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The Client and the Designer - Tango, Waltz, or SlamDance??

bronwynsmom
11 years ago

In response to several recent posts, here's a thread for discussing the roles and responsibilities of designers and clients.

So let me start by saying that this is a complex and varied field, with many levels of ability, experience, professionalism, and ethics.

Lots of the questions we'll discuss here have more than one answer. And honest disagreement is inevitable. We all have things to teach and things to learn.

I'd like to lead with a question for the trained designers here.

What do you recommend as background reading and/or preparation for people who haven't used a designer before?

And what steps do you use to begin a consultation?

Comments (66)

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Unless I am doing the whole job for free, which I sometimes do, my free consultation is to find out what the potential client is interesting in accomplishing and whether or not I want to take on the project. If I am getting paid for it we come up with some rate with cut-offs, if I am bartering we figure that out, and if I am doing it for free, I tell them what I am willing to do for free and since it is free what may be expected of them in return.

    I don't do commissions on furniture or cabinetry. I design at an hourly rate and that's it.

  • lavender_lass
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Well, to answer the question, I only tango with my husband...and I'm not even sure what SlamDance is but it sounds painful and anything but graceful.

    So, that would leave a waltz, which I think is actually a very good analogy. There are a few basic rules, you have to be able to count...but it's fairly easy to learn and only one person can lead. However, if you have a question, it's easy to stop, get clarification...and then start counting again :)

  • bronwynsmom
    Original Author
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Lavender Lass, you understood perfectly!

    Patty cakes, it is most common for a free consultation to be offered in a retail setting, in which the markup on furnishings or fabric or fittings covers the cost of a salaried designer. Sometimes a designer will advertise a consultation as part of an overall marketing plan, to drum up business or widen his/her visibility in the market.

    The "free" part of my usual process is the initial meeting, which as Palimpsest explains is when the designer and client decide whether or not to proceed. This is where good customer service should begin, and where trust begins to form. It's where the designer can usually suss out what the client's level of design knowledge is, and what needs to be explained.

    If the client is still all over the place at this point, the next step can be to schedule a paid session of an hour or two, at which point the program for the job can be developed more clearly, and the client can be given some homework to clarify and communicate the goals. In my experience, it is very important to be as honest as possible, sweetly and gently, about constraints, or the need for a better developed idea, or what things she is asking for seem mutually exclusive.

    You have to be articulate enough about design principles, and what it is in an inspiration room that will be destroyed by a wrong choice, or how the overall idea needs to be revised to work that antique Singer sewing machine in, without trashing someone's taste. I can't count the times I have heard myself say, "Oh, my, what a wonderful (lamp-table-painting-fabric-whatever)! Wouldn't it be fun to use that! I don't think it will work in here, but let's see if we can't find another place for it!" Then you work on losing the awful thing somewhere farther along, when the plan becomes better defined.

    The initial meeting is also the point at which the designer may decide that the job is not for her. A client who is going to be trouble often (not always!) reveals it in that meeting. If the project just can't be accomplished with the stated constraints (not enough budget, too many impossible things that must be included, a house that will never be what the client hopes for), that's the time to suggest a different route for the client - or to narrow the focus of the job to improve things as best you can, as quickly and inexpensively as you can, legitimately. Meaning, giving the client something of value without raising unrealistic expectations.

  • maisoui1
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    What about when the designer charges a retainer. There was a 1k retainer fee on my bill which I thought was to be applied towards the work being done but no it was to get me set up with her. Never quite figured that one out. She was about 150 per hr on top of that

  • bethohio3
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    We just had the interesting experience of working with two different designers from two different retail stores. Designer "M" works for a local chain and has a degree from a prestigious design school. I don't know what Designer "L"'s credentials are.

    We told her that we were casual people, that we entertain a lot and casually, that we are into comfort, and that we were keeping our wall of books.

    Designer "M" wanted to do our entire room her way. We told her we liked purple and green and blue. She thought chocolate brown would be a good color. She picked formal feeling fabrics and patterns.

    We were looking for a comfortable seating arrangement. She thought a couple of chairs along a wall would be good, as well as a seating arrangement that had less seating than we started with. She said our friends could pull those chairs over if they wanted to.

    I told her that I found 3 cushion sofas more comfortable and could seat 3, which we often do. She said she thought 2 cushions were so much more attractive that she didn't care if the middle person wasn't comfortable.

    We said comfort was a huge factor in selecting soft furniture. She said she knew we said that, but look at this chair with wooden arms, which we told her we didn't want. Oh, and look at this other one with wooden arms, she said.

    And finally, she wasn't the *least* bit interested in the two inspiration pictures I had--both of art I was *going* to put in the room.

    Designer "L" was very interested in those same pictures. She picked fabrics that would work in a room that had those paintings. She listened to how we use the room and planned for a seating arrangement that would work for large groups.

    We told her people often sat on our coffee table (true) and she showed us a few options that would provide additional seating. When DH and DD decided that they wanted a chair there wasn't room for two of, she made changes to make that work. She steered us away from things that wouldn't work.

    She knew we were watching our budget (since it's the second room we're doing this year), so she gave us some ideas for repurposing what we have for now, and how she'd change it later when we're ready to replace case goods. (We placed an order with her store.)

    Designer "M" was trying to "create a room"--but it seemed it would be staged and uncomfortable and not "us" at all. It felt like she wanted to get us out of her way so she could do her work. I was glad it was a store-provided service and we didn't pay directly for it. She probably thinks we're the world's least cooperative clients--but we didn't think she 'heard' us at all.

    Designer "L" was also trying to create a room--but she acted more as a consultant. She wanted something we'd be thrilled with--and was working towards making that happen. (And she thinks we're great :-).

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    There may be a reason that M works at a chain store on commission from sales of individual pieces of furniture rather than as an independent designer, regardless of what her degree is. I agree that it is very difficult to work with someone who doesn't seem to listen at all.

  • suzanne_sl
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    LOL! palimpsest: Client: Hmm, actually no, I always think (glaze) that looks kinda dirty... Until this afternoon, this was me, I officially hated glazes, and mostly I still do. This afternoon, though, I saw an ebony glaze, very understated, that gave the cabinets depth and a certain gravitas vs. somebody never wipes the gunk off the cabinets. I like it and I couldn't be more surprised.

    and Client: "It's called Merlot, I LOVE Merlot, and it would be really neat to have kitchen cabinets named Merlot. We currently have a dozen or so paint strips hanging on our bedroom wall in various shades of gray. We've tossed the green ones and the too dark ones and the too blue ones, and are down to subtle differences. One of those my DH has taken an exception to the name of the color. Honestly, I've always wondered who names those colors in the first place, and if they have nightmares about color names chasing them downs in desperate races across barren landscapes. If the one with the objectionable name turns out to be the best choice, we're using it anyway!

  • bronwynsmom
    Original Author
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Color names, like the names of nail polish, are created by groups of elves sitting on mushrooms in a mossy glen, and involve pitchers of moonbeam martinis, and pipes full of dew-and-pollen soaked weed.

  • sas95
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Color names, like the names of nail polish, are created by groups of elves sitting on mushrooms in a mossy glen, and involve pitchers of moonbeam martinis, and pipes full of dew-and-pollen soaked weed.

    Having worked for many years for a nail polish company, I can confirm that this is true.

  • cooperbailey
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    bronwynsmom thanks for explaining one of the mysteries of life!
    On a serious note, I enjoyed the input from the designers here on HD. Thanks for your time and information.

  • mtnrdredux_gw
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I still remember a bottle of Christian Dior nail polish I had in high school, which was called "Shanghai Express". It wasn't even red.

    And when I tried fourteen blues for my exterior porch celings, I ended up with the first one I had tried. It was called "Porch ceiling blue". In that case, I was reacting to the idea that I was such a dolt that I couldn't pick my own blue, and so resisted it mightily. And then succumbed.

  • melsouth
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    A few questions to, maybe, help get the ball rolling again -

    Do you think that many people avoid hiring an interior designer/decorator because it seems like such a mysterious process to them?

    My mother gave my this bit of wisdom (something like this):
    If they don't tell you the price up front, then you can't afford it.
    But the very nature of interior design makes it quite difficult to give clients hard (absolute) numbers.
    Do you think that people are afraid of unknown costs skyrocketing out of control, therefore they avoid hiring design help, but then spend as much or more money to end up with with a room that doesn't work?

    How has the slow economy affected the interior design business in your area? Or has it?
    Can the interior design business accommodate more "regular" paying customers or is this a luxury-only business?

    Do you think that the plethora of TV shows, youtube videos, websites, forums, books, and magazines about design has helped or hurt the overall image of the interior design industry?

    Do you think people are afraid they're going to end up with a "Hildy" room, a la the old "TRADING SPACES" TV show, with some lunatic designer glueing horse manure or the like to the walls?

    The information and encouragement to DIY that is so prevalent now has helped some of us end up finding talents we never knew we had, in areas like painting, refinishing, flooring, upholstery, gardening, etc. Is this a good or a bad thing for designers?

    Thanks to all of you, professionals and non-professionals, who share your knowledge and advice.

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    My parents, while upper middle class, were not really in the luxury market. They had never worked with an interior designer before they built their house. Their first interior designer, who was near retirement when they hired her, must've done something right because every stick of that furniture is still there, 44 years later. It was expensive up front, relatively, but in terms of life cycle, very cheap. It was all worth reupholstering. In my experience it actually saves you money if you work with a good interior designer. My sister, who thinks she can make all these decisions by herself, has had more furniture in and out of that house, more schemes, half finished ideas, and window treatments etc, than an unclaimed freight clearance center and after thirty years of spending money on furnishings and goods -- has almost nothing of worth to show for it. And I know a lot of people in the same boat.

    The slow economy has definitely affected the market, and many interior designers are either out of work or very slow.

    The plethora of TV shows has exposed the design industry to a wider overall audience, but I think overall it has Not Helped the image of the industry. I think there are a lot of blogs and videos that are absolutely useless and there is no regulation with regards to the veracity of the information provided.

    Yes, I think people are afraid they are going to end up with a Hildy, but the entire premise of that show was entirely backwards.

    My mother who knew what it was actually like to design the interior of a house with an interior designer asked me, during the Trading Spaces heyday what I would do in her Living Room for $2000 in 2 days.

    I told her "measure for and order new good quality lampshades". Which would've taken up the $2000 for 5 lampshades comparable to the originals, but not the whole weekend. These shows make everybody expect everything for nothing in no time. And a lot of the design is photogenic, but essentially junk.

    I don't think the DIY market has hurt the interior design industry at all, they are mostly two different groups of people.

  • marcolo
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Brunschwig went Chapter 11, so yes, the design trade is hurting due to the economy. As in other countries with extreme wealth concentrations (Saudi Arabia, etc.) there is plenty of cash being thrown at decor by hedge fund managers with essentially limitless budgets, but the tier down from there has curtailed its spending a lot. Also, an ailing real estate market means fewer movers and fewer new homes to decorate.

    I do agree with pal that TV makes people think they can overnight top-quality design transformations without spending any money.

    But the catalog companies have also hurt. I am always amazed at younger people who think Pottery Barn is the one and only look to aspire to. The PB look is of course driven by economics--pseudo-rustic, "casual" furniture is cheaply and easily produced in China by slave and child labor; fine furniture, not so much. It's not really about whether someone likes PB or not. The real issue is that among many young people, PB and C&B catalogues are almost the only design styles they have ever been exposed to, so now this limit, flaw and failing in their education is held up as a virtue. (This is similar to the way many young people can no longer type, sew, write a sentence in cursive handwriting, do math or spell, and yet present all these inadequacies as hip and cutting-edge. It's a generalization that doesn't apply to everyone, but it applies to a lot of people in the demographic.) So when they see a style unfamiliar to them from PB or CB, they reject it as old--not because they're so "sophisticated," but because they literally don't know any better.

  • bronwynsmom
    Original Author
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    If I hear one more person in an orange apron say, "You can do it!" I think I will move to a Greek island and live in a hut with a bench and a spoon...

    Palimpsest's post about how much money is wasted by people who simply can't let go, or take advice from anyone on anything, and how shoddy and fake the work done on week-end decorating shows is, is right on point.

    One of my favorite ads involves a surgeon on the telephone instructing a fellow sitting at his kitchen table with a butcher knife how to take out his own appendix.

    Someone can tell you how to do something, but that doesn't mean you don't need to watch it, practice it, screw it up, practice it some more, and finally understand the process and master the skills before you will get anything like a decent result.

    Some of the more obvious things are:
    Kitchen design. Plumbing. Electrical work. Tile setting. Trim carpentry. Framing. Drywall. Bricklaying. Drainage engineering. Drafted existing condition drawings. Construction drawings. Critical path (setting and managing order of work).

    But there are more subtle things that also require training and practice:
    Space planning. Color palette creation. Balance. Symmetry, and negative space. Circulation. Proportion. Suitability. Architectural integrity. Light. Access. Underlying structure.

    I really admire those of you who have taken on and mastered all kinds of household improvement and design skills, and done work yourselves that turned out well. You have learned just how demanding those jobs were, and how many more hours it took you than it might have taken a skilled professional who has a truck full of equipment, a couple of helpers, and who does it every day.

    But I bet a lot of you have tried things that looked easy and really weren't, and either had to give up, or call in a pro, or live with something you really don't think is good enough. I know I have.

    The world has changed, my dears, and we are now walking around with huge targets on our pockets. Everything that comes at us is designed to sell us something, whether we want and need it or not. Television, magazines, and the internet live by advertising, and their editorial content is there to show us why we need to buy what the advertisers are selling. Doesn't mean they aren't great sources of ideas and understanding, but we have to be alert to undue influence, and remember that good things can be expensive, and that the lady in the kitchen who looks just like us, mopping up juice with the A-1 paper towel, is in a kitchen that probably cost $250,000. Our expectations have been inflated to keep us hauling out those credit cards.

    Which is why I love this forum. All given generously, all given anonymously. The musician on the street corner, who is playin' real good for free.

  • User
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I'm so glad to see this thread has taken off like a sky rocket and the coolest thing is it reads as if the whole group just sitting at a table together drinking coffee and sharing ideas.

    Bronwynsmom, thank you for starting the thread. I knew it would have a lot more credibility if it were started by a professional and you took it in the exact direction I was hoping it would go. I know a lot of people will read through this and learn from it. Much appreciated!

  • bethohio3
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I'm someone who knows she needs design help. I just don't have the "eye" to tell if things will go together--I can pick individual items I like, but not a set, and I am capable of picking out a bunch of items I like and then not liking them together.

    When we built our house, we were referred to an interior design consultant, who charged us $75/hour to place light fixtures, pick light fixtures, counter tops, floors, and paint color. (She also picked the paint color for the house we were selling which looked way better than the one I had picked out a few years earlier that I liked.)

    I was so afraid I'd pick out the pieces I liked and they wouldn't work together. (I was right--I would have--and she steered us away from those choices.) If we'd brought her on earlier, we might even have ended up with a different cabinet shade--but I do love what we have.

    I think we spent about $1200 for her time during the build process--and it was *completely* worth it. Everyone here pointed out that my rooms needed color (they do), but with her help, all of the floors, cabinets, and walls look good together (all neutrals) that I can do anything--I just need to figure out what.

    If she were still working, we'd be using her for our decorating. Since she isn't working, I didn't have a clue how to go about finding another design consultant, so we used the one at the store.

    It's hard for someone who knows she needs help to find a designer. Even as furniture is settled, I'm at a loss to "finish" a room with its accessories.

    I'm envious of those of you who find it easy.

  • marcolo
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Great point about 24/7 360-degree marketing.

    I also noted the mention of critical paths and other management issues. I think if someone is wondering whether they can manage a relationship with a designer, they need to ask whether they can manage anything. Some people can't. Whatever they're trying to do, deadlines pass. Critical steps get forgotten. Communication is poor, either because they find it hard to formulate thoughts, try too hard to avoid confrontation, or can't conduct a conversation without a confrontation. A frank self-assessment is probably a good idea before embarking on one of these design projects. If you were good at managing work projects, work reporting relationships, construction projects, charity drives--whatever--you will have to call on those skills to manage a design project as well. If you've never been good at that sort of thing, you may need to involve someone else to set the parameters for you, like a spouse or sibling or adult kid, not to make the aesthetic choices but to ensure that budgets, timetables and communications are buttoned up.

  • lazy_gardens
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I'm with Marcolo and Palimpsest: For those with a stack of folders crammed with "inspiration photos" ... if you can't explain to the designer or architect exactly what design detail, principle or concept you find inspiring about that photo, it's birdcage liner.

    If I can't tell myself what I like about an inspiration picture a few weeks after collecting it, I toss it. It may have been attractive, but there's no lasting information in it.

    I try to keep landscaping clients focused on usability, function and traffic flow patterns as long as possible ... I do not want to get into discussions of which color petunia goes best with the roof until we know how they are going to get from the back door to the BBQ.

    To that end, I have a lovely questionnaire about what they would like to do in that space ... and then we discuss how the pieces need to fit, and what level of comfort they have with DIY versus getting a contractor, how to stage things, etc.

    Because I am a "design consultant" and not a "landscape contractor", I hand over the generic plans and drawings so they can DIY or hire someone. They have a suggested schedule, plants lists and backup selections if something is unavailable.

    If it's a decent design, it can be executed at a variety of price points and still work well.

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    After I had my post-doc, there were two situations that caused me to take a design course. One, I was not loving my day job(s) at that point; (2) I was undertaking a kitchen renovation and an overall restoration of an apartment that was the former back parlor of an 1840 house.

    So I took an "Interior Decorative Arts" course at a local school with an ID program. And I was a bit ahead of the game compared to a number of the people in the class: I had a fairly extensive drawing and painting background, and my parents not only used interior designers, but the latest one had been bouncing ideas off of me since I was in HS, and I was often given the final vote when it came to design decisions.

    So at the end of the course the instructor wanted to know where people were going from there, and I said that I would like to do interior design but I didn't know if I needed yet another degree to do this, maybe I could just take some courses. And her answer was "You don't know how much you don't actually know. You have kind of a matured viewpoint when it comes to design having been exposed to it, but you don't really have any technical skills or history at all. You can pick out a good palette, but that's not being an interior designer...if you want to do this, get a degree."

    I look at a ton of real estate, both in person and online, and I can tell which properties were designed by a contractor or had an interior designer, (architects are sometimes strange about interior layouts, too); I can usually tell if there has been an interior designer involved in the furnishings and decor, whether it's been a decorator, the contractor's wife, or an amateur.

    The taste doesn't necessarily come into it: I think some interior designers have repellent taste but good taste or bad, there are earmarks that differentiate a room done by someone with technical training vs. done by an amateur.

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    Diane Smith at Walter E. Smithe Furniture
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    The design process is so intimate. The reasons many come for help with their home are often because of life changing events. Divorce, death, birth, job changes, job losses....

    A designer should understand the emotional component of the job and be prepared to don the psychologist cap when necessary. Simply shutting up and listening goes a long way to learning what the client needs.

  • marcolo
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    there are earmarks that differentiate a room done by someone with technical training vs. done by an amateur.

    Name some. I think it'll be fun. We can all compare notes.

    This may not be the kind of thing you're thinking about, but scale is one tell-tale earmark to me. Most amateurs are really bad at it--huge looming armoires, lots of itsy bitsy twee dressers, that kind of thing. Editing is another one.

    Has everyone on this forum seen the Sweeby test from the Kitchen Forum? I think everyone starting a design project should begin with a self-assessment like that one.

  • lazy_gardens
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    maqrcolo - How about badly hung art? Too small for the wall, too high above the furniture, frames relentlessly matched to the chair's legs?

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I can usually tell if an interior designer was in on the contstruction phase with lighting, millwork, fixtures and finishes. Sometimes this is nobody but the contractor, sometimes it is the contractor's wife maybe. Sometimes it is the homeowner.

    If it is the contractor, the electrical and lighting will be done to meet code, whereas if an interior designer in on it, usually there will be better switch and outlet placement.

    Millwork will tend to be really decent if a designer is involved, and even in the designer is not so great there will be more consistency between the various elements than if the contractor gets to install the combination of what is most commonly available in the area.

    If there is a contractor's wife involved, you can usually tell in the bathroom and kitchen fixtures and finishes: there is someone involved early enough in the construction process to drive the selections, but it will often be a variety of fixtures and finishes that work together in each spot, but it looks like someone was trying out different schemes in different areas--and it's usually popular/trendy, meaning readily available.

    A designer will sometimes get a bit carried away here too, trying to be too trendy, but it is usually a bit more cohesive and earlier on the curve than above.

    If this is a house that is not a new house or new rehab and has been lived in, there is key area that tells if an interior designer has been involved:

    Much Better Quality and More Appropriate Window Treatments.

  • marcolo
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Yes--window treatments are absolutely a big tell.

  • bronwynsmom
    Original Author
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Artful mixing of the fine and the funky.
    Inexpensive or treasured odd bits worked into a beautifully proportioned, expertly colored, carefully edited, well-lit whole.

    Staying away from the middle - choosing the top-of-the-line where quality really matters, and the simplest, least expensive in other areas.

    One fabulous antique paired with neutral colored, re-hemmed-by-hand, perfectly ironed and hung stock curtain panels, and a flea market side chair. One gorgeous authentic Persian carpet and sisal everywhere else. That kind of thing.

  • roarah
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I think lamps are another big tell. I was at my friend's house for the first time in a while and instantly asked if she used her same designer again and she asked how i knew she used a designer resently because nothing major was changed, but i noticed large, new, magnificant table lamps in her entry and knew a pro had helped.

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    And lamp SHADES. Usually, unless the base is something special, most of the price could be in the shade. You can get inexpensive shades that look presentable but they can dry out pretty quickly.

    When my mother had to replace a bunch of lampshades, probably in the late '90s, she said with her usually directness. "I am not paying $XXX for a good lampshade or to get these recovered. Pretty soon I will be too old to care and then I will be dead. I won't get my money's worth like I did the first time".

    So, the lamps got stock shades that are maybe a little too small, a little not right but presentable enough. I noticed the last time I was home that a number of shades are hanging in shreds on the inside and the trim is barely hanging on. These were not extra cheap stock shades either, just not great ones, so I don't know what will happen this time around: soon my dad will have lamps with completely disintegrated shades. These are all big lamps, too, not easy to find something at Walmart for a real-sized lamp.

  • outsideplaying_gw
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I have enjoyed reading the comments and thanks for starting this conversation. It reinforces for me why I finally hired an ID for the major rooms when we built our house. Not only did she keep me on track with some difficult kitchen design decisions, she picked bedroom fabrics that we lived with for 12 years until deciding to redecorate about 6 months ago. She has helped with several other drapery and furniture decisions over the years and has been worth every nickel as far as I'm concerned. Have I agreed with everything she recommended? No, but I'm not afraid to tell her so and we start looking for something else. The key is don't get in a hurry to make a decision. But I value the fact she can come out, measure, show me multiple fabrics to choose from (including price), and seems to be able to blend just what I'm looking for in the end at a reasonable price. And it's well-constsructed. Yes, I know she's making a profit and I have to factor that in as I gasp a bit when I see the bill, but I love the result. I have to remind myself that I also gasped when my last pair of glasses cost me over $500 and I kicked myself harder because I lost a pair.

  • marcolo
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Has anyone ever read How to Work with an Interior Designer or something similar? Seems like a reasonable place to start.

    There are also a variety of articles that turn up with a Google search--some good, some not so good. Do people try to read things like this before hiring a designer?

  • winesnob
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I, too love this thread. I just recently hired a ID, we didn't do so well together. Basically I think my taste is so great, I wasn't really willing to listen to much she had to say. But in my defense, she went places, charged me for it, and I didn't ask her too. I ended up making most of the choices. I am going to be doing my kitchen and want so much to have someone I can work with and that will bring me creative ideas while still listening to me. I have had some issues with glaze on my cabinets, if it hadn't been for the Merlot comment I would have thought I was in on that conversation. I have stepped on my foot along the way. I do think that owner, ID, and GC all seem to think they didn't cause the problem, it is a CYA and wasn't my fault circle.

  • cat_mom
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Interesting all the comments re: lampshades. My grandmother sewed lampshades, and that's how she helped put my dad through college in the late 1950's-early 1960's. She must've done a good job if she could put him through school using what she made!

  • marcolo
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    But in my defense, she went places, charged me for it, and I didn't ask her too.

    An ID is not a dog, and does not get lead around on a leash. If she thinks of a showroom that may have the right fabric or whatnot, she will not call to ask you permission. If you think she should, then you're better suited to DIY.

  • chispa
    11 years ago
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    marcolo, your response is very black or white ... your response says that winesnob should be DIY or the ID should do whatever she wants. No other option? ... obviously there is a gray middle area, where it is a win/win for Id and customer.

    My own ID has gone off and searched for stuff after I sent an email listing out what we were working on and it did not include the item she spent time on. Luckily this time I liked the item, but after this and the other thread, I will be much quicker to put a stop to any work not agreed to before.

  • winesnob
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    No one should be led around on a leash but at 200 an hour it behooves them to tell you what direction they are going, especially if they know you are doing some of the selections yourself. It is not fair for them to take all the liberties unless at the beginning you have said, I don't care, your ideas, go for it, Carte Blanc.

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
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    The Interior Designer is put in between a Rock and a Hard Place then, when it comes to billing.

    Interior Designers who work on mark up get accused of presenting certain selections to the client because they are More Expensive than something else ONLY as a means of squeezing more money out of the client then, not because it may be a better selection.

    The Interior Designer who works on an hourly rate gets accused of padding the hours, using hours to do unauthorized designing or sample shopping or whatever. It becomes a no-win situation.

    I COULD spend 8 hours looking for fabric for one piece of furniture --I know I have for myself--but do you think I would or could charge a client $800 for the selection of one fabric? In all honesty I think the hours spent tend to be more than the hours billed out for this type of thing.

  • winesnob
    11 years ago
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    I can agree with that Pal because I have spent countless hours making my choices for my renovation. And I do think they are between that rock and hard place, do you think many issues between client and ID are often communication?... or a lack of. An experienced, educated designer should be compensated for her success, I would never not be willing to pay but I am from the Golden Rule saying, he who makes the gold, makes the rules. That very first meeting sets the tone for success....(with a few really good magazine and GW, of course)

  • marcolo
    11 years ago
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    What you said was not, "she started on projects I hadn't assigned," but specifically that she "went places." I took this literally. Did you mean it figuratively? If so, then your point is valid. But if you meant, I didn't ask her to go to the Schumacher showroom or the stone yard, then that's a completely invalid expectation. You don't control an independent professional's movements; she is not your employee.

    I think this goes to a larger misunderstanding. A designer is not your pair of hands or your assistant. If that is what you want, then you need to say that up front, so that the 90+ percent of designers who will not work under those constraints can get out while the going is good, and you can save yourself some time and money.

    Selecting a fabric takes far, far longer than 8 hours. I have done it multiple times. I have told designers I will never again accompany them to showrooms because it is too exhausting, especially on top of draping a bagful of swatches around your room and staring at them for two weeks afterwards. This is hard stuff.

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    Diane Smith at Walter E. Smithe Furniture
    11 years ago
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    This happened a few hours ago. Talk about a coincidence...

    Customer: I worked with a designer picking out paint and the room was just painted today. I hate it.

    Me: What happened?

    Customer: The room was a reddish color and I asked for help toning it down. I liked the red but it was to much.

    Me: What color did you have it painted?

    Customer: Off-white

    Me: Why didn't you tell her you didn't want off-white?

    Customer: I don't know.... I thought she knew what I wanted.

    Me: But you didn't want off white?

    Customer: No

    Me: You should have spoken up.

    Customer: I know. But I thought she knew what she was doing.

    Another frustrated design consumer, but who's to blame? Both the customer and the designer I guess. I just sent her the link to Houzz. It will be interesting to see what she gravitates towards.

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    Diane Smith at Walter E. Smithe Furniture
    11 years ago
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    and another interesting coincidence...anyone see the NYT article, In Defense of the Decorator, today?

    All these forces have created a climate in which, as Stephen Drucker, who has been editor in chief of House Beautiful and Martha Stewart Living, put it: "It's not so cool anymore to credit the decorator. You're supposed to have curated your own eclectic, wonderful life, not order Mario by the yard."

    Here is a link that might be useful: In Defense of the Decorator

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
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    I was actually *In the Room once when a client whose entire floorplan I rearranged said "Yes!", when a neighbor asked, "Was this all your idea?"

    She had been totally against it, actually.

    She did backpedal but the "Yes!" came out so smoothly and the truth seemed a bit harder.

  • bronwynsmom
    Original Author
    11 years ago
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    Deedee, thank you so much for posting that link to the NYT article. I just howled over my coffee when I read it, thinking, we just wrote that article right here!

  • winesnob
    11 years ago
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    I was acutally in a room once when a ID took the credit for items I had chosen, I think all this could work both ways, there are more often talents on both sides. I am curious to know how many experienced, educated designers help DIY on this forum that can't afford the $$$ for someone to assist them. IMHO this was a SlamDance thread tonight.....

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
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    "I am curious to know how many experienced, educated designers help DIY on this forum that can't afford the $$$ for someone to assist them."

    I sure do.

    It often ends up DIF, too. (Do It For)

    I barter jobs, I do jobs for very low rates because they are interesting, I do stuff for free for people I like.

    But I also have a Day Job. I don't think a designer should necessarily be expected to cut their fees for someone who can't afford it.

    In my Day job I also work about half the time providing services to people for Free. I get paid for it, but not nearly as much as I would if I were in private practice during that time.

    I am curious as to how many experienced, educated, Sales Reps, Account Managers, Bankers, Administrators, Accountants , etc. on this forum provide discounted services for people who can't afford them? :)

    Doctors, Lawyers, Teachers are all expected to do things for free (Doctors and Lawyers because people perceive they make too much money--do Financiers do stuff for free, I wonder?) I always find this question about giving away services interesting, because there are plenty of professions where it would almost Never be a consideration.

  • palimpsest
    11 years ago
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    And actually, aren't the educated, experienced designers who frequent this and the kitchen forums already doing this?

    We give people opinions and suggestions all the time for DIYers in here...aren't we doing that?

    At the same time, though, we are reading comments or entire threads essentially criticizing the profession. :)

  • bronwynsmom
    Original Author
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    Every profession is under fire these days, because people feel so free to take shots. The danger of an anonymous thread is that it can lead to a kind of road rage - people saying things they would never say face to face, behaving less civilly than they would in person.

    Which is one of the things I like so much about this forum. Once in a while, we veer dangerously close to what my young nephew calls the "You suck! No, you suck!" mentality of a lot of on-line opinion threads.

    But we always seem to pull ourselves back, we are almost always understanding, and the interesting thing about a thread like this, which does get a little heated, is that it reveals just how frustrated people can become on both sides of the equation when they are not respected, valued, considered, and heard.

    It's actually a very good thing for us in the trade, and for everyone not in the profession but wanting good design, to hear clearly just how badly we both can behave, and where we need to be more responsible and more sensitive.

    I keep remembering the early days of the Carter administration (I lived in the District then), when all these whip-smart people from the Deep South came to town. I thought, great! Now a lot of people who think all Southerners wear baggy overalls, spit tobacco juice, read at a first grade level, and hate everybody who isn't their cousin, will have to change their assumptions.

    They didn't. They just thought all those gracious women and brilliant lawyers were the exception.

    I think we all do it.
    "Designers are snobs and crooks. Present company excepted."
    "Clients are morons who don't have a clue, and want to reset the meter to zero every time they change their minds, except for you, of course."

    It's a deep seated human urge to reinforce what we already think, particularly when our notions are challenged.

    But every scientist knows that the phrase "The exception proves the rule" is, not to put too fine a point on it, horse hockey.

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    Diane Smith at Walter E. Smithe Furniture
    11 years ago
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    I think plenty of designers help in this forum too. At least as much as you can with say, one picture, no idea of who they are, where they live, how they live, what's the budget, what's going on in adjacent rooms....

    pal, your client saying 'yes, it was my idea!' is the ideal outcome for a successful room design IMO.

  • roarah
    11 years ago
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    I have not yet worked with an interior designer because until recently I wanted my home to reflect my creativity but now I have a few areas that so need a professional's eye and help. I have used a landscape designer before and I found that though it was hard to relinquish my control and vision, in the end the design is so far beyond what I could have ever imagined and had I micromanaged every step and choice the outcome would not have been nearly as wonderful.
    I feel that when hiring any professional,be it a lawyer, doctor, designer, plumber or any trade skill, it is up to me, as the client, to step back and let them do their thing. Once you have choosen to hire someone for their special skill, training and talent it is time to accept that they do know more than I and it is time for me to take a second seat and listen and only offer imput when asked.

    To all the pros in the forum, thanks for your interest, time and skills. You are all very generous.

  • lakeaffect
    11 years ago
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    I am always confounded by the professional bashing that goes on in all the THS forums (check out the BAH posts on architects, they make the designer bashing threads look tame). One would think laypeople interested in design and decorating would understand that creating a space is not easy, especially when so many self report going to a designer when they have exhausted their own ideas or patience with themselves. Good design is, IMO (and I have never taken a single design class, so take this FWIW) an amalgam of art, science, need, want, effort, compromise and affordability, all elements that struggle to be combined even moderately well in the best of circumstances. So when someone who is already frustrated with the time, money and effort they have spent trying to do things themselves or with the helpful (?) input of friends and family, it's not surprising they blame the designer, it's easier than looking objectively at the situation and it's much easier to feel that someone else, in this case the designer, has wasted your money. No one likes to blame themselves for financial mistakes like, say, the dozens of paint samples (and more than a few gallons) languishing in her basement, taunting the homeowner regularly.

    I have never used a designer, I arrogantly feel I don't need one because I like my own taste and, oh, yeah, cuz I am far too cheap and controlling to let someone make choices for me. We have, however, used an architect, twice, and while that wasn't cheap, it was valuable, and we came out with a better product for their involvement both times. Our architect made our ideas better and added some great ones of her/his own (we have used two different ones), and we all worked hard at communicating and understanding each others priorities, thoughts and opinions (and by all I mean me, the architect, mr. sandyponder and our kiddo, never assume that any professional can mind read the familial dynamics).

    Interesting discussion and I appreciate all the thoughts.

    sandyponder

  • mary_ruth
    11 years ago
    last modified: 9 years ago

    I like the information on this thread and have shared it with my friends
    REAL eye opener for a reality check! Thanks you all for sharing the information here!

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