I really love my husband but I am getting tired of being the one that has to leave our bedroom every night and go to the guest room in order to get some sleep. I've asked him to go to the doctor about his snoring or anywhere that he could get some help, but he won't do it. Now, my question is this: do you think that it would be fair or unfair of me to ask my DH to leave our bedroom and go to the guest room to sleep.?? I would appreciate your views on this.

You might talk to your husband about how you fear he might have sleep apnea. You need him to see a doctor for his health and to ease your mind because sleep apnea is potentially serious and it sounds a lot more impressive than 'snoring.'

I think he should be willing to see a doctor, so I'm thinking maybe he thinks 'snoring' is a trivial problem. Maybe to him it would be like seeing a doctor because a really unseemly or embarrassing problem. Further, he may not realize that his snoring may be disrupting the quality of his own sleep.

neither is fair, he should be more willing to take charge of his own health and well being, not to mention the quality of his marriage;
-taylor

This is short and sweet. When the man I've been with for a number of years starts to snore it's because he flipped onto his back. So I'll give him a nudge and say,"you're snoring" then he'll flip over onto his side and then he's quiet. Also, at times I'll wear earplugs and that helps tremendously (get the good plugs).

I want to thank Taylor and Nancy for their response...I appreciate it so much. In reply to his sleeping on his back, I wish it were that easy but he snores in any and all positions.!! I had tried ear plugs but couldn't stand them. I'm interested in knowing what would be the best kind to buy. It seems like a good solution if I could adapt to them. What a nice feeling it is to be able to share with you all out there...you're great.!!

My sympathy goes out to you. My husbands snoring got so bad that my ears actually hurt. Your are right that snoring can occur in any position. And perhaps it wouldn't have been so bad if it was the same sound but it was constantly changing.

The snoring was louder than I would play the radio or TV. Even in a queen size bed I was right next to the noise. I know it was so loud it actually damaged his own hearing.

When I started sleeping most nights in the family room he got the idea he needed to do something. He finally went to a sleep specialist after we saw a special on the local news. My husband had a procedure called a somnoplasty. He actually had it done 3 times. Sound waves are used to toughen up the back portion of the palate.

This is not a procedure that can be done if the actual problem is sleep apnea. The procedure caused a very sore throat each time for several days. I can tell you it made a world of difference. Although he still snores, the snoring is more like audible breathing and no longer keeps me awake or wakes me up.

If he refuses to go to a doctor then you will need to do whatever it takes to protect your own hearing. You need to get regular sleep.

Dear Barbara: I want to thank you for your reply. At this point I can't talk my hubby into seeing a doctor about his snoring problem...I think he's afraid that it might envolve an operation. I think a lot of his problem is caused because he always breathes through his mouth...never his nose and it seems like there could be a blockage and that's what I think he's worried about. In the meantime, it's seperate bedrooms until we figure something out. Once again, I want to thank you all for taking the time to send your thoughts and suggestions...I appreciate you.

I don't want to scare you, but I'd like to scare the dickens out of Him !!!!
I lost my Husband of 38 yrs. and He snored too. I finally got him to see the Dr. and he had sleep
apnea. It's nothing to fool around and wait for.
See the Dr. now !!!!

Have your Husband read this, maybe an outsider can get him to think of you and yours too.

Sleep apnea is not only alarming to the bedpartner; it is
life threatening to the one experiencing it. One having
sleep apnea. fails to breathe intermittingly for long periods and at that time there is not enough oxygen going to the brain to tell the body to wake up and breathe. Many nights. I punched my husband's side to tell him to breathe
There is an answer other than operation; it's called a
C-pap. Ask your doctor to explain it to your husband.

I put a loud fan on the dresser in our room, the "white noise" drowns him out a little which makes it easier on me. Years ago I would put a tape recorder on my side of the bed and play a tape recording of the ocean waves, cannot find the tape, but it really helped.

Good luck, I know how bad this can be.

My husband also snored. He passed away 10 years ago and I would love to still have him by me and snoring. It would b nice to here it again. Somtimes it bothered me but in the long run it was worth every snore. Have your husband have acheck up by the dr. If it isn"t anything serious just put some ear plugs in your ears and be glad that you can reach out to him at night.

I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO A SNORER FOR 36 YEARS, IT DOES NOT GET BETTER. I HAVE TRIEDTHEM ALL, HAVING HIM MOVE ONTO HIS BACK, RAISE HIS HEAD, WAKE HIM UP, I MOVEDI`TOTHEROOM OUR DAUGHTER LEFTVACANT JUST TO GET SOME SLEEP. AT ONE TIME IN THE PAST HE WOKE OUR FOUR YEAR OLD SON,HE TOLD ME THAT A BEAR WAS AFTER HIM. EAR PLUGS DON'T WORK AT ALL, LAST WEEK I BOUGHT A SMALL SOUND BOX..OCEAN WAVES, RAIN, NIGHT WOODS SOUND AND ALOVELY SOUNDING BROOK..DID IT WORK NO NOT AT ALL. INEED SLEEP TOO,SOOOOOO I USE THE EMPTY ROOM. GOOD LUCK. EILEEN

You don't mention if he is overweight, a smoker or drinks on a nightly basis. If so, then he may be afraid that a dr. will tell him to change his unhealthy habits. In the meantime, tape his snoring, then play it back to him. He will be astonished at the sound and may accuse you of turning the volume way up. I don't think it would hurt for you to say that it is his turn to sleep in the guest room. I would find a sleep clinic or specialist so when he is ready to address the problem you can tell him whom to call.

oh my gosh, your guy might have sleep apnea which is a serious condition. Please get him medical attention from a pulmonary or neurology specialist.

Hi to all you wonderful ladies out there. This is Phyllis with "My husband snores". It's been awhile and nothing has changed with my husband but I guess that old saying "what goes around, comes around" is true. My DH has been enjoying sleeping (and snoring) in the guest room but we've had some company lately so we're back sleepng to-gether....and in the meantime I've developed the 'restless legs syndrome" which is about to drive me amd DH crazy.!!! So, I guess you could say our problem is solved, we definately need seperate bedrooms.!!! But I would sure appreciate it if anyone has any suggestions on how to cure the RLS. I've checked but to no avail. Good talking to you all again. Love and God Bless ya'll.

Dear, please enjoy each second of his snoring!! I lost my husband of 54 wonderful years three years ago, and what I wouldn't give just to hear him snore one more time. You see, I snored,too, (didn't believe until he taped me one night). I found that I had allergies, then took 25 mg. of Benadryl at night and fell asleep first, so his snoring didn't bother me after that.

Hey...snoring keeps the Grizzlies away!

I know alot of people have told you this but he had better get to the doctor before he dies. It sure souunds to me like he has sleep apena. Has he read all the responses you have gotten about this. IT'S VERY DANGEROUS. If he gives a hoot about you he will go.Can't he see the handwriting on the wall??? Sounds like he is kinda stubborn to me. My heart goes out to you.

I went through the same exact problem with my husband of 36 years. He refused to do anything for years until our son (a physician) told him he had apnea (a very dangerous condition). He finally got a C-Pap machine and it has been a life saver. After spending many nights sleeping in separate bedrooms and him waking up with a headache every morning...he is now feeling so much better and we are sleeping in the same bed!
I sympathize with the ladies who have lost their husbands and would give anything to hear them snore again...but this may be a dangerous health risk for your husband. I hope he listens! Good luck!

My son uses those new nose strips and is now "snoreless". You can get them in the market.

I read a web site lately where the woman's husband used the nose strips, then ran out of them. She had him put a piece of Scotch tape across his nose and it seemed to work as well as the nose strip. Just a thougt.

Loving your husband doesn't mean loving his snoring. I have sleep problems and it is not due to snoring just can't sleep at this time in my life. I wish solving it were as easy as moving to another room, I would do it in a flash and I love my husband.

My husbands snoring drove me up the wall until I started using ear plugs. I use the little yellow foam ones. You can get them at a drug stores, but will probably find them cheaper at hardware stores. They took a little while to get used to. There are times that they fall out while I am sleeping, so I keep a pill bottle full of them tied to my bedpoast.