Help with what?

I feel your pain, my total loss house fire was a year ago and not even a rough inspection yet. Have also experienced weeks with no workers. I can't even find the words to describe how I am feeling.

Am not a decorator - but want to try to help you. Some ideas:
1. Have you considered putting some glass (maybe semi-opaque/fog instead of clear), maybe with interior lighting, in some cabinets to lighten them up?
2. Can you paint/change one or more cabinets to a lighter color? Mixing cabinet colors seems to be very instyle.
3. Can you change the backsplash? That may be the easiest option to lighten things up.
4. If you have not already, spend time on Houzz looking at kitchen pictures for ideas.
5. Browse kitchen showrooms to find a style you like. Then hire their KD for a consultation.
6. The attached pic from Houzz has dark cabinets & countertops and medium floors and is one of my favorite kitchens.

I don't think you have to go with a light floor, that you won't like. I wish that I could help you more. Good Luck.