Why not let it weather naturally?

I like the 3rd one...greige...

I like the greige too. Hardscape should just be a background. The surrounding plants should be the stars. The greige makes an excellent background for plants.

Is there a door?

There's not really a door, or gate into the courtyard. We made one of the panels removable so we could get things in and out, but it's not accessible from the outside.

I don't like the way cedar ages naturally. It usually discolors near the bottom first and looks really tacky for a long time before the whole things grays, and then it's not a pretty gray, IMO.

That's cedar? I thought it was pine.

I like the third one best, or paint it the same color as either your siding or trim.

Yes, I like the third one the best and the dark brown the least. I don't like naturally aged fences either.

Ok, we're all agreed that the gray stain is best. So how does it look with the posts and shutters in front that are also going to be rough cedar?

Oh, the fence was gray? I thought you said greige. The picture is hard to see it real well with the shadows.

Can the posts be stained the same as the fence?

Greige is just a shade of gray isn't it? The color I picked is Stonehenge Greige, but it looks like a dirty gray to me. Maybe I should say an earthy gray.

I like the greige because I think it sets the brick off really nicely. I don't care for the brown.

I had the builder use a stain which is possibly as close to weathered wood as possible on the fence as well as barn door style garage doors. There's also a pair of French looking shutters(rounded at the top)on a second story small window above the front door in the same stain.

With a sprinkler system as well as rain, the weather color stain is ideal.

Any other wood features on the house should be re-done in the same stain color, whatever color you use.