentist called me in the back and said,"he has a triple abscess and I have to pull the tooth." So I wanted to strangle my daughter. I asked the girls who work there how to get medicine down a toddler when they run off. I was Certain they'd know; they work there. But they kept asking each other and came up with the idea of putting it in that strawberry liquid stuff you use to make strawberry milk. My daughter didn't even try to think of a solution and she's 36. My husband says that he must have a genetic weakness but I cannot find a dentist who will agree to this. Husband says, "do you think all those children in the deepest jungles of the world have no teeth?" So, I don't know what to think. thanks, binkie PS he also charged $95 to pull the tooth plus $75 per filling....See MoreMy daughter has moved out of the house and wants
Comments (33)Don't cut off all contact with your children, always remember them at their birthdays with a phone call and a card with $5-$10 dollars in it. Just concentrate on getting your own head together. It is now time for you, so even if you have to deal with the kids, you can do it in a calm rational manner. Like stated above, try going to a house of worship, take craft classes, yoga classes or something through your park district to occupy your time. You don't say if you have a job, if you don't, get one, at least a part time job, to get out of the house. That way you will have a little spending money to buy some new clothes. Don't let anyone talk you out of it either. Good luck! You can do it....See MoreWould you buy next door to a messy house?
Comments (27)Glad this surfaced or I would never have seen it - would appreciate suggestions on what to when it comes time for us to sell. We live next door to a messy house. It was a bit tired looking when we moved in but has steadily gone downhill - way down. It's not abandoned, not in foreclosure, we (and another adjacent neighbor) have tried working with the owners to find solutions but have had no success. We've lived here 22 years, the messy owners have been here quite a bit longer than that. They are elderly but that is not the reason for the mess and disrepair and it does not appear financial resources are a problem - money is spent in other areas that are known to us, but not on the home. There is obviously some degree of mental illness, but nothing that would warrant intervention by an agency. The city has known about this forever. Periodically we and the adjacent neighbor have pushed the city to take action and some issues do get addressed, minimally. But the messy neighbor is a retired lawyer and fights the city endlessly on code verbiage, finding other homes with similar 'violations' that have not been cited. As an example, he finds homes with parkway plantings that are technically against city ordinance as evidence that he should not be cited or fined. His example home will have a grass parkway with city planted trees and owner planted flowers in a bed around the trees. Messy neighbor's parkway has no grass, weeds and invasive ivy overgrowing the sidewalk, multiple owner planted trees that create safety issues seeing oncoming traffic on street and sidewalk. The city limbs up the trees when we complain, the owner plants more each spring and it goes round and round. He has the time and mental acuity to fight the city - it costs him nothing and *seems* to be somewhat of a game. The city has other places to spend money and will not push this as a result. There is no doubt in my mind it would cost a fortune, result in very negative press and PR and likely get nowhere if it actually ended up in court. We always thought we'd outlast them, they would move to a condo or retirement home of some sort and new owners would clean things up before we would need/want to sell. But that has not happened and we are planning to market our home in the near future. The housing market is what it is and we'd have to deal with that regardless, but this neighbor adds to the difficulty. Any ideas???...See MoreMy daughter has joined the small house club! Picture tour here.
Comments (15)"How cool dilly dally! Does your bathroom have the original toilet & sink? Was the sink a wall hung one? And are the shower doors original or were they added later? There is a curtain rod above the shower doors and we can't figure out why there are both." No, I checked the date on the toilet when I was looking at the real estate and it was replaced in 1982. (You can look under the tank lid to see the date stamp.) I'm not sure about the sink. It is one that hangs off the wall though. The tub I know is original. It is the same as the one you show with the wider ledge in the middle. My shower rod was installed so that the curtain hung inside the tub. I moved it so the curtain hangs outside. No shower doors. (Thank gawd. I hate them.) I don't think shower doors would be original with a tub like that. My tub is grody. No shine left on it and it always looks dirty. I've looked into replacing it but there is no way to get it out without damaging tiles I was told and the size is so odd that a replacement to fit exactly is impossible. I may have to buy one of those acrylic tub recovers to get a decent tub that looks clean. The original "shower head" was called a 'Victorian' I found out. It was like a stick on a hinge from the wall, low, about waist high. You moved it up and tiled the hinged head to shower. Or you moved it straight down to fill the tub. I liked it. I had to replace it when it broke and could not find anything like it. They don't make them any more. I had to redo the whole works adding separate faucet and showerhead and controls. You probably have a built in ironing board in the kitchen. Most of them end up getting converted into spice cabinets. Mine still had the original wood ironing board in it and although I do iron a lot I did not want to iron on an old stinky wood thing. The built in wall ironing boards that they seel nowdays to do not retro fit into these old ones. I made mine into a spice cabinet by adding little shelves. I'm glad I did it this way. It's one thing to be a purist and try to preserve the ingerity of a vintage home but if it means wasted space with a non functioning widget - it goes. There is also a thing built into the wall in the basement that I had thought was an old mangle in the laundry room at first. (They were popular in that era.) There was a slit in the wall by it. There was a built-in long table in the rec room by the slit on the other side of the wall. I figured out that it was made to hold a roll of kraft paper to pull through the slit to use as a disposable table cover. I know they still sell rolls of table kraft paper like this for restaurants, so I could use it but I never throw dinner parties in my basement and don't have kids who do crafts. "The original must have been one with long pipes." I still have the original. It did not work when I bought the house. I found out when I took it apart to repair, that the pipes do not create the sound. There was a sort of xylophone thingy inside that made the actual sound. The pipes were for decoration only. If I had not been able to repair it, I was going to get a wireless chime to install elsewhere in the house and use the alcove for holding a decorative vase or something. "It's when you cut or break it that it releases fibers and causes problems." True. Some people do not know about asbestos tile and try to chisel it up without proper proceedure. I've had to warn neighbors about this. They had no idea. Make sure you let you DD know about http://savethepinkbathrooms.com if she does not already. And also http://retrorenovation.com/category/by-decade/1960s-by-decade/ Here is a link that might be useful: Pink...See Morebluesbarby
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