Anyone had to move because of a job? Is it worth the risk?
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Comments (19)Thanks again for responding frankielynn and kashka kat! You guys are great! As far as things go at this point, it seems Im going to have to give my fish up, pretty soon too. Before weather gets too cold to move them and it risks their health. Not sure how many miles from my home to my pond guy, but Im figuring it will taked about 20-25 minutes from my home to his, if that gives you an estimate. When I say it would be like a thousand dollars to set up, i was refering to the 300 gal tank, fitler and lighting combined with my pond guys help. And yes, it would be hard to select just a few to take anyway,but I guess I would of done it if my mom gave me the green light. But moms pretty tired of hearing about my ideas, and I really dont want to stress her out and it is her home. Its not that Im just going to moms to be a caregiver either. I am in a financial situation that I have to sell my home because I cant afford to stay anymore. But my mom really does need someone with her to help around the house when shes not feeling well. My boyfriend and family thought it would be a good idea to move in with her to help her out. So financially Im strapped with not enough income here to keep my house. This way mom says she can financially help me get back on track if I move in with her too. Kinda get the jist of what Im talking about here? I admire people who fall in love with their fish too...they are our pets and like are kids..god bless them they exist! Glad alot of you feel like me and sympathize with me and my situation. I think my mom tries to sympathize with me, but it is her home, she thinks it could be alot of upkeep, there could be a leak, etc so I guess I just bite the bullet and except that. Still dpressed tho and I know when they leave it will be the hardest time for me, but I will have my cat yet to take to moms, which I know I couldnt part with him. Keep responding, love to hear from you guys! Ill keep you updated...thanks!...See MoreWe Had To Shut Our Job Down Today :(
Comments (9)Thank you so much (again) everyone. I'm much calmer than I was a couple of days back. I spoke with my ex-boss, the architect. My BF went to the house, remeasured the downstairs and there will be plans drawn up so I can bring a professional blueprint with me to bring to the DOB. May as well, as there are a few other things being done in the house besides the kitchen which I don't feel comfortable drawing up. Then, my understanding of it is - I'll be given the applications for everyone (and I'll do my own for the drywall). Will have to coordinate the subs again to have them fill out their paperwork, and go back to the Building Department to drop it all off. And then, hopefully wait only about a week and voila! Approval. BTW - as it turns out it does not necessary take 3-4 weeks. That, was a scare tactic from the secretary. The official said they typically get it done in about 5 days once they receive everything but usually say longer "just in case" and this way, they look like a hero if it goes through quickly. Much better! So, if I'm lucky maybe the whole set-back will only be 2 weeks. Not so bad. And I got the feeling that I do not have to worry about anyone poking around to see inside in the meantime - or even before we begin again. I am still a bit concerned about that beam, however, as a friend said what I can do is just look the inspector in the eye and say "Hey - do you think I'm that stupid to leave that exposed if we HAD placed that there? Geez, we would have tried to cover it up by now to hide it!" Hehehe....See MoreSego palms and dogs. Are they worth the risk?
Comments (17)I have written multiple articles concerning toxic plants and pets (on a web site that Gardenweb does not allow one to post on the forums, however)… I am a veterinarian and have worked in emergency for many years… seen many cases of toxicities in dogs and plant toxicities were relatively rare (except for marijuana), and though most real plant poisonings, by far, were fairly mild and of little concern, the ones that caused the most loss of life, despite all we tried to do to save them were the dogs that ate cycads. Fortunately these cases are fairly rare… but compared to other plant toxicities, they are one of the most common. Most dogs end up surviving the experience, but many do not. In my opinion, cycad toxicity is the most serious of all the plant toxicities there are in dogs, based on frequency and severity of illness (mushroom toxicity is a close second).. .there are LOTs way more toxic plants in California (dozens more toxic, and thousands of toxic plants overall)… but the thing about toxic plants is they almost all taste horrible (and good thing!)… except cycads do not (problem with mushrooms, too… they also rarely taste bad). They reportedly (from the few stupid people who tried to eat them) said they tasted like mildly bitter plastic.. and the fruits, which are the most dangerous part due to their taste and easy edibility, actually taste pretty good. Still, I have many dogs, and many cycads, and so far no problems. My dogs rarely find the plastic-like, spiny foliage to their liking so never eat them, and hardly ever chew on them. ANd only mature female plants produce fruit, and historically large, mature female plants are pretty expensive (I have none)... though Sago palms (not really palms) are so common and cheap nowadays, the large female plants are affordable. I prefer to grow rarer species, and obtaining a coning female cycad of rarer species costs a real fortune (thousands of dollars)… so I am just slowly growing my own (very slowly). Cycad poisoning is a much greater concern in areas of the world where cycads are native and grow a lot faster due to the tropical climate. But then there tend to be way more dangerous things in those climates as well (snakes, gators, lions etc.). Florida is one of the places where cycad toxicity is fairly common, due to many landscaping with common cycads that are mature and fruiting (eventually could become a more common problem in California, too, as more and more Cycas revolutas (aka Sago Palms) mature....See MoreConsidering leaving job because of commute
Comments (43)nanny - there is room for financial growth in this company (annual merit raises, bonuses for continuing educations), but in terms of actually promoting to a higher position, there isn't much prospect of that in my department. That, and I'm not really sure that I'd want my boss's job anyways. luk - I totally agree with the 'work to live, not live to work' mentality - while my job is a big part of my life, it's certainly not the only aspect of it and I think it's important to have good separation between work and life matters. eld - I'm not sure if there are city tests in California like you mentioned. I'll have to look into it. There are certainly city veterinary jobs, though I have no idea what their pay scale is like. It'd be worth checking on. skibby - that's a good point - I'd have to ask him about domestic partnership with his insurance. If nothing else, it would be saving us money each month and I'd be getting better insurance out of it. wanttoretire - I completely agree - while I'm sure other big cities are comparable, I just don't think people that haven't actually been there understand why I don't want to live there. I came from a small city of about 40k people and one high school - and I liked that so much that I moved back to that area after college. I certainly understand why people like living in the city, but like you said about circling the parking lot just at the grocery store (or having to pay for parking everywhere you go, fight with other drivers who clearly don't understand there's a world outside of their vehicle, etc.), it's just not for me. chisue - yes, he works closer to home because his work allows him to work within different divisions of the city. He originally was working further than I am, but finally was able to relocate and he's much happier. He always tells me he doesn't know how I'm still doing it. We do plan on starting a family in the 5 years or so, and right now live 10 minutes away from my parents, and 15 from my brothers. His mom recently passed and his dad and stepmom are about 50 minutes away but may move out of state in the near future. So staying near my family is important to us, especially when we start having kids. nicole - yikes! I don't know how you did that, I suppose doing it 3 days a weeks made it a little easier, and having a 12-hr shift probably meant you were not quite within the scope of rush hour for the drive, but boy that makes for long days. I think the fact that I'm paid well is the top reason that I'm debating what move to make. Also, thank you all for your input and experiences, it's very helpful!...See Morejakabedy
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