Food Pity Party
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12 years ago
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Pity party is OVER-I'm a new mom!!!
Comments (6)Four years ago we went to get a female Mini-labradoodle. She was the runt of the litter, apricot in color. She was shy but very smart. My hubby went in the pen and squatted down - over comes one of the siblings - a black male. He "lays" himself over my DH who looks up at me and says, you should always take the one that picks you. Three hours and many dollars later, we signed contracts for both. It was our wedding anniversary so we gave each other a puppy. They are both here by me now. Andi, the female is still smarter (she's on the soft bed). Amos, her bro, is on the floor. They are the best natured dogs - always wanting to please and so loving. They are totally different in some ways - Andi will pull and tug on a toy. Amos has the soft mouth of a lab and will not tug but will retrieve a ball 1000 times a day if you throw it for him. Training two at once was interesting - to say the least but I wouldn't trade them for the world. Good luck with yours. Would love to see pics....See MoreMy pity party ... no other way to describe it.
Comments (10)This is the first time the boys are going without the whole family to visit GM. It really wasn't double UM fee was $100 each so for a few extra $$ I got my own ticket so they wouldn't fly alone ... Mainly because BM is trying to convince everyone that SS11 is bi-polar and has anxiety too. I didn't want there to be any confusion about him so I thought I would go to and save some stress all around. As for what BM is doing to her children ... granted my SC can be stubborn when they want to be and they have lots of sibling rivalry at her home ... it has basically stopped here there is no competition here (IMO) at mom's they have to compete for her attention so it seems the one who can behave the worse gets the most attention. The boys were fighting with each other over the XBOX at her home so after she hollered and screamed at them for 45 minutes she began flailing her arms and hit both of them multiple times. (gee I wonder why they hit each other when they get frustrated) SS11 was pushed out the door with only sweatpants on in 22 degree weather after he threatened to run away so she told to get the f&*( out and stay out. She told the boys your dad has custody of you so if you never come back here I don't give a F^&* ... SD screaming she wanted to come here and BM told her no daddy has no rights to you if I say you can't see him you won't. (mom has sole custody of SD) BM screaming she doesn't even know why she had children if she knew they would turn out like this she would have never had any kids. SS13 was told you're my first born I thought I could love you more than the others I should have never had you. SD during all this had an "anxiety attack" mom told her to take a fu&%ing pill and get over it. They had an I hate you more contest. Screaming at each other who hates who more ... Most of this occurred on a wed night between 8:30PM and 10:30PM. They called here multiple times through the course of the 2 hours. And because hubby will not make waves or even call her and tell her to stop they continued to call .... no action on his part ... even though I was prompting him to go get them, get her on the phone, or call the police he took no action. When they came home this Sunday at 3:30pm from mom's all 3 were in the same clothes they had on friday when left for school... all came in starving I asked didn't you have lunch no mom left early this morning so we didn't get breakfast or lunch she came home and got us to bring us here. I said I know you all are quite capable of making yourselves something to eat they then rambled off how there wasn't any milk or bread nothing easy only oven food ... and they are not allowed to use the oven with out an adult around. We have had DSS involved in our lives since July when mom called because we didn't take SD's anxiety issues seriously and we didn't allow her to contact her mother.... DSS meets with mom bi-weekly because of her parenting skills and we meet monthly with them because hubby has sole custody of the boys. In Aug 2 days before they went to court .... SS11 was flipping out because hubby wouldn't him play xbox so he put him in his room he called his mom 2 hours later (big ordeal) mom came and picked SS11 up and took him to the police station to file an abuse report against hubby because he physically put SS in his room. Then she filed an Ex-parte order saying SS11 was "terrified" of his father and shouldn't have to return home ... judge granted hubby sole custody of SS's. So we asked SS11 if he wanted to file a police report against mom he said no ... I said well why did you against daddy he said mommy said he wouldn't get in trouble and she said he wouldn't be able to hit him anymore ... I said so its ok for mom to hit you but not daddy? he said yeah she's my mom she can hit me. I said no one should be hitting you when they are angry. No bruises but emotional abuse doesn't leave visible wounds. So after I calmed down and talked with hubby again we decided to sit the boys down and told them if you do not want to go there don't ... no one has the right to put their hands on you (but she's our mom she can hit us). Hubby and I decided next time they call here like that he is to send the police there and also head out and pick them up ... if there is any hesitation on his part I will just be his wife I will step back completely from them and uninvest any emotional attachment I have to them ... (this was my decision) I have to save myself before I can save them....See Morepity party
Comments (10)It sounds like DH should go without dinner and be sent to bed too. The more Dh tries to 'defend' this child, the more problems DH ends up causing. Dh is sending so many mixed messages to his son, why can't DH see this? That little smile behind dad's back towards you should be speaking volumes to DH, yet DH seems clueless to how he plays a major role in what is happening. And by running hot and cold with the child, hour to hour, day to day.....I don't suppose you could talk DH into a good parenting class? I think it may help if someone other than you helps 'teach' DH how to deal with the son, when it's coming from you the DH is just turning you into the bad guy. You're the guy trying to raise the boy into a functional well developed child/teen/adult and Dh's the one who turns to mush at the slightly sign of protest from the child. Is dad going to be lurking in the corners all this boy's life to jump out and make the bad guys (school, the boss, the future wife ect) stop picking on the child/man? Frankly, with the dinners, I think I might try compromising just a bit. For example, tonight I'd make dinner, cut the SS's food up at the counter prior to placing it in front of him (yeah, not necessary but one less thing to whine over and one less thing to get attention from dad to do--what the heck is dad thinking spoon feeding an 8 eight old!). Then I'd ignore if child was not eating and pretend to not notice or care, enjoy your meal and chatter with the girls. I'd do a dessert night with nice bowls of ice cream or whatever and serve it up to you, Dh and the girls who have eaten and when SS howls, simply say something about being sorry but kids who don't eat their dinner do not then eat dessert. Then excuse him from the table unless he decides to then start eating (if so he gets the belated dessert even if it takes an hour for him to choke that dinner down). But this would have no chance of sinking in as lesson unless DH grows a backbone and plays along. Daddy is not helping the situation when he turns to mush at the first sign of protest, the smiling child last night should have been like a club over father's head as in a wake-up call. This should not be to DH about defending son and chosing 'blood', this should be about a dad with kids who need parenting and he's failing them. With your DH's statement of defend and blood, I think it clearly shows DH looking for someone to blame for his lack of consistent proper parenting skills....See MoreEric's back (my rather long pity party)
Comments (10)Good luck, sweetie and I hope Eric feels a lot better today. Things are always worse at night, maybe you'll feel less worried and more optimistic today. It sure seems like you have a lot on your plates right now, but you're level-headed and smart and I'm confident you'll get thru this just fine. Smooch Stewie for me!...See MoreBumblebeez SC Zone 7
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