Feelings/attitude toward stepgrandchild
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Linda from Richmond
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You know your gardening attitude has changed when .........
Comments (15)I read your post with interest. I think I share some of those sentiments. If you really were just joking, then ignore me. I sometimes misinterpret the subtle humour expressed. I was surprised you didn't get more responses. I've been thinking about your points. Anyway, here's my take: 1. Downsizing is definitely on my mind, in the garden and indoors. I've been looking around the house at all my houseplants and realizing I have far too many. They are starting to annoy me. 2. The thought has occurred to me that I do pass up opportunities to travel, because no one would be here to care for my garden. Spring travel would be difficult because I have seedlings started. Fall travel is difficult because there's so much to do to prepare the garden for winter. I hate the idea of winter travel. So what's left? 3. There have been times in the spring, when I work from morning till night in the yard and realize that no one else in their right mind would want to work like that. Yes I have created a monster. 4. Yes, painkillers are required. 5. I am not a collector of any one species of plant. I'm more of a general collector. I have a hard time being selective. So I have too many types of plant to work with. 6. Yes, I agree, all daylilies look alike. 7. Don't have bamboo, so can't comment on that. 8. I am certainly happy to dig up and share almost anything in my yard. 9. I love visiting garden centres, but seldom buy anything. I know the amount of time I spend on garden.web is excessive. There are times when I honestly feel I could just walk away from my garden and not care. I'm starting to think more along the lines of low maintenance shrubs, but haven't taken the plunge yet. So am I just suffering from a case of the blahs, or is it time for a serious change in gardening attitude?...See MoreAttitude is Everything
Comments (21)(((newdawn))) And thanks for the explanation, stinky...I guess I get it, kind of like the idea that you choose your emotional reaction to everything that happens to you, *although* with the caveat that I think in certain circumstances (maybe not your hair falling out, or your breasts dropping to your waist :)) it's important to right a wrong or correct an injustice in addition to freeing yourself from the sense that the injustice can rule you emotionally. There *are* crimes, still, and unethical behavior, etc., and they need to be addressed, not just dismissed or "emotionally freed" from, as it were...thinking about the work my DD's doing on Mandela and the struggle to end apartheid, for example. Mandela and many in the ANC are a perfect example of freeing himself from a first-level bitterness and aiming toward a restorative justice. But not a 'oh, forget it' pseudo-justice, iykwim which invalidates the experience and very real losses of the crime. While that's a really 'writ-large' version, I think there are also events like that on smaller scales that merit the same treatment... Speaking of fear, etc., did anyone see the masterpiece Theatre film last Sunday entitled "Endgame"? (not Beckett's piece, but a piece about the negotiations around the end of apartheid) It was *brilliant* and had many lines that relate to EFT, actually, to absorb and watch played out. We got so much out of it in so many ways...it's really worth the time if it gets rescreened. We're actually thinking of buying a copy to study....See MoreChanges in attitudes
Comments (4)I think it is high time you changed you attitude. If you don't get the support you need, then there are two things happening: either they don't understand or they don't care. Before I'd chuck it all, I'd make sure that they understand what I require as condition of my giving all the things that I give. So I suggest you make a list of the top 10 things you really, really need from your husband AND from your step-daughter. Then let them know in some CRYSTAL CLEAR fashion that these are the things that WILL be in your household. You know, stuff like: 1) Truthfulness 2) Respect 3) Honoring your commitments 4) Affection etc. But when you make a list, you MUST be prepared to honor the list as well. I might suggest that you give your husbands some ideas/hints on WAYS he can show you his support -- sometimes we are all just clueless about how to give another what they need. I agree with Rosie, in that, kids teenagers need to begin the road toward independence so they are going to need to make some of their own decisions but I still feel there are consequences for egregious errors in judgement (lying, disrespect, thievery ... the moral issues) other things I'd let slide. In order to prepare, teach and guide a child toward becoming a happy and well-adjusted adult, parents need to supply rules and consequences and do it somewhat consistently. For example, teaching them how to do laundry will equip them for doing their own laundry when they grow to adulthood, allowing them to help with dinner will teach them how to cook, showing them the right way to clean a house will (hopefully) keep them from living in filth as an adult and there are many, many more daily living skills that yound adults NEED to learn. Then there are the moral teachings. One that comes to mind is... that the truth ALWAYS has a way of working itself into the open, lying simply doesn't pay. All it gets you is TONS of grief -- that is as it should be. The joy of giving can be taught by charity -- helping others for no other reward than helping. Do you see where I'm headed? "Spoiling" a child will not equip them for happiness as an adult. Somethings needs to change. The BEST place for change to start is within your self. Good luck! Q...See MoreGardening our latitude with attitude
Comments (43)The trouble with lists of frost hrady and dry hardy plants, is that they vary so much from area to area. Where my parents-in-law live in the wimmera, their sandy soil and lower rainfall means plants like lavender and rosemary will die if they aren't watered, whereas mine are never watered and do extremely well here on my heavier soils, colder climate and higher rainfall. My echiums, which are listed as 'frost sensitive' have been frosted many, many times and are growing like crazy things. I love them. As for trees - the five acre front of my block is planted out to about 1000 decidious trees. I love them at any time of the year. The silver birches look great in any season, as do the ornamental pears, with their shiny red bark. How would you ever enjoy the twisted limbs of the Scotch elm if the leaves didn't drop off once a year? We mulch with straw and manure. The large groves of birch trees were not watered through the drought and did very well. We are slowly manuring and mulching every tree. The ones we have done are growing like crazy and need very little attention. As for water - we don't get town water, so supply our own. I use it however I want to at whatever time of the day I want to. If anyone doesn't like it, come here and tell me face to face. (...and I will squirt you with the hose ;-) You want to save some of the planet's resources? Stop buying pre-prepared food in multiple packaging. Buy 'whole' food only and make your own. My absolute top plant for dry, un-mulched, un-manured sandy, clay soil? Ornamental grapes. They look good in winter too. Finally, I have lived, worked and gardened in every outback, stinking hot, dry and impoverished place in Australia. We moved here because of the climate and rainfall and I intend to plant, water, manure and mulch whatever I damn well please. If that offends anyone, as my nephew would say - talk to the eyeballs. Or try gardening in Paraburdoo without watering, mulching or manuring anything and see how much fun gardening can really be! Robyn...See MoreDiane
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