I got the sh!t kicked out of me today at work, although, in hindsite, I should of known something was up. I haven't been in on the dept meetings, I'm not asked to lunch any more (by my peers)

I got demoted. My position that was created for me was eliminated, and I got knocked back to a clerk at 1/2 of what I was making. I am now making what I made 11 years ago, and I am so confused and mad that I simply can not think straight.

I was told that I "should know all of the audits by now" (5 different audits, and I've been there 10 weeks; I know 3), and that I wasn't were I should be. Now, keep in mind that the controller was over-looking the fact that I am *her* underlining, and that she never set the training up; I thought I was doing a good job.

I guess maybe I should have went and smoozed with her in her office, and told rauchy stories of my love life, but that's not me; never has been. I prefer to get to work early and get started and, well... actually work. And since day one, I ahve always went to others to see what I could help them with--I'm the only one who does that, but I was told that this is what the office did.

So, what do I do? I'm now down with what was my staff as of yesterday morning, and I'm sure this will be interesting. I am dead in the water here, I can't transfer out. So...what? Do I quit? Stay and let them fire me? What? At least I have a job, still with no insurance, though. I can't decide what will look worse on me--stay or go.

Oh, and just last Weds, the controller calls and tells me that I am officallly Ok'ed through the state police, and that I can get my permanent badge--cost me $200.00. $$$ down the drain.

And as a topper, i just bought my dream trenchcoat on Saturday morning--I need a coat so badly, and I found this stunning Butberry with the zipout lining--looks like it's never been worn--for $150. And now I hafta to see if I can return it. (My car doesn't have heat, so I need a coat--)

And....... Rog doesn't know any of this--I can't bear to see the look of disappointment on his face--I love him so much, and I've let him down again--

What do I do?

BJ - This is going to be a great game!!! "Friendly" wager...........let me think about that! LOL Of course my money will be on the Steelers and the BUS! But may the best team win!

I have to go into school early today and set up a book fair. Can't wait to see what kinds of bargains I can find.

I will post the un-birthday list later today. Gotta run now.

Marci

And, Marci, I agree. I think everyone s/b given a review--and the ironic part is that I was going to ask for one last week, but never had the time--what with 12 hour days--

Well, we'll see what the day brings.....

((((((HUGS)))))) Maddie. I am sorry to hear your work news too. I don't know what to offer for advice either. It's good to still have a job although I am sure it's humiliating. If they fired you would you be able to collect unemployment? If you quit would you be able to collect? In NH you cannot collect if you quit. I would think that you have skills that could be utilized in a variety of positions. I can totally empathize on the whole job search thing. It's clear that you are truly discriminated against for age in some of the situations I have been in. This may sound off the wall but I would get the book, Move Stuff, Change your Life and start feng shui-ing your heart out! Concentrating on your career, prosperity and helpful people guas first. I believe that my life has changed for the better since doing this. Besh says her life changed too!! I also think you need to tell Roger right away. Most of all try not to let this affect your self-esteem too much. I know it's hard but try. We love you.

Marci, you must be elated about your Steelers!!

BJ, I know how you are feeling about the Sea Hawks.

It's snowing here today. We are expecting 6"-8" . I wish it were more it's so icy out there and the trails are dangerous. A good dose of snow would be the cure! But if we get 8" it will be a great start.

Marci and BJ - I would not jump into this wager for anything! Good luck to both the Steelers and Seahawks.

Suzanne - no snow but lots and lots of rain. The spring temps have left and we returned to winter - ugh. When do you start your job? I will have to check out the Move Stuff book for sure.

Besh - I am counting points. I think I am going to do this to get myself together and then for a week or so try core. I agree that you have to shake things up a bit.

Raeanne - I love to pack for vacations although I am a day before/day of packer. I seem to better under pressure LOL!

Hugs and good thoughts for everyone - take care and have a great evening.

Donna

NH Suzanne I hope you got your 8" of snow! It has been extremely windy here for the past 24 hours. The power was out 1/2 of last night and most of the morning.

Donna and Besh, I am not sure how WW Points work but the Core program seems a lot like the good carb program that I am following. Would you mind checking out the menus I posted last week and tell me if I am right?

Well, I fell off plan a bit on Saturday. I made Annie's onion braid loaf(recipe from over at the cooking forum) and my willpower went out the window! I can say no to most sweets, but fresh baked bread melts every ounce of good intention I have.... I also had 2 glasses of wine with that.
Back on track today.

I have some promising news about my knee. A friend has been really suffering with a bad shoulder. He owns a construction company and can no more refrain from using his shoulder than I can avoid using my knee. Seems he has found a doctor who uses a combination of medications and injects them right at the site of injury. My friend has been pain free for 4 days now and I am seriously considering this treatment for myself.

Well, gotta go! Back later as there is more to tell.

(((Hugs!)))

Tikanas

Patti sends to milkdud (1/1)
BJ sends to DeeMarie (2/18)
Besh sends to Raeanne (3/3)
Jen sends to Patti (3/20)
DeeMarie sends to Donna_SouthNJ (4/21)
Joanne sends to BJ (4/23)
Milkdud sends to Besh (7/21)
NHSuzanne sends to Marci (8/11)
Raeanne sends to Tikanas (8/19)
Maddie sends to Jen (8/23)
Marci sends to Joanne (9/26)
Tikanas sends to Maddie (10/5)
Donna_SouthNJ sends to NHSuzanne (11/20)

And here is a questionaire for everyone to answer when they get a chance. Have fun with it.

1. What time did you get up this morning?
2. Diamonds or pearls?
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema?
4. What is your favorite TV show now?
5. What did you have for breakfast?
6. What is your middle name?
7. What is your favorite food?
8. What foods do you dislike?
9. What is your favorite chip flavor?
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment?
11. What kind of car do you drive?
12. Favorite sandwich?
13. What characteristic do you despise?
14. What are your favorite clothes?
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go?
16. Favorite brand of clothing?
17. Where would you retire?
18. Favorite time of the day?
19. What was your most memorable birthday?
20. Where were you born?
21. Favorite sport to watch?
22. Who won't send this back to you?
23. What fabric detergent do you use?
24. Coke or Pepsi?
25. Morning person or night owl?
26. What is your shoe size?
27. Do you have any pets?
28. What did you want to be when you were little?
29. Longest friendship you still have.
30. Biggest accomplishment?
31. Favorite school sport?
32. Event you look forward to.
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package?
34. How do you pamper yourself?
35. If I had a day all to myself, I would______________________.
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why?
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up?

1. What time did you get up this morning?
6AM
2. Diamonds or pearls?
Fresh water pearls, black or white
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema?
Chronicles of Narnia
4. What is your favorite TV show now?
Boston Legal and Who's Line Is It?
5. What did you have for breakfast?
1,000 grain toast and a papaya
6. What is your middle name?
Jo, named after my dads' best friend
7. What is your favorite food?
Rocket chocolate with a coffee w/cream and sugar
8. What foods do you dislike?
Arugula - it even SOUNDS yuckky, don't you agree? ---And I don't like curry-anything
9. What is your favorite chip flavor?
Butterscotch if you're talking baking chips or BBQ if you're talkin' potato chips
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment?
"Acousticsol" played by John Raymond and Ross Nyberg
11. What kind of car do you drive?
Ford Expedition
12. Favorite sandwich?
Turkey on white, extra mayo, cheddar cheese, pepper & salt, no lettuce, no tomato
13. What characteristic do you despise?
Elitist Haughty Braggarts
14. What are your favorite clothes?
Swim suit tops with boy shorts
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go?
Somewhere HOT - I don't care where
16. Favorite brand of clothing?
Levis
17. Where would you retire?
First choice: canyon country on the outskirts of Las Vegas
Second choice: Danville or Burgin, KY
Third choice: Pueblo, Colorado
18. Favorite time of the day?
2pm - afternoon coffee pick-me-up time!
19. What was your most memorable birthday?
When I turned 21 and my DH had a surprise party for me and half my friends thought I'd been 21 for YEARS - boy was I embarrassed. I cried when they all said "SURPRISE!" Now I hate surprise parties.
20. Where were you born?
In the south, near Kentucky
21. Favorite sport to watch?
Ice skating or floor gymnastics
22. Who won't send this back to you?
huh?
23. What fabric detergent do you use?
Arm & Hammer and Clorox Color Safe Bleach
24. Coke or Pepsi?
What is this thing called "pepsi"? COKE!
25. Morning person or night owl?
I'd love to be a night owl, but my DH won't have it, so I am carrying on the illusion of being a morning person - and dying...
26. What is your shoe size?
A perfect 10
27. Do you have any pets?
No. Had a dog, but couldn't have a dog AND this husband, so the dog went to a very good home.
28. What did you want to be when you were little?
A radio DJ or an Air Traffic Controller
29. Longest friendship you still have.
38 years - her name's Billie Lee - she has a boy name too and out moms were best friends
30. Biggest accomplishment?
Making other people's dreams come true
31. Favorite school sport?
Gymnastics
32. Event you look forward to.
The "SS Daily" Conference and Reunion! When is it?
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package?
Arugala - the name sounds just AWFUL - doesn't it?
34. How do you pamper yourself?
Sneaking away to Seattle's Best Coffee and sitting down with a 16 ounce, non-fat, sugar-free vanilla latte. Let me tell you, that's a RARE occasion.
35. If I had a day all to myself, I would______________________.
Call my girl friend and go to lunch, then-by myself-go to a tan booth, then take a blanket, walkman, and a book, and go to the beach - no matter what time of the year or what kind of weather. If it was the dead of winter, I'd sit in my truck at the beach with the heat turned up. After a few hours, I'd take a shower, throw some jeans on and go to the waterfront bar and have a cocktail - by myself. And I'd sit there and write lists and lists of things I want to get done. I love to write lists!
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why?
Quisp. Why am I Quisp? 'Cause I'm quazy but at the same time suscinct (crisp!), and like to think of myself as a sugary but crunchy comfort food for my friends. With or without milk, I'm ready.
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up?
Let me see: I possess a lot of clutter I should get rid of (haven't learned), I live in a rainy town (same as when I grew up), I live for deadines (still procrastinating), I say 'yes' too often, ...I'm still creating an illusion of a living a perfect life, and I'M STILL DIETING!!!! Hmmmmm....caught me on a reflective day.

:)

Peace out.

I will fill in my questionaire later. Marci, I am excited to have you this year!!!

I have to run over to Len Crafters and get new glasses this morning. I fell on the ice yesterday morning early and hit my head hard. I think I may have had a mild concussion yesterday as I was totally out of it and nauseous all day. Feel better this morning except very sore! Anyway, my glasses flew off my head and got smashed all to he// can't imagine how that happened unless I landed on them!!

This is a pic of Domonick and Tillie. Dominick appears to be sticking his tounge out at Tillie but in fact, he sticks his it out when he is drinking water which is too funny!

Patti, you will get a kick out this!!

I will check in later after I get my new specs.

1. What time did you get up this morning? 7
2. Diamonds or pearls? DIAMONDS - the bigger the better LOL
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? I think Meet the Fockers
4. What is your favorite TV show now? American Idol
5. What did you have for breakfast? Smoothy
6. What is your middle name? Rae
7. What is your favorite food? Shrimp
8. What foods do you dislike? Liver, avacados, it is a short list
9. What is your favorite chip flavor? vinegar & salt
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment? Phantom of the Opera
11. What kind of car do you drive? Jeep Grand Cherokee
12. Favorite sandwich? Roast Beef with Cheddar Cheese, red onions and barbeque flavored mayo - I haven't had one in years.
13. What characteristic do you despise? being judgemental
14. What are your favorite clothes? sweats around the house, out corduroys & sweater.
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go? African Safari
16. Favorite brand of clothing? Talbots
17. Where would you retire? Can't think of a place I would rather be.
18. Favorite time of the day? summer 6AM on my kayak - anytime I am doing something fun
19. What was your most memorable birthday? I am not big on celebrating my birthday - so not one stands out in my mind.
20. Where were you born? Herkimer, NY
21. Favorite sport to watch? Winter Olympics
23. What fabric detergent do you use? Tide liquid
24. Coke or Pepsi? COKE all the way
25. Morning person or night owl? Used to be a night owl, now I'm a morning person.
26. What is your shoe size? 7
27. Do you have any pets? 1 dog Barkley
28. What did you want to be when you were little? Lawyer or Singer
29. Longest friendship you still have. 35 years we live a few hours away, but always manage to get together.
30. Biggest accomplishment? According to my friends being married for 28 years
31. Favorite school sport? I hated gym
32. Event you look forward to? Going to Italy
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package? that *&^%$# singing bass that was popular a few years back.
34. How do you pamper yourself? An occasional facial.
35. If I had a day all to myself, I used to reserve Thursdays for myself and I would take a long ride, take photos of pretty scenery, visit museums, go antiquing - I loved it. It would depend on my mood, could be stay in my pjs and watch movies or it could be packing a lunch and taking a short hike.
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why? Count Chocola - just because they have chocolate in them.
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up? I still love to watch old movies and the 3 Stooges (yes, I am a girl that likes the 3 Stooges).

Maddie - (((((HUGS))))) I have no advice - just big shoulders. I am sure you have told Rog by now - did he have any good advice for you? Let us know what and how you are doing.

Marci - thanks for doing the "un"birthday list. Great questions.

I have a lot to do today, so I better get my day going. Make it a good one.

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That's quite a weekend. Here are my thoughts – SURPRISE!

1. I would go to work, and keep going. It's was hard to find a job but it is best look for another while you are employed. Besides, given the history you’ve divulged previously, Rog would probably prefer you work than not have a job at all.

2. You mentioned insurance-that you don't have it. Will you eventually get it? If they have a policy of providing insurance within 90 days of starting-or so, I would DEFINITELY stay on. At least you'll have insurance while you look for another job.

3. Use your paid-for $200 badge and stay at work. Use the time to find out what went wrong in your review.

4. Ask for a copy of the review they made before demoting you. And ask for a meeting WITHIN the week to discuss it with your supervisor. Try not to let them put you off. This is a meeting where you should listen carefully to what their expectations are—and write them down. Obviously, they don’t believe you’ve met their expectations, so ask for a written description and expectations for the position they JUST put you in—and forget about that other position—it is water under the bridge. They must have some, since you were demoted due to a reviews and unfulfilled expectations.

5. Ask for your projected schedule and ONLY work the hours on the schedule. Have ALL your overtime approved and signed for. When you get a signed sheet for overtime and make a copy for yourself. Overtime may have cooked your goose- you were citing a lot of extra hours, and even if they're verbally okay'd, your controller could say you were too slow in getting your job done. (I'm not saying you were-this is just something that happens sometimes.)

6. Adjust your attitude if need be. Even though your wage is lower now and you are in a department you used to manage, it’s not the end of the world. Your remark that you are "down with what was your staff as of yesterday morning" was telling, unless DOWNSTAIRS is what you meant and not the figurative kind of 'down.' Truly, if you were an effective manager, you are now among friends and allies! This has potential to be a very good workplace atmosphere.

7. A person is NEVER "dead in the water!" Your engine may feel dead, so get out your oars and paddle like crazy. You are now in a department that you know like the back of your hand: GET MOVING! Show how efficient and affective you REALLY are. And, no matter what, don’t complain about upper management---at all! Everything that comes out of your mouth should be positive from now on- at least at work. People will try to get you to talk down about management and the abuse of power---forget it! Adjust. Work with it. People can. Read Robert W. Fuller’s essay on power and it’s history and learn how to understand it. Knowledge is power.

8. If, as you mentioned, you were going to others and asking them if they need help, make double dang sure you have your own stuff done FIRST. Helping others may have got you demoted by making overtime work for you. I really don't know. I'm only using the info you gave me.

9. Take the coat back. Go to a thrift store and get a warm coat or go to Target and get a coat and some long johns to wear under your pants. The thrift stores-especially in nice areas- have fantastic deals and it's fun to look at all the stuff. I shop there with my kids-we have fun finding bargains and they have a wide selection. You'll find a nice coat and probably some other fun stuff. I always do!

10. Tell Rog right away. He may get angry and he may mope for a while—so what?---just get yourself ready for that. We’re always here. Just tell him. He’ll find out anyway eventually. He is your best friend; treat him as such. If you’re disappointed with yourself, tell him. He’ll listen.

11. Take a hard look at this job: you were really, really excited when you started it but said it wasn’t really what you wanted. You may have unknowingly sabotaged it yourself. I suggest you tell Rog your about REAL DREAM JOB and tell him you’re not getting any younger and you’d like to make a plan to make it a reality. You can start a bank account and start depositing a certain amount (SQUEEZE!) every month toward owning your own business. You have the chops and the talent to have an auction house. You can get a woman-owned business loan if you have some seed money and a business plan. Take 15 minutes every night and sit with Rog and work on formulating a business plan that the banks will take a serious look at. Keep working, saving, and watching the bank account for your business grow. Even if your 60 when you get the auction house, you’ll have it! It will be YOURS! And if you change your mind, you’ll turn 60 and have enough money for one heckuva cruise!

You know I wouldn’t spend this much time thinking about this if I didn’t love ya to pieces. You’re keeping me up at night, girlfriend! XXOO!

BJ~I will keep Pat's family in my prayers.

Maddie~I will keep you in my prayers too. I want you to know that when you hurt, everyone that posts here hurts too.

NH Suzanne~You were right! I got a big smile on my face seeing your babies.

I'll do the list later. It seems like I should have the most time to get on here but my CFIDS has been really acting ugly. Sorry. Patti :)

Maddie~ HUGS!

Tikanas~ Sounds like your friend has the answer ot your pain!

NHSuzanne~ LOVE the pics---- SO CUTE!

Marci~ Thanks for putting the b-day list together!

Donna! Try CORE! When I do it, it works!!!! :)

Maddie - BJ's list of suggestions is a very good one. I hope you find peace with this situation very soon.

BJ - you are amazing - how do you come up with the stuff you post? I want you for my therapist.

Tikanis - I know you will research the injections before going for them - it almost sounds too good to be true - but I have my fingers crossed for you.

Suzanne - we only got 3 inches of snow, but it was wet and sat on the limbs of the trees and made everything very pretty.

I looked out my front window yesterday to be face to face with a deer. She was eating my shrubs and her baby was eating shrubs on the other side of my drive. I didn't have the heart to chase them - so they had an overpriced gourmet meal on me. The shrubs have seen better days anyway.

I love reading everyones answers, so keep them coming.

1. What time did you get up this morning? 5:30AM
2. Diamonds or pearls? Diamonds, although I love the pearls that my parents gave me.
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.
4. What is your favorite TV show now? American Idol/Desperate Housewives
5. What did you have for breakfast? Light toast, peanut butter and a glass of skim milk - 8 points!
6. What is your middle name? I don't have one
7. What is your favorite food? Steak/prime rib/lobster
8. What foods do you dislike? liver, clams
9. What is your favorite chip flavor? sour cream & onion
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment? I usually listen to the radio
11. What kind of car do you drive? Ford Windstar
12. Favorite sandwich? Chicken salad on pita with pickles
13. What characteristic do you despise? Know it alls and braggers
14. What are your favorite clothes? jeans, sweater and dansko shoes
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go? Arizona
16. Favorite brand of clothing? Whatever fits
17. Where would you retire? Would love to own a home here and one in Florida
18. Favorite time of the day? Summer 4PM at the beach or on the boat
19. What was your most memorable birthday? When I turned 30 DH surprised me with a party. Never saw it coming.
20. Where were you born? Danvers, MA
21. Favorite sport to watch? Figure skating, football
23. What fabric detergent do you use? Trader Joes
24. Coke or Pepsi? Diet coke
25. Morning person or night owl? A little bit of both
26. What is your shoe size? 10
27. Do you have any pets? 1 dog, 1 cat
28. What did you want to be when you were little? Vet
29. Longest friendship you still have. 27 years and she lives in Virginia
30. Biggest accomplishment? Strong marriage, 2 great kids
31. Favorite school sport? I don't do sports
32. Event you look forward to? My sons wedding
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package? I really can't think of anything.
34. How do you pamper yourself? Pedicure
35. If I had a day all to myself - it would depend on my mood. I would either curl up and watch movies in my pj's or I would go shopping.
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why? Frosted flakes cause I love them!
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up? My family still has a lot of fun together. I love that my sister and brothers and I are still close.

Maddie (((HUGS))), please let us know how you are doing.

Raeanne, I know what I am going to get you for your birthday! I'll give you a hint: It is plastic, mounted on a board and it sings!

Suzanne, your critters are so cute. Is Dominic named after the donkey in that song? Ey, aw, ey, aw, ey aw!

Marci, thanks for doing the list.

Have a great evening.

Love, Besh

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((Patti)) I hope you feel better!

Suzanne - LOVE the pictures - adorable!!!

BJ - I will give Core a try in another week or so.

Marci - thank you for putting this together.

Here we go:
1. What time did you get up this morning?
5:30 a.m.
2. Diamonds or pearls?
Definitely diamonds but I wouldn't say no to pearls
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema?
It's been a while so I am not really sure
4. What is your favorite TV show now?
Law & Order SVU and I really like House Hunters on HGTV
5. What did you have for breakfast?
Cereal, milk, OJ and coffee
6. What is your middle name?
Lee
7. What is your favorite food?
I love shrimp, steak, lobster and chocolate (not necessairly in that order)
8. What foods do you dislike?
Liver and all organ meats, anchovies, okra
9. What is your favorite chip flavor?
BBQ
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment?
I don't really have a favorite right now
11. What kind of car do you drive?
Jeep Liberty
12. Favorite sandwich?
Still PBJ
13. What characteristic do you despise?
Judgmental and deceitful
14. What are your favorite clothes?
Jeans, sweatshirt and sneaks
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go?
England, Ireland and Scotland
16. Favorite brand of clothing?
Coldwater Creek and Levi's
17. Where would you retire?
Right now I am partial to South Carolina
18. Favorite time of the day?
Early morning in summer or sunset into dusk in summer
19. What was your most memorable birthday?
Probably my 40th
20. Where were you born?
NJ
21. Favorite sport to watch?
Football and figure skating
22. Who won't send this back to you?
N/A
23. What fabric detergent do you use?
Tide or Arm & Hammer
24. Coke or Pepsi?
I guess I am the oddball - diet pepsi
25. Morning person or night owl?
Morning - really more of a late morning/early afternoon person!
26. What is your shoe size?
6 1/2
27. Do you have any pets?
2 dogs - Moose & Lacey
28. What did you want to be when you were little?
Nurse
29. Longest friendship you still have.
38 years (and she is a nurse)
30. Biggest accomplishment?
Buying my own home
31. Favorite school sport?
None - I was not a fan of gym
32. Event you look forward to.
Visiting my good friends/former neighbors in their new home in Georgia this spring
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package?
That's a tough one - probably a reptile, especially if he was eating organ meats and okra:-)
34. How do you pamper yourself?
Manicure
35. If I had a day all to myself, I would curl up with a good book, a diet pepsi and BBQ chips, turn on Lifetime and turn off the phone OR I might go shopping and out to lunch (depends on the mood!)
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why?
Alphabets - they are sweet and sugary and have lots to say :-)
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up? Nothing in particular but lots and lots of things if that makes sense. I was very fortunate and had a good childhood. Probably something my mom says, no matter what we were having for dinner she always said but we are having a nice salad with that. To this day we tease her when she talks about a meal we ask her if she had a nice salad with it.

She used to use the "green salad" saying. She'd say, "Would you like to have a green salad with that?"

My sisters and I are like, "MOM!---What other color salad is there?" lol.

1. What time did you get up this morning? 5:45 a.m.
2. Diamonds or pearls? Diamonds
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? Perfect Storm
4. What is your favorite TV show now? Survivor
5. What did you have for breakfast? An apple so far!
6. What is your middle name? Ilene
7. What is your favorite food? Taco Salad
8. What foods do you dislike? Chocolate & liver
9. What is your favorite chip flavor? Baked Lays
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment? Toby Keith
11. What kind of car do you drive? Bravado
12. Favorite sandwich? Ham & Cheese
13. What characteristic do you despise? Bart Simpson
14. What are your favorite clothes? Capris
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go? Disney World
16. Favorite brand of clothing? Levis
17. Where would you retire? Albion, Illinois
18. Favorite time of the day? between 4-7 p.m.
19. What was your most memorable birthday? 21st
20. Where were you born? Olney, Illinois
21. Favorite sport to watch? Nascar
23. What fabric detergent do you use? Gain
24. Coke or Pepsi? Diet Coke
25. Morning person or night owl? Morning person
26. What is your shoe size? 8
27. Do you have any pets? 2 dogs
28. What did you want to be when you were little? Teacher
29. Longest friendship you still have. 34 years
30. Biggest accomplishment? Having 2 girls
31. Favorite school sport? Cheerleading
32. Event you look forward to. WEEKENDS
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package? Chocolate
34. How do you pamper yourself? Get a massage
35. If I had a day all to myself, I would____scrapbook__________________.
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why? Fruity Pebbles Why?? They just seem happy!
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up? My girls and their attitudes

Just had to rush in to give Maddie a huge [[[[[[[[[[[[[HUG]]]]]]]. I agree with BJ on all her suggestions. I would never leave a job until I had a new one. If they decide to let you go, you can collect. The most important thing you can do right now is keep your head high and smile. It's tough but I know for a fact that senior management look for a good attitude in someone after they have had a disappointment. If you keep it professional, you may have someone important who notices; it can make a difference down in the line. Been there myself, so I know it firsthand. We all love you Maddie. You will get on the other side of this soon.

Oh, Besh....don't wait too long to look for a dress. Around here, we need at least 6 months for such dresses. Do they 'do' weddings in your area like they do here (more like a coronation!!)? If so, you really need the 6 months.

Really gotta run.

22. What fabric detergent do you use? Tide Free
23. Coke or Pepsi? Neither, but I do drink Cream Soda once in awhile
24. Morning person or night owl? Morning, but I used to be a night owl
25. What is your shoe size? 8½
26. Do you have any pets? One cat, KitKat that we rescued from the wild
27. What did you want to be when you were little? A mom
28. Longest friendship you still have. 42 years – my friend that is battling cancer
29. Biggest accomplishment? Raising 2 children that have turned into wonderful adults
30. Favorite school sport? Gymnastics (we called it tumbling)
31. Event you look forward to. DD’s graduation and another trip to Florida to visit DS
32. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package? I wouldn’t want a singing fish, organ meats, arugula (my MIL grows this stuff-it is bitter), organ meat eating reptiles, okra or lima beans.
33. How do you pamper yourself? Curl up with a good book and ignore the housework and the phone. Rent movies and curl up under an afghan and ignore the housework and the phone.
34. If I had a day all to myself, I would curl up with a good book or movie and ignore the housework and the phone.
35. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why? Rice Krispies – because they Snap, Crackle and Pop!
36. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up? Certain comfort foods remind me of my grandmother’s cooking. Pork chops and applesauce, peach pie, strawberry rhubarb pie, corn bread to name a few. Ice cream reminds me of my Dad because that was and still is his favorite dessert, and we ate dessert every night.

Wow everyone likes to get up at 5:45am! I get up at 8:15pm on nights I work and as late as possible on the days I dont, and thats usually aroun 7 or 8 am.

Maddie hang in there and do the best you can. Start looking now for something else. Good luck!

NHSuz when do you start the new job and what will you be doing? I will be in the Keene area in March for a bowling tourney, maybe we can meet up for dinner or lunch. Im waiting to hear back from them on which shift I bowl, so can plan from there.

I need to keep reading and catch up! I havent lost any pounds but havent gained any either, so I guess thats OK.
Be headed to Florida for a week next Sunday and I could use the break!

I hope everyone takes care and eats your greens!

John

Good to hear from you John!! I would love to meet you at your bowling tourney or otherwise. Let me know when we get closer and we can make a plan! Of course, I go to Manchester all the time so we could hook up there for lunch or something. It would make BJ so jealous!! LOL

Maddie, I am thinking of you and hope you check in to let us know what is going on.

Raeanne, where are you?

It's cold and windy today so I will be working in my basement trying to get all my Christmas stuff organized and put away. So far, it's only made it to the basement!!

Marci - I am watching an old episode of Gilmore Girls as I write this. We have the DVR (like TiVo) and I record all the episodes, I love that show.

Dee - I watched an episode of South Park last night and couldn't stop laughing. It was when they celebrated "Cowday" I couldn't help but think of you. Speaking of pizza... I shared a pie with DH last night - it tasted so good - even with all the guilt that comes with it.

We are leaving tomorrow afternoon to stay at Newark Airport for our Saturday morning flight. We are going out tonight and I work tomorrow - so I better get busy and pack.

I will check in tomorrow from work.

NHSuzanne!!! -You're going to meet up with John? AAAAAAHHHHHHHGGGGGGGG! (green with envy!) That is NOT FAIR! Take lots of pictures so I can have my photographer DD photoshop me into the frame! :) Just a reminder: don't bring a cat when you go to meet John.

I love reading these surveys! F-U-N!
Jen & DeeMarie- You need to go to the movies more often!
Marci-I can't believe I forgot about SURVIVOR on my survey- I want to amend that!

Raeanne~ Did you find a swimsuit?

Maddie-((((HUGS))) Checkin and let us know what happend with Rog and what's happening at work.

Joanne - HUGS AND LOVE to you Thinking of you every day, sister.

I am going to brekky with the boyfriend I had when I was 22. He called and is in town for a few hours. Should be fun; we get along really well. Then off to school. I have to write a peer review - I like doing that. And do another write up for Psych. Then to school to help the 4th graders hot glue their long houses! And the kids have playdates after that. Slow day for me.

Cheers!

1. What time did you get up this morning? 5:00 a.m.
2. Diamonds or pearls? Yes!
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? Star Wars-Revenge of the Seth
4. What is your favorite TV show now? "Bones", "House"
5. What did you have for breakfast? fruit bowl, coffee
6. What is your middle name? Elizabeth
7. What is your favorite food? Maine Lobster
8. What foods do you dislike? water chestnuts, baked beans, jicama, radicchio
9. What is your favorite chip flavor? Salt & Vinegar
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment? I listen to the jazz stations around here
11. What kind of car do you drive? Kia Sorento
12. Favorite sandwich? The Italian sub that they used to make at Pizza Hut but don't anymore
13. What characteristic do you despise? I despise people who will look you right in your face & smile, then turn around & talk ugly about you. If they have anything ugly to say, I'd just rather they say it to my face.
14. What are your favorite clothes? I guess for now shorts & no sleeve shirts
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go? cannot name just one ;)
16. Favorite brand of clothing? N/A (anything on sale)
17. Where would you retire? I'm retired in Florida but would love to go back to TX for a while & then go to NM or CO
18. Favorite time of the day? Anytime that Dave & I are together
19. What was your most memorable birthday? Always my next one!
20. Where were you born? Borger, Texas
21. Favorite sport to watch? Football, basketball, baseball, ice hockey, ice skating
23. What fabric detergent do you use? I don't know, ask Dave
24. Coke or Pepsi? Both
25. Morning person or night owl? Night owl
26. What is your shoe size? 10
27. Do you have any pets? No, but not b/c I want it that way :( Unless you count the lizards & toads that escape into our apartment every once in a while
28. What did you want to be when you were little? Mom, Vet
29. Longest friendship you still have. Rick in Dallas--27 years
30. Biggest accomplishment? 2 wonderful sons, a wonderful DIL, & a wonderful DH
31. Favorite school sport? Football, Basketball, Track, Tennis
32. Event you look forward to. Seeing my grandbabies
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package? Can't think of anything
34. How do you pamper yourself? Curl up with a good book
35. If I had a day all to myself, I would read & lounge around
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why? I honestly cannot answer this one unless it is "Life"
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up? small town living (where all the neighbors know your business)

I always think the best thing to say when you don't know what to say is just that. Pick up the phone, have some Kleenex handy, and when she picks up, just say,

"This is Patti. I am so sorry. I don't know what to say."

She will probably cry and then she will start a conversation. You can even just say, at that point, that you just want to "be" with her, even in silence, on the phone. Breath together. Tell her you will be calling every week to check in with her and see if she needs your moral support. She'll say, "No, you don't have to do that."

Ignore her and ask her what a good time to call is. She'll tell you; then call at that time. Let her vent her anger, talk, cry, and express her disbelief at what happened. Don't ask her if there's anything you can do- just call weekly and support her. Don't offer solutions to her - it's frustrating when the one thing she wants is something no one can give her.

Things will fall into place with you and her. Just you being serious about being there is often enough for a person in her situation.

You can't take her pain away and she needs to go through a process before she can begin to heal. This is her tragedy and no one will ever know how she feels. But-- you will absorb some of the extreme pain she is experiencing and it will have an effect on you, so be sure you take care of yourself and have some distraction in your life to get your mind off of it.

(((((((HUGS, PATTI)))))
You're a good friend for her to have.
She's lucky in that respect.

BJ - yes I found a swimsuit, it has a short skirt attached, but it has a slit up the front of one leg - so it is a bit stylish a very pretty turqoise color - I need as much coverage as I can get.

I am mostly packed, just a couple last minute things to throw together when I get home from work. Our cell phones will not be working there, so I will have to be checking in on the internet- so I will try to give you a little update at some point.

Everyone stay well - I will miss you.

Patti, ((((((HUGS)))))) to you are your friends family. I am so sorry. Everyone is right, your friend is very fortunate to have you as a friend. I don't know how a mother goes on after such a tragedy. My mother was never the same after my DS death. It's sad.

Raeanne, I bet your bathing suit matches your beautiful eyes! Have fun and be safe. Above all, don't drink too much! LOL

Tomorrow is our first sleigh rally of the year and believe it or not we have enough snow on the ground to pull it off! It was touch and go but there is now snow but it will be very warm. Should be a nice day. I haven't tried sleighing yet as I don't have a sleigh. SP would look spectacular put to a nice little cutter but it's a big expense for something I could use once or twice a year if I was lucky. Then there is storage!! Sigh........someday.

QOD: What is everyone up to this weekend. We know what Raeanne is doing the lucky girl.

I'm off to take a test at school and then work out. I'm down another pound so now I have worked all the pounds (plus a 1/2) I gained over the holidays.

((((((MADDIE))))
(((((PATTI)))))
(((((JOANNE)))))

Yesterday's brekky with my old boyfriend was a blast. We went walking all over the Pike Place Market and had lots of great coffee and caught up. He is in the best shape he's ever been in, so that was inspiring!

Have a great weekend. My friend's funeral is tomorrow. It's be good to get the closure and see a lot of old friends at the potluck afterwards. Then I am going to dive into a book and catch up on some sleep.

Check in everyone and let us know what you're doing this weekend!

Patti, I agree that the most important thing for someone like your friend is to know that there is a friend to just listen. She may need you to run out and get aspirin or tissues or chicken soup, or whatever she feels she is unable to do for herself. After my mom died and we got back from the funeral parlor to make arrangements, I remember asking a friend to run out to buy us a bag of peppermints for our throats. Just could not muster up the energy to run out again after a hectic morning. She did it in a flash, and it was something that I still remember after all these years! I knew I could depend on her for just that little gesture that meant so much.

Raeanne, I will be thinking about you on vacation. Raise a glass for me please! Have fun in the sun.

QOD: I need to catch up on bills tonight. Tomorrow I have lots of laundry and a few errands to run. Tomorrow for dinner, DH and I meet friends that I used to work with. Sunday is a no-plans day for me, so I may use it to clean my home office.

Maddie, please check in with us. I'd like to know how things went with Rog and work.

Take care, eat healthy, and NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER GIVE UP!!!!
DeeMarie

DeeMarie~She lives in TX & I'm here in FL so some things are impractible but she still has a shoulder via the 'Net & the telephone.

NH Suzanne~It is kind of strange that MY mom said to me the other day that she had been thinking about what she would do if I died before she did. She didn't think she could handle it. She said that parents are supposed to die before their children. I agree. I had two miscarriages & that was hard enough. I don't know why my mom was thinking about me b/c I've never been the favorite or even the 2nd in line to the 3 of us. LOL

Raeanne~I always get swimsuits that cover up everything, as much as possible too. I don't see you like that in my mind. I certainly hope that you have a wonderful time.

Milkdud~Are you lurking around? I loved having you posting & I miss you. Please come back when you can.

Love to all~(Because we just cannot say it enough)~Patti :)

I was hired on November 8 to fill a newly created position in the accounting department. It was the position of Accountant/Supervisor, and I was told that a 4-year degree was needed for this position. I was also told that I would learn the 5 audits that the department performs, as well as any other additional accounting functions that were needed. I was not given a ‘deadline’ in which to have finished my training.

During the last 2 weeks of November, I was taught one audit, and in December, I was sent to supervisor training, and then my direct supervisor, "H" re-certified as a supervisor me on December 28th and wrote on my evaluation "Good Job!!". I also started learning the slot audit about during the first/second week in Dec. And that is where I stayed until….

On or about January 4, "H" called me into her office to say that from the reports she was hearing, that I was "burnt-out" (wtf???) on the slot machine audit, and that I was being put on another audit on January 8. When I asked what the problem was, she replied that she had received reports that I was stressed out. The only slot auditor for the week in question (December 25 to December 29; that supposedly ‘burnt’ me out; it was also the busiest week at the property) was "R", who at one point told me to "stop f*cking things up", among other various job-misleading "help" she gave me while she was "training" me. I was told previously that she ("R) was very angry with me coming on board as she thought she should get the new position, even though she does not have the required degree. She ("R") was hostile to me while training, uncooperative and very demeaning to me and my background. She refused to help me on more than one occasion when I had problems with the audit, and would have a negative attitude when I asked for advice. And no, she wasn’t too busy with her work to help--

I went to the other audit, and have been there ever since. "H" called me into her office on Sunday, January 22, told me that my position was eliminated because I wasn’t trained enough to supervise the office for the week of January 23 – 27 (since the other supervisors were in training that week), and that I had had problems with that week in the slot audit. (Seems to be a re-occurring theme.) At this point, told her that I had never been given any specific guidelines as to when my training was to be finished, and this was the first I had heard that the other supervisors were to gone from the office that week. Then, I spoke up, and finally told her the conflicts with "R", and some of the things she said to me, and that she deliberately tried to teach me wrong procedures concerning the slot audit. (I learned about the wrong procedure from the other slot auditor when she came back to work, and I asked the correct procedures.) I also pointed out that I was never given a timeline that I was to know the whole department, and that she, "H", was my supervisor, and had failed to inform me of this. "H"then kept repeating that that week in the slots was bad (see, keeps re-occurring), and that I was being demoted to this other position, with a 50% reduction on pay (and I now became hourly; I was salaried before) and that my off days would be changed to reflect my new status. She also asked me not to say anything to the rest of the department until next week. (I assume the week starting January 29.)

On Tuesday, January 23, I was sorting paperwork at the printer, and "H" apparently did not see me standing there, and I over-heard her, speaking in a low voice, tell "R"that my supervisor position was open, and she should go apply for it. No one else in the accounting department knew, as they might have a degree and be qualified for the position, but "H" did not choose to share that information with anyone other then "R", who has been sabotaging me since she had the chance in December.

So, at this point, I figured that since it was, ahem….. public knowledge at this point—hey"H" told "R"—and I let it slip at lunch to the others. Everyone was shocked, as I get along with them, and have helped out with their problems before. And, I figured that it was best to hear it from me, so that I don’t look like a whipped pup.

One of the guys that reported to me went back to the department and let it slip that he found out, and "R"’s face was priceless—she got defensive and her voice got high. It was funny to see and hear. He said that he overheard "H" tell "R", and she immediately started to backpedal.

I did go to HR, and register my complaints, and the rep asked what I thought the repercussions would be, and I told her that I figured I’d be fired, and she said "We’ll see about that", and smiled.

Throughout all of this, I have kept my composure, and have smiled and not acted any different. I still talk and laugh and cut up, and I have kept the same level of work standards that I have from the first day. I finished one audit by 10am yesterday, the second by 4, and still and time to deal with other people’s problems with their work.

So, I am still employed, but I think things will change on Sunday. And probably not for the better. Oh well. It’s just a job that paid very well; it’s not my life and it does not define me.

I did tell Rog on Monday, after I took a good assessment of things, and he is OK with things, no matter what happens. I told him everything, and I told him the reason that I could not tell him Sunday was that I couldn’t bear the look of disappointment in his eyes, he told me I was silly, and that I couldn’t disappoint him, ever.

BJ—I love you, my sis—nothing you can say to me would ever hurt me, b/c I know you speak from your heart. If I were hourly, I would say you are right, but I was salaried, and all supervisors must stay until all the work is finished, even if they themselves have been done for hours. And I was told that everyone must help the other’s out to finish up, which is fine with me—so, that’s why I would always ask, when I was finished, if I could help with someone else’s work. (Although, in retrospect, I never did see any of the other supervisors do that—ever. ???) My insurance will not kick in until March—a long way to go--, and I was not given any type of review until this past Sunday. Nor any sense of unfilled expectations on anyone’s part—I was told by one of me peers that I was going a very good job—

And as for the "down with" statement, I merely meant that I was now down in the pit with them—not a put down (LOL!) in anyway—they are great people! J

The coat—it is a Burberry, and it came form a consignment store with a no-return policy. (I rarely buy anything from a mall.) Still, even for that price, I wouldn’t have bought it now. It’s so gorgeous—I feel like a million bucks with it on—JJJ

And---about the attitude—you’re right, and that’s exactly what I’ve been doing all week. I’m still the same person I was this time last week, and I’ll be that same person this time next week. While I hate being in this position, it is just a job, and it does not define me anymore than my MIL does.

So, I’m disappointed, but I’ll live—it’s OK, and I’ll just start over again—

Enough of me—

Patti—(((((hugs))))) to you and your friend—I can not imagine that pain—

NHSuzanne—great pics! JJ

Marci—thanks for the birthday exchange!

Gotta go—Rog will be home in a bit—

Love and hugs to all—

Maddie

My friend drove off the road and flipped his car upside down in a marsh and drowned - buckled in his seat. Young guy - 54 - never been married, no kids, had tons of close friends. Anyway, that's the funeral I'll be at tomorrow on the island.

Maddie! Great to hear you are doing well and the job is not a big deal. Drive on!

I'll check in from the island....

1. What time did you get up this morning? 5:30 a.m.
2. Diamonds or pearls? Diamonds, but of course!
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? "Hoodwinked" (on a preschool field trip)
4. What is your favorite TV show now? "Desperate Housewives"
5. What did you have for breakfast? Oatmeal with walnuts and raisins
6. What is your middle name? Ann
7. What is your favorite food? Seafood, especially shrimp
8. What foods do you dislike? Liver and beets
9. What is your favorite chip flavor? Vinegar and Salt
10. What is your favorite CD at the moment? Big & Rich's "Coming to your City"
11. What kind of car do you drive? PT Cruiser
12. Favorite sandwich? Hot pastrami
13. What characteristic do you despise? Lying
14. What are your favorite clothes? Jeans and tee-shirts
15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go? England
16. Favorite brand of clothing? Old Navy
17. Where would you retire? Right here in north Texas
18. Favorite time of the day? Late afternoon
19. What was your most memorable birthday? The year I turned 30 because I was a first-time mom!
20. Where were you born? Dallas, TX
21. Favorite sport to watch? I don't like to watch sports
22. Who won't send this back to you? HUH?
23. What fabric detergent do you use? Mostly Cheer for dark colors
24. Coke or Pepsi? Diet Coke
25. Morning person or night owl? Night owl
26. What is your shoe size? 9-1/2 narrow
27. Do you have any pets? One 4-yr. old yellow Lab-looking female named Lucky
28. What did you want to be when you were little? a teacher
29. Longest friendship you still have. 44 years
30. Biggest accomplishment? surviving my sons' teen years
31. Favorite school sport? soccer
32. Event you look forward to. Seeing my oldest son happily married and giving me another grandchild!
33. What is one thing/product you absolutely detest and would hate to see in a gift package? Anything that says "teacher"
34. How do you pamper yourself? with candles and lotions
35. If I had a day all to myself, I would curl up with a good mystery, a cup of flavored coffee, and a Snickers bar.
36. If you were a box of cereal, what kind would you be and why? Cheerios because I'm usually pretty cheery and full of energy!
37. What in your life now reminds you of when you were growing up? Watching old black and white movies I shared with my mom when I was little and got to stay home from school with some ailment.

Also, I need to correct my birthday. For some reason, ivillage revered it to 1/1, but it's actually August 24th. Of course, Patti knows this all too well. LOL

Hugs to all who need them and even those who don't. I'll be back to read the posts tomorrow when I've rested up. Have a nice weekend everyone and take care!

Dee - glad you are home!

Raeanne - HAVE FUN!

BJ - I remember you posting about your friend. Hugs. I love that about your Mom with the green salad!

Patti - I am so sorry about your friend's daughter. I agree with what everyone has said - just let her know you are there for her.

Joanne - your Mom is still in my prayers.

I weighed in on Thursday and lost 1.4 for a grand total of 4.6 lbs in 2 weeks. A slow but hopefully steady start.

I will check in again over the weekend. It's Saturday which means errands and all the other fun things that need to be done.

Donna

Phone is off the hook so im just checking in.

/hug BJ!

take care all of you

John

Just spent 3 hours paying bills that were stacked up. Youngest DSD's car has shut down (new engine will cost over $4,000), so any hopes of using my March bonus to pay off our credit cards is now dashed. She's looking for a used 1999 car, and looks like we will split cost with her mom...DSD has promised to cover all insurance, but it does hit us when we don't need it. Isn't it always the way?

Last load of laundry is in the dryer! I'm sure I'm ahead of BJ on that one! Hope you have a better day today, dear BJ.

Maddie, it was good to see you check in to put all that out on the table for us to share. Continue to remember that we are here for you....wish I was there to give more help, but here's hoping a virtual [[[[[[HUG]]]]] will ease the pain a bit.

OK, need to visit a few more sites and check the dryer.

Make today count!!
DeeMarie

Thanks for the hugs, everyone!

The funeral was short. It was WINDY, rainy, and yuccky outside, so they really went throgh the ceremony fast! 21 gun salute and TAPS touched everyone deeply. Then we all went INSIDE and ate (I passed on the food), told stories, and went home. It was a nice event.

I been on the island since yesterday and will go home tonight. Deemarie, I only had one load of laundry here today! But I have a PILE of it waiting for me at home!