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Posted by Busybody_T (My Page) on Wed, Aug 17, 05 at 12:39
| First time here. Just found out we will be grandparents in the Spring! I do not want to miss out on anything I am suppose to do. We live 3 1/2 hours away from the kid's. Is there an "instruction" manual? busybody_t |
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RE: How to grandparent?
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Hi Busybody T
I am a new grandmother as well. So far I have learned to listen and respond only to things I am sure my daughter wants answers to. So far "What I did in olden days was..." seems to work. Also, "This is what I did... but ask your pediatrician/other new mothers." Of course, I live closer and will be babysitting when my daughter goes back to work.
My best advice is to concentrate on loving your grandchildren unconditionally. I talk constantly to my granddaughter (she's only 6 weels old) and let her know I love love love her. |
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| Since you are 3 1/2 hours away, by the time your gc gets 2 you can send mail, mine love to get mail. I buy special cards and since mine are a little older now, send a piece of gum, a dollar, and draw pictures for them, and if I am not with them for a birthday, I send a pkg, never forgetting the other two. When they visit I always have some little things I have bought. I always think we are making memories. Ladieg |
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| I know how you feel.I have two grandkids which I don't see that much and it hurts.But I guess that we can't have it all,at least that's what their dad tells me.So I try and talk to them on the phone and sent them gifts but I would perfur to hold them in my arms and tell them that I love them. |
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I love being a grandparent and we live 2 miles away, we are moving to about 4 1/2 miles away. It is sad, but it is the best for us.
The most important thing a grandparent can remember, in my opinion, is that as much as we love them we are not the parents. I do not criticize the parents and I ask before I buy them a big purchase.
I had wanted to buy them a TV for their bedroom and when I asked my daughter she said no, she wants the family to watch TV together.
That is OK with me, I took the money and bought them savings bonds.
We still spoil them of course and if I thought the parents were harming them in anyway I would be the first to speak up, but they are both kind and caring parents.
Just pay losts of attention to them and love them, they grow up so fast!!! |
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| How delightful to find a "grandparents" forum!!! I have some grandchildren close by and some hours away but I have been at the birth of them all and consider that to be a huge blessing!! My dh and I always make time to see them and have them over and we "love them up" as much as possible. We never forget who the parents are and truthfully I don't want to "parent" my grandchildren! I enjoy them going back to their parents but give them love as much as I can. I babysat a couple of them when they were small and to tell you the honest truth when they got to be toddlerish and older I did not enjoy being the disciplinarian!!!! Leave that to Mom and Dad!!! I love the "grandparent" role and think it was meant to be that way!!! I do, however, so admire grandparents that have taken on the role of being parents or that have custody of their grandchildren. It is not easy the older we get but you can't find anyone to love them more!!!!! Thanks for the opportunity to talk about the loves of my life, hope it was helpful!!!! |
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